Son and Work

Batty_3

UPDATE:

I told my son and he promptly went on line to try and prove me wrong!

*Bangs Head*

However we have had it confirmed that I earn too much for him to get EMA, but he's found out IF I get made redundant this year, he will then qualify as I wont be earning. However I've told him that this will be rent money unless he needs it for books etc. I will bank what I can for him.

All we have to do now is find somewhere for him, he's missed 2 years school now and I dont think he can take Further Education unless he's passed a couple of GCSEs and I don't think they pay EMA for that level? I'll have to look into this more.

and yes I AM ashamed of him, hence me threatening to chuck him out. I threw his father out after 20 years of keeping him and I'm not about to do the same thing. Tough but hey the world doesn't owe him a living! I wish the ex didn't keep winding him up and telling him how easy it is to live off benefits!

Anyway thanks for everyones help. Fingers crossed for me guys.....

Batty_3

ohreally wrote: »

Not wishing to get into the politics or start a social debate, the benefits system was introduced as a safety net for those in need not as a lifestyle choice....learned behaviour seems to be screaming out from your post. Your son sounds as though he needs strong encouragement and guidance (boot up the @rse) to remain in education and focus his attention on improving his prospects both in the short and longer term. Impress upon him that simply leaving school is not an option. Either he remains at school, goes to college or finds remunerated work.

I like the boot up the @!!!! :rotfl: if only he wasn't bigger than me I'd do it more....

autismmum

you dont need gcse for further ed and ema. my son came from special school and went into special needs course, still got his ema

ohreally

Batty wrote: »

UPDATE:


However we have had it confirmed that I earn too much for him to get EMA, .

Do you realise the upper earnings cut off for EMA is over £30,810?

Oldernotwiser

Perhaps worth pointing out that OP's first post started by saying something like "as soon as I left school I went straight on the dole" and both s/he and son seem most concerned about the fact that a 16 year old isn't eligible for benefits. (Why has he missed 2 years of school?)

groovychick2007

when my son left school at 16 he had a job to go into as an undertaker..he worked for them during the big school holidays but that was it... as soon as the september came they didnt want to know started being funny with him having a go at him for sitting down and having his dinner at 3pm in the afternoon he had been at work since 4am that morning as he had a call out and had decided time he got back home would be time go back work... we later found out it was because they could get another school lad to do the job for peanuts where they woul have to pay him the going rate..Now when he had left the job he lay in bed till god knows what time i told him to get off his @r@e and look for a job or he was out, there was no way i could afford to look after him as i was on benefits too, due to caring for my o/h. and we were told he wasnt entitled to nothing by CAB .. 3 weeks later i had a social worker on my door saying my son had been to them because i kicked him out.. That was last straw and he hasnt lived with me since


Put ya foot down and tell him straight

DaisyFlower

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Perhaps worth pointing out that OP's first post started by saying something like "as soon as I left school I went straight on the dole" and both s/he and son seem most concerned about the fact that a 16 year old isn't eligible for benefits. (Why has he missed 2 years of school?)

Noticed that too, the fact he hasnt been to school is 2 years is worrying too.

kr15snw

When I (and my brother) didnt want to return to school after GCSE's we were told look for a job or get out. You pay rent if your not in education, no rent no home! We were given the time limit of a month. I was lucky and got a full time job at my part time job straight away. My brother wasnt as lucky but as he was trying (applying to everything) my parents were happy for him to stay rent free.

He got a job after a few months were as I went back to college the next year as didnt like emplyoment (well not the kind I could only get with GCSE's).

Put your foot down. No job = no rent = no home

If he doesnt get it, stop doing his washing, ironing and stop feeding him. This includes no bedsheets / clothes / anyhting! Hell soon get it!!

looby-loo_2

Isn't it sad when they think they have the option not to continue work or school? At the school where I teach there are 336 students in Yr11, only one is expected to leave, to work with his uncle, ALL the others have a place at college. This is quite normal - and I'm talking inner city comprehensive.

From Yr7 it is 'What will you study at college?' not 'What will you do when you leave school?'. It seems to work - they know no different.

Has your son been offered E2E training? I would also contact Connexions quickly too.

chuckley

back up back up back up...

you left school and went straight on the dole??
your son hasnt been to school for 2 years?? erm... why?
your son wants to go on the dole??
your son is not/doesnt want to take his exams??
your son doesnt want a job??

why is this child lacking so much ambition?