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  • msmicawber
    msmicawber Posts: 1,962 Forumite
    Debt-free and Proud!
    You're not alone, headoutthesand. Years ago I refused to go and plead yet again with the bank over extending our overdraft to meet the DDs they'd just bounced and insisted my OH went since he wouldn't get involved in the finances, but spent willy nilly. I thought it would get him to understand our situation. He arrived 20 mins early for the meeting, so went shopping and spend the £80 quid that was all we had left for the month for food on a few bargains of shoes and clothes for himself. I wish he'd bought golf clubs as I'd have found them easier to insert...
    Debt at highest: £6,290.72 (14.2.1999)
    Debt free success date: 14.8.2006 :j
  • Bunnyinthelights
    Bunnyinthelights Posts: 15,278 Forumite
    I do sympathise-
    I have quarterly arguments with my OH regarding debt-it's like clockwork...
    I am fed up to the gills...
    Empty pockets never held anyone back, only empty heads and empty hearts can do that -Peale
  • tealady
    tealady Posts: 3,851 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 1,000 Posts Name Dropper Mortgage-free Glee!
    If he is behaving like a teenager then treat him like one. Take his wages off him (and his cards) give him a monthly allowance and tell him "when it's gone it's gone". If he gets more cards and spends on them then he sorts it.
    Or try throwing him out for a few weeks and see how he manages to live on his wages and pay all the bills.
    Tough love it is but whats the alternative?
    Find out who you are and do that on purpose (thanks to Owain Wyn Jones quoting Dolly Parton)
  • Bismarck
    Bismarck Posts: 2,598 Forumite
    Sorry, I've not kept up but your OH needs to find a new cheaper pastime....it looks like it's either the golf or you - staying in that "social set" is ridiculously expensive - just buying a round of drinks would make me choke but you have a do it without a care in the world as though the money was free and easy....which it's not....
    For what I've done...I start again...And whatever pain may come ...Today this ends... I'm forgiving what I've done -AF since June 2007
  • bathgatebuyer
    bathgatebuyer Posts: 2,522 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    (minus the whole graph thing Bathgatebuyer - that just seem like hard work and with a husband like this I don't need any more hard work)

    You can tell I work with numbers, eh?!

    Both write a list of essentials that you each buy in blue pen, then on non-essentials in red pen. I guess his will be full of red.

    Again, I have a slight OCD-like compulsion for graphs and colours!
    Almost debt-free, but certainly even with the Banks!
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