Depression Support Thread

gillette147

Tiff,
I think you are wonderful. Not always right, but always wonderful xx
I am a lazy s0d and I have arrsed about today. I am not the hard working perfectionist I sometimes sound.

I don't care if I get 5% in the mock. If I did then I wud do some work.
I can't avoid tomorrow. I have organised a presentation and not only must I be there...but I have to get in 90 mins early. So I have to get up at 5am!!!!
I actually am ill but I can't miss it.

I will just hope the exam is a waffly one and take a tongue lashing if my score is really low.

I have a major family thing going on which is stressing me out hugely. The weekend added this to my plate.

Take care Tiffster
Love ya
xxx

slowlyfading

Tiff wrote: »

Hi sf!:hello:
Are you feeling any better hunnie? I just read your post and you're reaching out for help - well done sweetheart!

Oh wow, now I do feel priviledged! When you respond to a post, it makes me feel really special.

You know you can always post here sweetie - someone always passes through here sooner or later.
Okay, let's see what other practical help there is around sf.
Firstly hun, the first thing to do is make yourself safe, so make sure your wounds are clean and dressed. Put away all the temptations for sh and as ilgd says, grab a cardie (me too ilgd!), or a duvet, and snuggle on the couch with the TV on. This can be a good distraction technique and being wrapped in something soft will feel like you are being hugged, make you feel a bit safer.

I have done, am sat with a blanket and my arms are safely hidden. Feeling a bit sore now, but never mind.

Please also consider calling your gp, or NHS Direct, angel - or visiting their website. I've listed the details below. They do provide crisis mental health services.
NHS Direct
tel: 0845 4647
www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk

Also, for people with eating disorders - male and female - and their families, this is an established charity. I will say to everyone, I'm not a professional and don't endorse anything, so use your own sound judgement.
http://www.b-eat.co.uk/Home

This charity will give you free crisis cards and plan templates so that you can plan ahead for what you want to do if you have a future crisis. It seems like a good idea, especially as when we're in crisis, because we find it hard to make decisions and it's reassuring to know that you can just get your card out to remind yourself of what to do next.
Survivors Speak Out
44 Seldon House, Stewarts Road, London SW8 4DP
tel: 020 622 5738

Thanks for those useful links.

The other point that occurs to me hun, is that you sound like you're under too much stress at work right now and that can be an obvious trigger. Please consider taking some time off work sick. If you ask your gp, I'm sure they'd put something 'regular' down on your sick note as being the cause. This will give you time to back up and regroup angel. And no matter what you say hunnie, they will somehow manage without you! You're a lovely soul and deserve all the help and support you can get. I hope this has helped a little sf - I'm thinking of you. Be kind to yourself angel.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

I'm at uni, in my final term of my final year - there's no time to have time off. My dissertation is due friday, and its just pathetic at the moment, then i have exams looming which i know i'm going to find really difficult. I'm just under a little pressure at the moment, its a bit hectic!
Thanks for replying Tiff, hope you're okay. xxx

wannabe_sybil

I feel absolutely desperate, like I am falling into a black hole. I can't keep going like I am. I asked OH for some space, just to try and clear my head, because I was desperate to die. I got to spend 30 mins in the bath on my own. Why does he keep doing it? Why can't he just let me read a book or spend some time in a different room?

I never have any problems looking after bear. At least if he had a brother or sister he wouldn't be alone, because I don't know how much longer I can carry on. Just on one level, I am going round in a constant state of high tension, and I am eating and drinking without thinking of nutrition but as a coping mechanism because there is nothing else.

I don't want bear to be my carer.

Must go, time for bear's breakfast. It really helps just having a moment to put things down.

