Weekly Flylady Thread 10th March 2008

maralum

Hi all,

I'm back again after an awful few weeks. Will explain the whole situation when I have some serious time (it's a whopper). The house is a sty, the baby's ill and I'm just knackered.

Ok, I have ten minutes, so I'll give you a brief outline. Right, I left off with my ex (DSs dad) trying to commit suicide. It turns out that he did this because he's been dealing drugs, as if that weren't bad enough...he was shoving them up his nose instead of selling them. Hence, some very angry drug dealers were after him to collect their pound of flesh.

However, clever little drug dealers checked the council list and discovered his name linked to my address and started asking questions around town about DS and I. Unsurprisingly, I am not very happy about this. That pig hasn't lived here in four years and yet he's still bringing danger to my doorstep.

Luckily for us, his parents took out a loan and paid off the debt to keep him (and us) safe. I feel so sorry for them, they never in a million years thought that something like this would happen to them.

I've been looking over my shoulder for so long, I just can't seem to stop. I'm absolutely shattered with the effort of being on my guard all of the time. Now I just want to move house, pull DS out of his school and keep our address a secret.

I've told the ex that he can't see DS until he's clean, sober and has started washing again (he literally looks and smells like a tramp). He'll also only be allowed visitation if it takes place at his mum's house, with her present. If he leaves her home, I'll call the police and have him charged with kidnapping. I just can't take the risk of these bad people seeing him on the street with DS and giving him a good hiding in front of my son.

Well, there's lots more to that story, but I don't have the energy right now. I hope you're all ok. Take care, I'll check in again soon.

Mrs_Pepperpot_2

Finally admitted I need help - is it o.k. to join?

With Ds1 at 20 months and 20 weeks pregnant I am now no longer in control of my house.

In an attempt to take back control and live somewhere that looks like a house rather than a bomb site I am going to try and be a level oner!

Here's hoping!

AnW'sMum

Oh Maralum I don't know what to say, have a HUGE HUG from me.

You must be on tenterhooks all the time and that is not good for you or anyone else.

Also sorry to hear DD is poorly, hope it;s nothing too serious. Sounds like you need some serious chill out time.

embb

OMG maralum! what an awful time for you ((((((((hugs))))))) I wouldn't let him near the kids for love nor money- regardless, how dare he give you all this worry and hassle. x

Welcome Mrs pepperpot :hello:

gunsandbanjos

((( Maralum))) What an awful situation for you, hope you find some peace soon.

Welcome Mrs_Pepperpot, the more the merrier round here;)

aimeelister

Hello everyone.

Just thought i would finally catch up with you all. I havent been around for ages with work being mad, and coming home and just wanting to sleep. But my house hasnt suffered much due to the ease of maintaining the standard achieved thanks to here.

right so the catching up....

Hello :wave: to all the newbies. Mad bunch here, I mean where else would you get dog biscuits for good behavior?
Michelle - hope the bump and you are OK and Charlie gets better soon
Lil_me - are you on the next assignment yet?
pigpen - really jealous that you got to go to Crufts. Lil_me and I were on line chatting as they were announcing best in show.
JillD - hope you have recovered from yesterdays drama.
AnW'smum - Huge hugs to you. Was thinking about you loads in the previous weeks. Hope the ILs wasnt too bad!
Nikki - I have visions of you in a red coat charging down the high st to the job centre all determined and powerfull! Dont ask where that came from, but woooohoooo keep going!
Mudbath - Improvise adapt and overcome. Remember it takes 43 muscles to frown, 17 to smile and 4 to reach out and punch the s0d. and with a plaster cast it will do more dammage!!!
tracy - hug
soappie - Buster??? I must have missed something as it must have something to do with ORF
hello to everyone else out there
Anyone heard anything from Rach recently?

Edit: Maralum: you snuck in while i posted. OMG, have a huge hug.

My To Do list:
Hoover downstairs and mop kitchen and bathroom
Hoover upstairs after my cats mad fit there is fluff in clumps everywhere
Make the bed
HHI - the BF left his iorning and washing :rolleyes: so i will generously do a few shirts of his (well maybe 1, so he has one to wear tomorrow and wont wake me up early so he has time to iron one!)

