What do I do now?? (v long)

aeuerby

Families can be a nightmare can't they?
I know someone who has "fallen out" with their family after some fairly traumatic times.
The family took exception to them putting their own family first (it's a long story).
All the advice they got was for them to "make up" and be friends so they could all support each other.

It hasn't happened. My friend is much happier now for not having to put up with the abuse that they were getting from their family and happily concentrates of their own children.

My advice is listen to your instincts they are usually right. This "blood is thicker than water" rubbish is usually said by people who don't understand how rifts and arguments that tear families apart feels. It's simply not true.

Whatever your sisters/parents problem is is just that. Their problem. Not yours.
You have a wonderful child and partner that need you more than your sister and mum do.
You have taken steps to receive councelling. Well done, things can only get better from here!

Alex_of_Swansea

Hey Welsh. My sister and I don't get on either, and it's not as though we've broken off contact, it's that so much has happened over the last four years that we are no longer close. We don't call or get in touch unless something tragic happenned. Is this a tack that would likely work? Be polite in her company but not contact her without actually announcing it.. Wean her off the jealousy. This might get your folks off your back and her away from you. Make plans with your mum at least two weeks in advance. It is sad when families fall out, but it happens. Don't feel guilty about it. At her age she'll have enough of a support system of friends.