Live on £4000 for a year - Part 2

mumzyof2

Iam back and thankyou i will try some of the wahing up liquid I have spent some more money at local shop but that is it for today.
My thanks button isnt working so please dont think i havent read everyones post cause i have

MARRU hope tomorrow brings you a better day tomorrow.

Im off to cook tea and wake DS3 up

Frugaldom

Sympathies to you, Marru. Ex OH's are not the easiest things to fit into your life at any point. Sadly, I cannot even profess that it gets easier when the kids are grown up - my ex hubbie, his new wife and their respective families will all be at DD's party this month and I [STRIKE]need to try and[/STRIKE] must keep my big mouth shut, especially about stuff she probably knows nothing about! :eek: I have never met her (although she did phone me a few years ago to tell me what I could do with my DD, who was supposed to be staying with them whilst she attended college!) and I haven't spoken to him for a couple of years, since our house was sold. Sorry, I tell a lie, I spoke to him when DS wrote off his car, but he didn't really give a d***, so I wrote him off after that. My main worry is the possibility of any sort of confrontation with him after a few drinks. And if he's reading this, then he knows what I'm talking about with regards to our last meeting and he won't want that discussed. :shhh: :rotfl:

mumzyof2

LOL @ and yout last sentence NYK

sophiesmum_2

Marru,
I can so understand exactly where you are coming from with your frustration with ex OH. I have not been able to have one civil conversation with my ex from the minute I left him to today. He has even remarried and still cannot be civil. Eventually I decided he wasn't worth the stress and waste of emotional energy and just cut him off completely, changed my phone number -voila - no more contact. Luckily for me my kids were at an age when they could make their own decisions and make their own arrangements. So he is out of my life completely:D
I don't think DD is celebrating fathers day this year - last year she spent her pocket money buying him a gift and card and planned to take it to him and spend some time with him as a surprise (he hadn't bothered to see her for 6 months at this stage.) anyway she took the pressie and had to catch two buses across town with an hours wait between connections, finally arrived at dad's. He took pressie off her without opening it and said he was going to the pub to watch football with his mates so would have to bring her straight home on his motorbike:mad: :mad: DD was disgusted with him and said he could stick father's day in future.I offered to get her a fathers day card for him recently but she refused, so I think it still hurts:mad:
A bit more awkward situation for you as DD is still so young,will be better if you can both communicate and compromise about stuff involving her but it has to be a two way thing and not just you doing all the running about. I hope you can sort things out between you but as you say he has to do his share of the running about and he has to understand that it is DD he is coming to see and not you, he hasn't grasped yet that the two of you no longer come as a package.Good Luck with it all.

Marru

sophiesmum wrote: »

A bit more awkward situation for you as DD is still so young,will be better if you can both communicate and compromise about stuff involving her but it has to be a two way thing and not just you doing all the running about. I hope you can sort things out between you but as you say he has to do his share of the running about and he has to understand that it is DD he is coming to see and not you, he hasn't grasped yet that the two of you no longer come as a package.Good Luck with it all.

Thanks Sophiesmum - it is nice to have an adoptee virtual Mum :cheesy:

mumzyof2

sophiesmum..Iam in same boat as you near enough. me and childrens dasd went through the court and each time he got access he wouldnt turn up, then he got found of drugs and his gf (my ex best friend) got preg..and he blocked the kids out of his life..so my children will also make that decision when there older but it will b if to find him or not.

MrDT

Hi all, been a very cheap day so far

Had a major lie-in, bottled my home brew cider (and had a good taster too ), and have been up in the attic sorting some more [strike]junk[/strike]treasure to [strike]dump[/strike]sell

Oh, and I finally went shopping last night, so have some food in the house! Spent about £20 on food, and a fair bit on top on booze ready for wakestock I'll update my sig in a minute, but I can tell you all that I've now gone over my 1k for the quarter. I'll claw it back next quarter, I hope!

Now the all important decision - I have people begging me to go out and get drunk... oh you got to let me knooooow, should I stay in, or should I gooooo out!? *ahem* As you can tell, cider tasting went well :rotfl:

mumzyof2

MrDT wrote: »

Hi all, been a very cheap day so far

Had a major lie-in, bottled my home brew cider (and had a good taster too ), and have been up in the attic sorting some more [strike]junk[/strike]treasure to [strike]dump[/strike]sell

Oh, and I finally went shopping last night, so have some food in the house! Spent about £20 on food, and a fair bit on top on booze ready for wakestock I'll update my sig in a minute, but I can tell you all that I've now gone over my 1k for the quarter. I'll claw it back next quarter, I hope!

Now the all important decision - I have people begging me to go out and get drunk... oh you got to let me knooooow, should I stay in, or should I gooooo out!? *ahem* As you can tell, cider tasting went well :rotfl:

OMG that wakestock looks super duper!! :rotfl: Oh and regarding the should you go out or stay in.. I think you should stay in and talk to me, Im sure im much much much MUCH more intresting.. and i can tell you all about Big Brother :rotfl: :rotfl:

MrDT

mumzyof2 wrote: »

OMG that wakestock looks super duper!! :rotfl: Oh and regarding the should you go out or stay in.. I think you should stay in and talk to me, Im sure im much much much MUCH more intresting.. and i can tell you all about Big Brother :rotfl: :rotfl:

Yeah, looking forward to wakestock now, not often we get decent festivals this close to home

Stay in and talk to you, could do... About big brother, now you're driving me to drink I'm gonna avoid big brother right the way through again this year!

I'm gonna sort something to eat then decide what to do, maybe I'll catch you later

Frugaldom

Hi Mr DT, I think you are probably one of the [STRIKE]most[/STRIKE] more sensible [STRIKE]nut jobs[/STRIKE] people I have encountered on forums! :rotfl: You're young, free, single, no debts and saving to buy a house within travel distance of work. Now, in your position, what would I do, given the same invite you've received from your mates...

Hmm... :think:

DOH! IT'S SATURDAY! GO HAVE SOME FUN! (But DON'T taste any more of the cider when you get back home!) And if you need a genuine 'excuse' for going out on the town, umm.... it's the Queen's official Birthday? (Just spotted that in diary :rotfl: )

Sorry Mumzy.