ilovegreatdanes

hi,
quik call before i go out.my back keeps playing up:) and dh has bad cough and sore foot so god help us all!!!you know what they are like.....hes soldiering on and barking better than charlie...and a great dane takes some beating when he can be ar*ed to get up cos hes mega laid back:)....think he was a cat in his past life, tiff!!!:)....so i think he could be classed as an honarary feline:D ......
tickets came yesday so at least the diets working.....cos thats a huge weight off my mind:rotfl: ....ok ill leave the jokes to tiff:o
ds took the slips letter to skool today, told him that if he loses it, he will be able to do his sats, iykwim:D
rose.....hi babe.....so glad to hear from you.we are all ok mostly and chars the same old:D ...have managed to get him booked in the kennels he likes.well the owner loves him and gives him the big kennel.she breeds chows so shes loves big dogs and always remembers him even though he misses some years.hows your baby?if shes bird watching then she doesnt seem so bad lately.sorry about the test but im sure you will succeed next time.xx
feelie.....hope you are feeling abit brighter.hope we get let in on the secret lately, we need all the good news we can get our hands on so dont be long fessin up:D
have to get my bot in gear, wash me hair and go to bank to book me travellers cheques and pay more bills:(, hope the weather holds off raining as i enjoy the walk to the next village.....and it saves a skinflint like me from paying the bus fare....no long for the free pass, well feels like i should have it now:rotfl: ......old age and poverty and im only 21:eek: honest.......would i lie;)
all the best, love ilgd xx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope you are all ok,I am fine today I am seeing my Auntie and Uncle this afternoon as they are on holiday we dont see them often as they live in Manchester

I am going to have a nice day today,I won another competition so that was nice to wake up to as I havent been online since last night as I was watching tv and relaxing for a change and It was good


I won a nice sheepskin car seat liner so going to give that to my Dad for his car


*hugs* to those that need one


love and light,

Katie xxx

queensway_boy

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clipboard2

Hello Everybody :wave: and apologies for my absence - Tiff...you noticed!

Perhaps some personal stuff....thankfully I've never suffered depression, but hopefully I can offer support here. OK...my news..

My OH has just completed his PhD degree after being FT student for 4-5 years (a very mature one!....tis never too late folks!).
He has invented a new application which will revolutionise technology, including the internet..He has published papers, and is presenting his work at an international conference in San Diego in August! But he had to wait over 30 years to have his chance to do this. Perseverence! Yep, he's soon to become "Doctor CB2"!...

A few years ago, I realised that I had achieved everything I wanted in this life. All boxes ticked. Everything paid for. My plan was to coast gently towards retirement...

But we never know what life has waiting for us around the corner...

Most of you seem not to have had a loving secure childhood; rather you have suffered abuse of different kinds to differing degrees. You have become ill with depression. You have become the "black sheep" of the family, the "scapegoat", the sick one, the one whose fault it always is, the one to blame.
But the truth is, it is your family who are dysfunctional, and you are carrying the illness/badness/depression on behalf of the rest of your family.
You were not born with depression....

"Wanna adopt me?" someone asked me, practically out of the blue.
Cheeky monkey! But what courage, to approach me like that.
Sometimes, you need to have a substitute experience: to start over....to leave behind the family/parents who have abused you and left you little choice but to become a family black sheep and scapegoat.

So OH and I have opened our hearts and our home to someone who has grown up experiencing little else but pain and abuse from those who should have looked after them. We feel it is right to share our love and emotional security with someone who hasn't any.

Sometimes it takes courage to make that step and ask upfront for the love and support that you need. You can't make things better on your own.

Today, 29/4/08 is my 30th wedding anniversary. We have been blessed with the love and trust of a hurting soul. We shall take good care of them, and watch with pride as they turn their life around...becoming a happy and confident young adult making their own way in the world.
What greater anniversary present could there be than this?

CB2X

meyore

Hi CB2, what an amazing and lovely thing to do for someone. Happy anniversery Xx

slowlyfading

meyore wrote: »

Hi CB2, what an amazing and lovely thing to do for someone. Happy anniversery Xx

I second that xx

clipboard2

Hi again everyone!

Am currently reading this book:
"Scarred" by Sophie Andrews

One of the most harrowing autobiographies of childhood abuse I've ever read...Sophie was groomed for abuse by her "respectable" foster dad...years of SH to try and escape the resultant emotional pain.
But she has come through it, and now wants to help others....who have /are suffering abuse and are SH'ing.

You can send her an email via her website:
www.sophie.andrews.co.uk
You can also hear her speak about her life:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio/linklaunch.shtml?/radio/aod/radio4_aod.shtml?radio4/radio4appeal
Search (box top right) for sophie andrews> click on Radio4 Womens Hour 3rd April 2008.

You do not need to suffer alone...there is help out there.
Take care everyone
CB2X