Depression Support Thread

feelinggood_2

poppycracker wrote: »

ok, thats me alone again.

first my Floss, now my Alex.

What did I do?

Oh Poppy I'm very sorry. Do you want to talk about it? Was Alex a pet or a partner? xxx

poppycracker

feelinggood wrote: »

Oh Poppy I'm very sorry. Do you want to talk about it? Was Alex a pet or a partner? xxx

My OH.

I'm trying to work out what to do now, everything has to be sorted, I've got all his paperwork, been reading all the stuff online about what to do now, can't do most of it because certificate hasn't been issued yet. At least I dont have to sort the funeral, his mums doing that.

I dont know.

Sazbo

poppycracker wrote: »

ok, thats me alone again.

first my Floss, now my Alex.

What did I do?

Oh PC, I'm so sorry to hear this. I know there's nothing I can say will help, but I am keeping you in my thoughts and sending you all the love I can muster. And as feelie says, please talk if you'd like to hun.

Take care of yourself sweetheart. We love you dearly, please remember that.

Saz xxxx

feelinggood_2

poppycracker wrote: »

My OH.

I'm trying to work out what to do now, everything has to be sorted, I've got all his paperwork, been reading all the stuff online about what to do now, can't do most of it because certificate hasn't been issued yet. At least I dont have to sort the funeral, his mums doing that.

I dont know.

Oh Poppy, that is so sad.

I've never lost anyone close to me, so I don't really know anything I can say or do. I wish there were some magical words i could type to make things better for you. I don't know it would help, but the SupportLine website has some information about bereavement, and a list of resources:
http://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/bereavement.php

You asked in your first post "What did I do". Just wanted to say that you didn't do anything. You must be feeling incredible sad, and I think its normal to feel guilt, but I just wanted to point out that in no way was it your fault.

Sending you lots of hugs and best wishes.

feelinggood_2

Sazbo wrote: »

Oh PC, I'm so sorry to hear this. I know there's nothing I can say will help, but I am keeping you in my thoughts and sending you all the love I can muster. And as feelie says, please talk if you'd like to hun.

Take care of yourself sweetheart. We love you dearly, please remember that.

Saz xxxx

Just, I just wanted to echo was Saz said - we do love you dearly, you are such a valuable member of this thread.

If there is anything I can do, just let me know. I've no experience of what you are going through, and don't know if I'm near you, but if there is anything, I'll do my best to help.

x

LadyMorticia

I'm so sorry Poppycracker. We all love you, and we're all here for you. [[[[[[hugs]]]]]]

xx

poppycracker

thankyou for the link feely

went to see my friend yesterday, the one I was on here a few months ago about with the abusive boyfriend. Thought I'd better go and tell her rather than ring her because she was his friend too. Her wee boy worked out what we were crying about and got very upset, but ten minutes later he was bouncing about again. Wish I could do that.

thanks for the hugs and the kind words, I knew I would find support here. My mum is coming over from Lewis this evening. I just wish they'd get the post mortem done so we can get him sorted.

Sazbo

poppycracker wrote: »

thankyou for the link feely

went to see my friend yesterday, the one I was on here a few months ago about with the abusive boyfriend. Thought I'd better go and tell her rather than ring her because she was his friend too. Her wee boy worked out what we were crying about and got very upset, but ten minutes later he was bouncing about again. Wish I could do that.

thanks for the hugs and the kind words, I knew I would find support here. My mum is coming over from Lewis this evening. I just wish they'd get the post mortem done so we can get him sorted.

Poppy, you've been so supportive to all of us here. Only the other day you made time to post on here to wish me a happy birthday - goodness know's how you found the time to do that, amongst everything you must have been going through. But that's the measure of how wonderful you are, pc.

So, we'll be here; it's the least we can do.

Saz xxx

feelinggood_2

poppycracker wrote: »

thankyou for the link feely

went to see my friend yesterday, the one I was on here a few months ago about with the abusive boyfriend. Thought I'd better go and tell her rather than ring her because she was his friend too. Her wee boy worked out what we were crying about and got very upset, but ten minutes later he was bouncing about again. Wish I could do that.

thanks for the hugs and the kind words, I knew I would find support here. My mum is coming over from Lewis this evening. I just wish they'd get the post mortem done so we can get him sorted.

I'm glad your Mum is coming over, I hope it helps to have someone with you.

As I said earlier, sometimes it'd be nice to go back to being a kid and not having to deal with grown-up stuff wouldn't it?

I hope things move quickly and you can get everything you need to sorted.

Remember to take care of yourself during this difficult time - if you need help make sure you ask for it! Try and eat well, get plenty of sleep, have some long, hot soaks in the bath and treat yourself nicely. When I was going though a tough time a while back, my friend told me I should treat myself how I'd treat a daughter - make sure you are kind to yourself and do nice things for yourself.

shazrobo

poppycracker, (((((big hugs))))) so sorry to hear of your sad news, just wanted to let you know how much u are loved, and it was not your fault, take care of yourself, and dont forget to ask for help to get through this difficult time
shaz xxx