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  • Horasio
    Horasio Posts: 6,676 Forumite
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    I agree - it is time to end the marriage

    I am looking on Rightmove and seeing what is out there. This place isn't working and I can't take another 4 months of this.

    I know it isn't very MSE but I cannot go back to live with my mother, she is great to visit but a nightmare to live with. She is very controlling and it is last thing I need now!

    I have never lived alone and the thought of not having so much drama in the home sounds like bliss. I don't want to live near noisy people either!!

    It won't happen overnight but I can't do this any more. Even if I do end up staying until the end of the lease, I WON'T be renting or buying with them again!!!

    Are all men like this, miserable and wanting to bring you down when you are happy? and shouting at you when you feel upset about something?
    An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :o :rotfl: :rotfl: :p :eek::mad: :beer:
    I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
  • LadyMorticia
    LadyMorticia Posts: 19,899 Forumite
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    Ccstar - I'm sorry things are far from good right now. :( I'm not really good at advice but do what is right for you. I hope things get better for you soon

    My ex used to bring me down when I was having a good day, and really lowered my self esteem, so I understand that part. If he treats you like that then he isn't good enough for you. Nobody has any right to treat anyone the way your OH has been treating you hun. ********hugs********
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  • Diamond78
    Diamond78 Posts: 1,443 Forumite
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    CCStar wrote: »
    I agree - it is time to end the marriage

    I am looking on Rightmove and seeing what is out there. This place isn't working and I can't take another 4 months of this.

    I know it isn't very MSE but I cannot go back to live with my mother, she is great to visit but a nightmare to live with. She is very controlling and it is last thing I need now!

    I have never lived alone and the thought of not having so much drama in the home sounds like bliss. I don't want to live near noisy people either!!

    It won't happen overnight but I can't do this any more. Even if I do end up staying until the end of the lease, I WON'T be renting or buying with them again!!!

    Are all men like this, miserable and wanting to bring you down when you are happy? and shouting at you when you feel upset about something?

    Thats very sensible. Stick it out as long as you can till you find somewhere that you can call home. Its not easy going at it alone as you are use to having your OH and son but it will get better and easier in time. It just takes some strength and patience. Maybe you would all get along better.
  • Tulip
    Tulip Posts: 29,324 Forumite
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    LadyMorticia wrote: »
    :rotfl:Are you upto much today? I'm just sorting out my artwork and uploading it to photobox so I can get some prints of it. :) I want to start a mini portfolio, just in case I ever wanted to go into the artistic line of work. :rotfl:

    xx

    Been to parents for lunch,went to co-op for free flake bar from News of the World paper and it was nice :) came home and went to sleep as I was still tired from last night :)

    going to watch tv later :)

    Happy Belated birthday for yesterday Sazzy!!!

    CCstar: sorry I cannot give advice *hugs*


    love and light,

    Katie xxx
  • LadyMorticia
    LadyMorticia Posts: 19,899 Forumite
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    Tulip wrote: »
    Been to parents for lunch,went to co-op for free flake bar from News of the World paper and it was nice :) came home and went to sleep as I was still tired from last night :)

    going to watch tv later :)


    love and light,

    Katie xxx

    Sounds nice. :)

    I just had a bubble bath. :D

    xx
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  • Horasio
    Horasio Posts: 6,676 Forumite
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    Tulip wrote: »
    Been to parents for lunch,went to co-op for free flake bar from News of the World paper and it was nice :) came home and went to sleep as I was still tired from last night :)

    going to watch tv later :)

    Happy Belated birthday for yesterday Sazzy!!!

    CCstar: sorry I cannot give advice *hugs*


    love and light,

    Katie xxx

    Thank you

    Re - the Flake, freebies always taste so much better:D
    An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :o :rotfl: :rotfl: :p :eek::mad: :beer:
    I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
  • Horasio
    Horasio Posts: 6,676 Forumite
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    Diamond78 wrote: »
    Thats very sensible. Stick it out as long as you can till you find somewhere that you can call home. Its not easy going at it alone as you are use to having your OH and son but it will get better and easier in time. It just takes some strength and patience. Maybe you would all get along better.

    Our son lived away from home and is back home just now - he has gone out with his mate, don't know when he will be back - I hope he doesn't involve my mother as she gets fed up with his bad behaviour too but does nothing and gets at me for trying to sort it. So both my mum and OH let him treat us badly but they both treat ME badly when I get upset. Double standards for males around here. I am SICK of it and why do males get away with so much more?

    I feel so alone and attacked all the time, whether I feel good or not. I am made to feel wrong all the time.

    I am distrusting of people due to my family life which is why I can get upset easily. I need a decent friend, one who won't deflate me when I feel good or get horrible when I feel low.
    An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :o :rotfl: :rotfl: :p :eek::mad: :beer:
    I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
  • Diamond78
    Diamond78 Posts: 1,443 Forumite
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    CCStar wrote: »
    Our son lived away from home and is back home just now - he has gone out with his mate, don't know when he will be back - I hope he doesn't involve my mother as she gets fed up with his bad behaviour too but does nothing and gets at me for trying to sort it. So both my mum and OH let him treat us badly but they both treat ME badly when I get upset. Double standards for males around here. I am SICK of it and why do males get away with so much more?

    I feel so alone and attacked all the time, whether I feel good or not. I am made to feel wrong all the time.

    I am distrusting of people due to my family life which is why I can get upset easily. I need a decent friend, one who won't deflate me when I feel good or get horrible when I feel low.

    You have no proper ME TIME thats why you are so hard on yourself. Do you drive?If you do then thats a bonus.You can just get in your car and go for a drive, away from everyone and everything. No one will ever completly and fully understand what we go through. Your mum and OH should be supportive with you but clearly it is like they are ignoring your needs.
    It is only natural for you to be untrusting of people. In a way that is good as you are protecting yourself. I to am very untrusting of ppl due to lots of things as I dont want to get close to any one or let them in as they would never understand what I am going through or how I feel. Its not easy being cheerful when your not cheerful.And when someone doesnt understand how you feel and isnt supportive, that person really shouldnt be in your life as sometimes they can bring you down. I have been hurt a lot in the past and used by so called friends. I have learnt the hard way.The hell they put me through and my son, I will never forget. I trusted them and let them in our lives and they tried to destroy that. I dont think I could ever trust someone again.Its sad coz I know not everyone is evil and there are lots of nice, caring decent and understanding ppl about but its just finding them. Maybe you can pursue a hobby that you have wanted to do for a while and that way you can make friends with ppl you share an interest in.
    I will be back in a bit, just got to get littlemans bath ready lol.
  • Horasio
    Horasio Posts: 6,676 Forumite
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    I can drive and have access to a car but today I feel too ill to go out. My leg really hurts too and I feel sick.
    An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :o :rotfl: :rotfl: :p :eek::mad: :beer:
    I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
  • rose07
    rose07 Posts: 2,442 Forumite
    CCStar sorry to hear your having such a bad day

    What part of the country are you in?, is there easy access to places? Maybe you could go for a walk.

    It sounds to me like your oh is using you as a way out, he is putting his emotional and mental problems on to you, and because your such a lovely person, you soak them up, sometimes when something is hurting us soo much, we have to leave, just say goodbye, but i agree with diamonds you shouldn have to leave, it should be your oh. if i have been reading your story right you have just moved, and i think it should be a fresh start for you, it sounds as tho you are in a relationship which is damaging to yourself, and its not your fault hun, there are twoo of you in the relationship.

    Your ds will always love you, he is your son.

    You need to think about what CCStar needs, what she wants.

    HTH hun

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    take care
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