Husband declaring bankcruptsy in divorce

Broken_hearted

boredofbeingathome wrote: »

I find it appalling that someone can post inflammatory comments to the OP, when she is clearly distressed.
Has no one reported this to the abuse team? I will do so now.
Clearly certain posters are not posting in the true spirit of MSE, and everything these boards stand for!

Ok show me where I have sworn threatened or abused anyone.

boredofbeingathome

I said inflammatory, which is also tantemount to abusive. To deliberately provoke someone in a distressed state is abusive.

ohcrap

It is clear that broken hearted is trying to wind everybody up. Trying to upset those who are already down. Why don't you just leave this page? I would appreciate useful comments & not those intended to offend. Thank you

Broken_hearted

As is it clear you missed the point, I found it abusive to be called an a violent ex husband. Just because I'm a strong woman who would never rely on a man. I also don't like posters having swearwords in their usernames and would be grateful if you changed it to something less offensive.
Whilst your situation may seem unfair to you it is all part of the br system which you are either in favour of or not. The best thing for any woman is to maintain the ability to support herself and any children she has. Life doesn't always follow the path you intend it to and at the end of the day the only person who will look out for your best interests is yourself. I don't wish any harm on you nor any real upset just an alternate viewpoint.

dalip

To whoever it may conern:D

I too have been in a marriage where violence was paramount,even to the extent of losing a child.
Nobody but that person knows what hell it can be.
So before we sit in judgement, a saying my mum used to say was "people in glass houses should not throw stones"

Best we remmber that, as one day we may be in ohcrap shoes, an need support,advice and just a shoulder.

All this boils down to the fact that we are outside looking in,nobody and I MEAN NOBODY,knows what hell ohcrap has had to go through.

Now can we get back to supporting real people and stop feeding people who get their kicks from feeding on the vunerable.D

ohcrap

There is nothing wrong with my username... just because yours is boring (broken hearted) & i'm not changing it to conform to you. You have upset a lot of people on here with your alternative viewpoints ... what is the point? If you had read the threads correctly you will see that I fully support myself and my child, I am just afraid that my estranged husbands actions since our separation will affect us, I do not rely on him or will not rely on him. Was that an apology btw?

ohcrap

Thank you dalip. You are right. I have been to hell and back again under the cruel rein of my estranged husband. Glad you know where I am coming from... sorry you had to go through a similar situation. X

MYLITTLESISTERLOLA

Broken_hearted wrote: »

Just because I'm a strong woman who would never rely on a man.

No man, how then did 'she' see herself as broken hearted ???

dalip

ohcrap wrote: »

Thank you dalip. You are right. I have been to hell and back again under the cruel rein of my estranged husband. Glad you know where I am coming from... sorry you had to go through a similar situation. X

No worries, long time ago but you never forget,certainly leaves scars!. I say so often there is more than debt behind bc. Sorry to say this but with 3 kids i tried to stand on my own 2 feet and not rely on a man(like bh broadcasts)thats what got me into debt. I was standy and made sure i gave my kids what they needed and where did it get me? BC 17 years later. Thats why people in galss houses should not throw stones,who knows what will happen today,tomorow,nxt wk.

My heart goes out to you.

Just for BH try being 7mths pregnant and having a drunken 6ft husband have you by the throat on the kitchen floor,with 2 other children trying to get to help you and crying.Nobody to turn to cause you are trying to be selfrelient. Put yourelf in someone elses shoes for a change,its not nice believe me.

Got to go getting emotional,which no doubt bh will pounce on.

ohcrap

Bless you dalip you have been through a lot. I married a man much older than me who was a violent bully also a big man. My husband used to hold up knives to frighten me. I was trapped, scared and under his complete control. I had to obtain court orders to free myself from his rein. There are some nasty people around ... it's a shame we had misfortune of coming across them. X