Those with 3 or more kids

snowmaid

rippedoff3 wrote: »

Hi

I have 3 kids, age 10,nearly 8 and 20 months. In a bit of a dilema really, number 3 wasn't planned and so we have a big age gap, i am worried that as my elder two grow up the age gap will really notice and my youngest will feel left out and lonely. Although they don't get on well being a boy and girl and very different they are company for each other i am thinking that we ought to have another for the youngest one ,kind of round things off. However...

DH is not keen, says they are too expensive and wants baby days behind him.Not to mention needing a bigger car! Someone would have to share so if its a boy there would be at least 9 years between them so sharing would be hard for them.

Has anyone else found themselves in this situation, and how did you cope with another, financially i guess its the car, and house if we were to move to a five bed!!! If you did stop at 3, how does the youngest feel?

Would be intesrested in peoples opinions please

Thanks

Shelley;)

I have 3 children, girl of 21, boy 19 and boy of 9 (2nd marriage). Sometimes I feel sorry for the younger as he is in effect an 'only' child. I see how close my older 2 are and think I should have had another as company for my youngest! :rolleyes: That said, the older 2 do pay a lot of attention to him and he is very fond of them.

izoomzoom

I have just had number 3, who is 6 years younger than her brother 6, and another brother 9.

As she is a girl, she will no doubt be into 'another set of toys', so I fear she will be very much an only child. Her brothers adore her, but it is early days still.

I am an only child and swore I would never have just one child, but I have in essence done this, because of DD, but there is no way I would have another.

OH is one of four, and when I met him, all I remember is having to take his blasted little sister out with us all the time. She was nine years younger. :mad:
Anyhow, I have since sworn that I will never make my older children 'responsible' for their younger sister .

Rachie_B

DaisyFlower wrote: »

I personally wouldnt have more children just for the sake that one may feel left out. Its not really a good enough reason to bring a child into the world. Even having two together does not necesarily mean they will get on anyway.

I am an older sister and there are times I did my own thing and times I shared with my younger sister. However we both had our own friends and school buddies so it didnt really matter.

I only have the one DS and that is all we ever planned. I dont feel the need to have another just so he has a playmate. He has cousins and friends at school so he's not lonely but he's also fine in his own company as well.

:T totally agree

alwaysskint96

have 2 girls age 16 and 13 and a 4 year old boy.

People have often said to me about having a playmate for him but TBH its not really necessary. He has been inn day nursery since he was 1 so spends loads of time with his peer group

And in theory my girls should have been able to be friends- in reality they have dislkied each other intensely since they were small and still have a little as possible to do with each other. If Id had a baby as a playmate for my son then i may well have been setting myself up for another decade of hssle and living in a warzone

oneofseven

Hi,
I'm second eldest of seven, eldest 44 this year, youngest 21yrs this year. My eldest niece and youngest brother are having a joint 21st !

Don't worry about having any more kids unless you really want them. We get on fine now and are a good support system for each other. There were five of us quite close together but we didn't get on very well. However youngest 2 got a lot of extra attention from older brothers and sisters so it all worked out fine.

Every family is different, more kids can just mean more people to argue with! But its great fun now when we all get together.

It was fun when niece and brother turned 18 they had a still trendy 24 year old Uncle/brother to go out with.

I don't know if its a comment on how we feel about large families or just a sign of the times but none of us have more than 3 kids ourselves. Although 2 youngest have yet to marry.