Any old style 'stay at home' mums on here?

Jack's_mummy

I am really lucky in that we can afford for me to be a SAHM. My husband works away at sea and so it would be really hard to find a job that was only for the time DS (3) is at playschool. I refuse to put him in full time nursery, he'll be at school soon enough.

I found my brain starting to turn to mush so now I volunteer in a local charity shop for one morning a week. It's got me back into the work mindset but I can take school holidays off with no problems. And I get adult conversation too!

I hope that when he is older DS will thank me for being here for him. Well I can hope!

outrageous_monkey

Hi

I'm a SAHM. I have 2 kids. when I got pregnant with DS2, I knew I wouldnt be going back to work again till he started full time at school.

For me, its been great being able to go to all school events and even the trips too. If one of the children are sick I can go straight up to school to collect them. DS1 is autistic so I spend a fair bit of time going from one meeting to another or preparing for meetings. Plus we moved to a completely new town which took time for us to readjust.

The positives within the house are, its relatively tidy, as tidy as it can be with having kids, the meals are all cooked from scratch, before I go shopping I can look on MSE to find out where the best bargains are and the best bit, I havent missed any of the childrens milestones. The only downside is, where we live all the other families with children work, so in the school holidays there arent any children to play out with.

Cornishpixie_2

Hi, I am a new SAHM. I worked as a nurse, working shifts supposed to be part time, but always expected to have everything done in time. The NHS Trust I worked for have just gone private. I have met with ex work mates who think everything is great at mo. but they see what they want to see. They often say oh you should have stayed everything is easy now?!! But I have no regrets have 4 children, struggling for money till new tax year hopefuly. But I have a lot more time and energy for the kids. I go running, and meet up with friends weekly. (youngest gets 15 hrs free nursery placement). Also 8 yr old was having behavioural difficulties but I find he needs consistancy, which I wasn't always on the ball with. Good luck. Don't worry you will soon adjust.:rotfl:

thriftlady_2

I'm ashamed to admit it, but I have only been in paid employment for 4 years of my entire life:o I was a primary school teacher. I hated it -not all of it, but I hated actually having to go to work (as many do). As soon as I became pregnant with my eldest (now 12) I gave up work. I have never, ever regretted it. I love being a housewife and am thankful every day that my OH's salary allows me to do what I was born to do.

My mum feels I have wasted my degree and 'opportunities' whatever they are. She says she wishes she had the chance to go to university -I don't know what was stopping her, she started an OU degree years ago but gave up:rolleyes: I don't know why people always think going to university is so wonderful and teaching is certainly not all it's cracked up to be especially these days -oops I'm sounding a little defensive aren't I ?

I have no intention of going back to work -I wasn't very good at it and I am good at running a house. To stop my brain turing to mush I started a French course last September which I am absolutely loving and will continue as far as I can. The classes are once a week in the middle of the day so they don't interfere with the school run. I'd like to be fluent and I'd also like to try another language too.

So now I can say 'je suis femme au foyer' I am a housewife

studentgirl_2

I would love to be a stay at home mum. I have to boys 7 & 13 but im a full time nursing student and the course is major full time with shift work included.

When im off which is more often when the kids are still at school I love being a sthm.
I love that they have a me to take them to school, a tidy home, a homecooked meal, no rush in eating because its on the table at 5 not 6.30. I love the that Im not so wacked to enjoy them hear about there day, play games read to them. I get time in the day to do things I want to do for me; and me only.

When im at uni im a mooo im so tired all the time there is always homework for me to do in the evenings. the house is a tip and I just dont have the time with my kids that I want.

well after reading this not sure if im doing the right thing with uni. :rotfl:

~daisy~_2

when my first child was born - 12 years ago i gave up work to stay at home
by the time my second was 4 i was bored stupid and had the beginnings of depression so took the first job i could find - working in a chippy at lunchtimes - by the time i paid for my childcare i had a fiver left over but it did what i needed it too - got me out of the house
i left that after about 18 months - by which time both children were in FT school and i stayed at home but i was bored stupid - yes i liked having a sparkling home with well stocked cupboards and home cooked meals but mentally i was going mad

finally i went back to college FT 3 years ago and i now work as a part time gym instructor and massage therapist and i love it !! and still manage to have the sparkly organised home with proper meals - but i like routine and order so it all works for me

maypole

kippers wrote: »

Hi all

I work 15 hours at my DD's school during term term and school hours only which sounds perfect...but i absolutely hate it! I like the work but i really don't like my boss and there is only me and him in the office (and i don't see anyone else all day) .

The job is really hard work and i don't stop from the minute i get there to the minute i leave. It is constantly on my mind and mentally draining. I have thurs, fri, sat and sun off, but i am now snapping at everyone during these days and i'm always grumpy. I have worked there for four years now and it's getting worse.

Anyway, me and my DH have decided i can give up work very soon and finally become the O/S housewife i've always wanted to be (i did have a career break until my youngest went full time at school).

Are any of you Old Style housewifes (with children that are school age)?..and do you love it and what are the advantages/disadvantages?

Do you think your family is happier because you are there for them and how do you cope money wise? Do you get people passing comments that you are lazy and how do you cope with this?

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I never worked while my children were small and only when they were about 11 or 12 did I do part time, but I liked to be home when they came in from school. If you can cope financially and want to give up work, I would recommend it.

I gave up part time work a few years ago, my children are left home now and I did feel a bit guilty being fairly young and not working when most of the people I knew worked. Luckily my husband earned enough for me to do this.

When ever anyone asked me if I worked, I felt that I always had to have a reason for not working. Now I don't say anything, I just love being at home and I don't see why I should have to justify it.

Bexstars

I feel incredably lucky to be able to stay home with my daughter and am loving every minute! I worked in a really stressful office and we had it all planned that I would give up work to be a full time mummy and its worked out brilliant! My daughter has just turned 2 and our second baby is due in august and im planning to stay home at least they both are in school

angchris

i am a sahm, i love it! since giving up my job 15 months ago all my daily stress has gone. i can honestly say that the part time wages that i have lost i have more than made up for that in my grocery budget as i have more time to cook homemade food so we have just about come out even moneywise in this household. its nice to be here when my lad comes in from school and my oh works such funny hours that sometimes we wouldn`t see each other for days, now i can see him whenever he comes home :j

niklepic

I'm a full time working OS mum - that's a mouthful!

I long to be a SAHM but even with going OS we still can't afford it.

That's all about to change though as we're going to sell our house with the extortionate mortgage and i'm going to become a OS childminder. Can't wait!!!