Right back to work. I should really write the lecture im giving in a few hours

Axxx

nicki_2

Quick post as I have to be out the door in a 10 minutes and I need to start getting DD sorted. She's still ill and now complaining of earache so we've got an appointment at the doctors at 10.40 - but we'll be walking :eek: and the storm is here ATM :eek::eek: Only other way would be by bus or taxi, neither of which are exactly reliable at this time of the day and I'd rather not be standing around waiting when we could be walking there. Last time I tried to get a bus or taxi we were late for our appointment! Oh and then there's the cost £2 minimum just on the bus! Not exactly the best day for this to happen, but I want her better as soon as possible as we're supposed to be meeting up with friends for the first time on Saturday for an "adventure" :rolleyes: So we're setting off earlier than usual as I have a horrible feeling we'll be walking INTO the wind. I'm cold and tired and haven't even made it out the frontdoor yet, I'm just hoping the rain holds off until we get to the doctors. Will keep my eye out for a couple of bricks to put in our pockets :rotfl::rotfl: Will catch up properly later when I get back :wave:

pigpen

Aimee.. Gosh you should have and only went so DD2 could go as my mother owuldn't take her on her own.. though the best in show was good..The heelwork was brilliant, I have video'd some of that. The friends for life thing was lovely.. the girl who won was absolutely sobbing her little heart out bless her. My daughter patted the winner and the reserve.. and the lady who owned the Samoyed said my daughters dog (we had bought a stuffed one) was lovely!! lol. That absolutely made her weekend.. I was a bit miffed that as soon as the best in show was annunced people started leaving without waiting for the presentation.. I found that incredibly rude!!! Especially for those who wanted to watch it but couldn't see due to the ignorant people standing in front of them!

Maralum.. I'd move house (and possibly town) and not tell any of his family where we had gone.. regardless of any relationship with any of his other family members. There is no way I'd be taking that kind of risk with my child.. I think you are very brave staying there.. many of these people must know you still live there!! Stay safe and big hugs xx

MY hips are killing today.. closely followed by the immense pain in my knees!! Off to take some drugs and I'm back on the scrubber bus!

I need breakfast too so anyone up for a 10-10:30am HHC??????????

pigpen

(post 5300!!)

Dailies for Wednesday!!

[strike]DW[/strike]
[strike]WM[/strike] bed sheets in already..
[strike]TD[/strike]
[strike]Hang out, fold and put away laundry.. [/strike]too windy to hang anything out so the sheets are in the TD
Vacuum stairs
Clear landing of detritus
BM
[strike]Parcel up and post 5 ebay parcels[/strike].. 3 are parcelled..

Mad Monday - Master Bedroom & Landing
Level 1
[strike]Remove and wash bed linen and duvet covers.[/strike]
Level 2
replace with fresh linen..
[strike]Air the duvet[/strike]
15 minutes floordrobe clearance
Level 3
Vacuum floors in bedroom and on landing
Sort 10 things from a wardrobe that you can get rid of
Clear a hotspot.. or spend 15 minutes clearing one.
Extra tasks list

• Clean all the upstairs door frames
• Clean windows in these rooms
• Clear the top of a bedside cupboard/chest of drawers or shelf

Twinkling Wednesday- Living Room, Hall and Stairs
Level 1
[strike]Vacuum floors and sofas[/strike]
Level 2
[strike]Dusting, [/strike]
[strike]Remove clutter[/strike]
[strike]Clean out the fire.. [/strike]
Level 3
[strike]Wipe light switches, sockets and banister[/strike]
Wipe the bits on the stairs that need wiping.
Tidy shoes, coats and bags ..
[strike]Vacuum under furniture you can manage to move without hurting yourself[/strike]
Extra Mission:

• Paperwork clearance.. spend 15 minutes minimum sorting through those piles of paper.. or box it up to sort through later!!
• Clean windows
• Clean a radiator or two.
• [strike]Binbag dance.. Get a binbag.. fill it and bin it!!![/strike]

likklegibbon

I'm in for a HHC at 1000 - have got to get a load of stuff done today as spent most of yesterday playing CSI and various other games on the computer *hangs head in shame*

Better sling some brekkie down my neck if I want to start on time