To Double Barrel Or Not To Double Barrel...

MrsTinks

Well technically you can loose your ex's any time you want You merely have it changed by deed poll or whatever it's called...

paddingtondoo

floss2 wrote: »

I will be very happy to take DF's surname - at last I can lose my ex-husbands!

Me too although DD is a little upset about being the odd one out in our house.

There's no way I can double barrel my surname or I'll sound like a popular series of !!!!!! film if I put his name in the middle :rotfl:

karen_newcastle

It's much harder for a guy to change his name (although this was one option we did consider for a while). He has to do it through deed poll and therefore a solcitor is needed and this is where you incur costs. It's a bit sexist really as a woman doesn't have to pay to change her name after marriage!

Changing your name is a totaly pain in the neck - I've been married 7 months and still haven't got round to changing my name on loads of stuff as they are demanding my original marriage cert and I am loathe to send it as I know it wll get lost.

pinkpig08

I'm having a double barrelled surname but OH is keeping his own. So we will be 'Smith-Brown' and 'Brown'. My mum and dad had 2 girls so there is no-one to carry on our name - hence giving DS a double barrelled surname. So when me and OH are married I'll have the same name as DS. I also like the idea of keeping my own name, I wouldn't want to be totally identified by someone elses surname!

Krystaltips

I'll be M**n-B***e... I think it goes ok and the more I say it the more I get used to it. TBH I wouldn't change it at all but we do plan on more children and he would want them to have his name so double barreling seems to be the only option. DD's father has never been around, he scarpered as soon as I found out I was pregnant so there's no grief with him... Oh and my aunt double barrelled a couple of years ago because her first name sounded awful with her hubby's surname, lots of th's so it gave the effect of spitting on you when she said it... So I'm not the only one in the family...

sunshinejoclaire

oh dear god no I'm not double barrelling.. our surnames are both awful enough to begin with, never mind double barrelling them and using both :rotfl:

if I double barrelled I'd be Humphreys-Willetts :eek: :eek:

I feel no praticular affiliation to my surname, so I'm just taking his as per tradition

LilDevil

Taking this off on a slightly different tangent, so I'm sorry if it may be inappropriate:

OH's ex wife is changing her name back to her maiden name (no problems there!!!), but she's also changing their daughter's name so that she is double barrelled, OH says he's got no probs with that, but I personally think DDs name should not be changed until she is 16 when she is old enough to make the decision herself.

LilDevil

I'll be taking OHs name, then I can legitimately have a 'Hissey' fit :rotfl:

floss2

tine wrote: »

Well technically you can loose your ex's any time you want You merely have it changed by deed poll or whatever it's called...

I could, but we split up in 1999 (just after the life-changing eclipse!) and both DS's were still at school - it was easier to keep the same surname as them. Now they're at uni & not living with me, it would be easier, but too much hassle to do it now that I'm engaged & due to change the name anyway!

Milly1974

Finally deciding not to just lurk on this board!

I think that double-barrel names are becoming more and more normal these days as families become increasingly complicated! I can completely understand how much more simple it must be for school-age children to have the same surname as their parents.

If you are going to DB your name, could your HTB not do the same with his as well? In the end, besides emotional attachment to a name, does it really make much difference?

I am fairly sure, although not 100%, that while I will take DF's name for 'real life' I will probably keep my maiden name for work purposes.

After all, to quote Shakespeare, 'What's in a name?'

M x