Advice please

louise540056

I don't think how you are feeling is unreasonable at all- I would be so angry if my best friend did this! She would have known it would upset you- and if it is "just sex", then that is even worse, as she has obviously thought it is worth risking your friendship for!

savvysass

louise540056 wrote: »

I don't think how you are feeling is unreasonable at all- I would be so angry if my best friend did this! She would have known it would upset you- and if it is "just sex", then that is even worse, as she has obviously thought it is worth risking your friendship for!

She has already lost one friend before xmas cos she slept with her ex husband and now this, I def have to keep her at arms length now, she is not the person I thought she was

miserly_mum

savvysass wrote: »

She has already lost one friend before xmas cos she slept with her ex husband and now this, I def have to keep her at arms length now, she is not the person I thought she was

Sleeping around after your marriage ends is never a good idea.Especially with friends ex's as this is the time we normally need our friends most.

She's probably loving all the attention from these different men but they'll drop her once they've got what they want off her.Then she'll regret losing good friends.

Meanwhile you are in a happy stable relationship with your partner and all the bad times with your ex are well behind you.

savvysass

miserly_mum wrote: »

Sleeping around after your marriage ends is never a good idea.Especially with friends ex's as this is the time we normally need our friends most.

She's probably loving all the attention from these different men but they'll drop her once they've got what they want off her.Then she'll regret losing good friends.

Meanwhile you are in a happy stable relationship with your partner and all the bad times with your ex are well behind you.

Your right, I love my current partner to bits, he is the total opposite of the ex, thanks for your words of wisdom everyone, they are welcome to each other and deserve each other!

outrageous_monkey

Oooh not nice.........I wouldnt like it. Like other posters have said, I cant see the friendship going much further.

One of my husbands friends started dating the ex of another friend IYSWIM.....these 2 fellas hardly talk now and all social group outings have stopped between the 2 of them.

I thought it was one of those unwritten rules where friends dont do each others ex's, no matter how long they have been split up??

Keeping_Motivated

I also think its one of them unwritten rules that you don't go near your friends exs but I think its even worse if its just a quick fling or attention seeking... How selfish is that! I mean if they had genuinely fallen in love it would be hard still but at least they risked your friendship for something real IYSWIM...

Stephb1986_2

i can see where your coming from i'd be pretty !!!!ed if my mate got with one of my ex's she must know what he's like from you telling her about him so more fool her and she's just having your sloppy seconds hun so dont worry about it be more bothered about your own relationship with your OH and forget about your mate being a fool. she'll soon come running back

Steph xxx

savvysass

thanks to you all for taking the time to reply, it has cheered me up a bit, I really believe it will be the end of our friendship, I cant trust her now and like I said before she isnt the person I thought she was x

*Louise*

It's a shame you are losing a friend - but real friends know not to go near their best friends ex.

It may be an unwritten rule...but it's still a rule!!

Be glad you are happy with your OH and try and put them out of your mind.

bloomin_freezing

You're not in the wrong, in my eyes anyway. As others have said, me and my girlfriends have an unwritten rule that you just don't go where your friends 'have been'. She sounds like a hussy (polite way of putting it), i'd not be able to be her friend anymore. Keep your distance from her, if she's done it to another friend she clearly has no morals and doesn't value friendships. If all she cares about is an easy lay then she's not worth your time. Does she size up all her friends men?? Only one word for women like her, but if I put it here, my post would get wiped!!