Need partner to leave please help me & my son

stevie_c_6

hi have you tried contacting your local MP for help? i know its not the same situation but me and my wife were waiting for a council house when she was pregnant nad kept getting fobbed off by the council. i emailed my MP and she got involved within 4 weeks i had a home for my family may be worth a try??

Diamond78

I agree with stevie, your local mp should be able to help or at least give you advice. They can contact the council on behalf of your partner. Councils have made it very difficult to get housed even if there is a medical priority. I had to leae my home which was temporay accomadation due to hate crime and domestic violence and the council I asked for help wouldnt help me. I stayed with my brother in his 1 bed flat with my 6 year old son.It was really cramped plus my brother is epileptic so I didnt want to stress him or put him under pressure.Luckily another council agreed to help and the council paid the deposit for a home for me and my son.Lok on your coucnils websites.See what it says under the housing section, they should have a homeless section to which will tell you who qualifies for it. Your partner will need to go to the homeless unit and you will need to write a letter stating you can no longer live with him ect.He hould also ask his gp to do a supporting letter.The more evidence he has the easier his case will be.

Will you remain a couple still? It would be sad if you didnt but then i understand if you did split up,its very hard living with someone who is depressed. I have depression and I could never live with anyone. Its very hard when someone suffers with depression and its not easy for the depressed person or the ppl that love them.

Merlot

Telephone Mind or Shelter, they will give you advice, the council do not have to rehome him, Intentionally homeless and all that nonsense, (I call it nonsense cause it is, why can't the council help people in genuine need, you've only got to look at a few threads on DFW board, and you see the evidence there)
http://www.mind.org.uk/Mind+in+your+area/

http://england.shelter.org.uk/advice/advice-134.cfm

I suggest you also get your partner to see his GP, or you go and have a chat with the GP.

Merlot.x.

ikkle87

Hi there it's good to hear that your partner has accepted he needs to leave. I just wondered how much help your GP was giving your partneer for his conditions? Aswell as a few other things I suffer from depression and sleep apnoea so I know somewhat what you are going through. If you want to pm me then please feel free to as I used to stop breathing on average 75 times an hour and it was only through putting pressure on my GP that I finally got results and although the sleep apnoea and depression still effect me there was a noticable improvement.

With regards to housing I would imagine he would be given priority or medical priority due to the circumstances or like you said put in a hostel.

verysillyguy06

It is not going to be easy but councils have just not got enough councli houses. In my area even a mother with a disabled child and another yung child fleeing from dv had to wait 2 months...bb it was...they cant magic houses...to be homnest...it would be more more realistic to become either very hard and let him go onto being homeless or....defnitle talk to social care as his medical conditions might push towards help...some charities might help ??? good luck it is not a nice situation....but you got to help yourself and your baby first

verysillyguy06

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Surely as you're the one who's unhappy with the situation and you are healthy and have a job, wouldn't it make far more sense for you to be the one to move out?

WHAT ????????????????????????????????


Get real!!

sdooley

The 28 days thing is the council's way of helping him, if he left in any way that could be seen as voluntary he would be denied all housing support.

Oldernotwiser

verysillyguy06 wrote: »

WHAT ????????????????????????????????


Get real!!

Living up to your name I see.

Loretta

Now we know that the flat is in your name I think your situation may be different. You must think of yourself and your child first above everything.

Do go to your GP, do you share the same one? and explain your situation. Also phone or email Women's Aid and CAB maybe a free half hour advice from a solicitor.

Sometimes if you dither, and I don't mean this in a nasty way, you will be left to get on with all this. Ask your husband to go by a certain day, maybe 7 days, he is not your tenant. Someone will pick him up and help either his GP or the council but really that is not your problem, he is an adult. If you 'keep' asking him to leave no one will take you seriously. You say he is 40 and you are so much younger and he is on IB, someone knows about him and his condition seems to have been going on for a long time, he will know where to get help I expect he know all the places to go, I don't mean to sound nasty but in my experience of life but you could be worrying yourself silly about him but if he was made to leave I am sure you would find that he would soon manage to sort something out for himself.

You must look after yourself, you have a responsibility to your child so you are very important, I would leave social services as a last resort, you could get a good one or an awful one!

verysillyguy06

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Living up to your name I see.

ditto........:eek: