To Double Barrel Or Not To Double Barrel...

Krystaltips

I've had my surname a few years now, I also gave it to my daughter seeing as I was the only parent she had at the time.... So I'm a bit loathe to lose it now... Plus my H2B, wonderful as he is.... does not have the greatest surname, and much as I love him... I'm not overly keen on being a Burke...

I want to double barrel my name and also stick a Burke unofficially on the end of my daughters name and any future children we have will be double barrelled too.

Now some people are pretty accepting and understanding of this... and other people think I'm being mean by not soley taking his name...

What do you lot think? (Oh, and him taking my name is not an option apparently... something to do with carrying on the family name,.. or ego... or something...)

Sugarplumfairy_2

I would do the same as you and double barrel as I have a DD who has my surname and wouldn't want her to be different. So at least we would still have partly the same surname.

But only if it goes together well .... if its bl**dy awful then I would probably keep mine

full-time-mum

I briefly considered double barrelling but our names would have been a bit of a mouthful.
However, part of me wishes that we had given the children my surname as an extra middle name - sort of double barrel without the hyphen.
I continued to use my own surname for professional purposes until I left work to have the children - it was a sort of compromise. By choice I would have kept my own name but OH wouldn't entertain the idea.

If his ego/family tradition won't allow him to take your name then why should you take his. Marriage is about compromise and I think that what you are suggesting is perfectly reasonable. (I'm assuming that DDs Dad isn't on the scene in anyway) How does your daughter feel about the addition?

Of course, only you know whether the 2 names sit together well.

prettypennies

My sons have their Dad's surname. I did consider double barrelling at the time, but my name is very long and his very short, so didn't feel it would sound right.

We still haven't got round to tying the knot despite being together 15 years!
I'm not sure what I would do if we did because I am used to my name (and it's better than his!) but do feel sometimes it would be better for the children if we had the same name.

Sorry, not much help really. I would do what you feel most happy with though, you are likely to regret it if you don't

pookienoodle

when considering if you should double barrel your name remember if in the future your daughter were to marry she would not be able to double barrel as it would then be triple barreled.
I considered dbing my name as my maiden name was very beautiful and unusual.
my hubbie has a very common surname but in the end its just a name and you get used to it.

little_miss_messiah

I've got this quandry too - I'm one of 2 girls and the 'last in line' if you like but together our names would be a mouthful 'Webster-Falkingham' if you please!

Considered - dunno if you can do this (I'm guessing by deed poll) to squish em up together to make Webbingham and creating our own family history/future, any thoughts?

tomstickland

Double barelled surnames sound pretty awful in my opinion.
What happens when two people with double barrelled names marry anyway?

karen_newcastle

tomstickland wrote: »

Double barelled surnames sound pretty awful in my opinion.
What happens when two people with double barrelled names marry anyway?

Thisis my opinion too. And you are going to have a different name from your hubby, unless he is going to double-barrel too. How would you address youselves as a couple? Mr Brown and Mrs Smith-Brown?

I changed my daughters surname to mine when her Dad left 15 years ago. When I married my husband last year I gave her a choice, to change to my new name, keep her current name or switch back to the Dads name. I felt at 16 she was old enough to make those decisions.

MrsTinks

Here's a different line of thought for you... My hubby to be is taking MY last name I've always known I'd not give up my name when I married... and OH is ok with that, as he has no alligiance to his family name he decided that he would take mine. This WILL present a few problems as he's built a name for himself in business under his name we might have to double barrel or he might use his current name for work purposes...
How people will address us I have to say doesn't bother me
But as you say your OH won't entertain that idea, which frankly gets my back up a little...
My mum kept my dads last name when she remarried and although a little confusing some times no-one has ever said anything nasty about it and it's a great conversation starter And this was what I was planning on doing till OH said he'd take my name I wouldn't expect him to be willing accept my last name if I wasn't willing to change too but it was his own choice.

k8te

It is a diffulcult one to decide on, my two children have my name as i was a single parent, and after talking it through, he has decided to take our name when we get married, i love my surname, and i dont think i would want to loose it, whereas he isn't bothered about losing his. we thought about the whole double barrel thing, but just decided it was easier for him to just take ours and much cheaper on the cost of passports!! x

floss2

I will be very happy to take DF's surname - at last I can lose my ex-husbands!