Not many men on here are there?

kel123_2

Unsure about Merlot

Sometimes a man then again some times a women

age group sometimes 70's then again sometimes 50's

Then somewhere I have read that he/she has kids?

Like the name, like the grape especially from the Catalunya/Tuscany regions with pate fargra and a nice goats chease on nice fresh crusty bread ummmm

Husky1983

I'm a 24 year old lad but there are definitley more women here compared to other forums I visit.
:beer:

dhassen

ok ok so there are quite a few blokes then......

and kel well im not married yet.........................yet :O

jinky67

i think the reason there are more ladies than gents, is because we ladies like to talk about these things.
Whereas men,by their very nature seem unable (in many cases) to admit or want to talk about their problems.
Especially not to ladies.
Is it a pride thing?

LuciferTDark

Pride? rubbish!!! Men can manage their finances better because the numbers get all jumbled up when they enter womens heads & have to contend with knitting patterns & bingo.







I'm so going to die for this one

jinky67

LuciferTDark wrote: »

Pride? rubbish!!! Men can manage their finances better because the numbers get all jumbled up when they enter womens heads & have to contend with knitting patterns & bingo.







I'm so going to die for this one

Oh you certainly are:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
and less of the bingo please:p
I think I should have been a man I dont have the bingo gene:D

Conrad

kel123 wrote: »

Hi Conrad

Have you never heard of PIN - positive interesting negative

if you hit a negative head on 99% of the time you get zero responce with none of your message even heard let alone understood. Try working it out yourself, I'm not a sympathy person iether, i'm an empathy person but I still were posible follow PIN

Sometimes just talking helps and if it help some one to say hugs and kisses then so be it

Kel

Simon Cowell tells people probably for the first time in thier life that they have'nt got it, yet all thier life they would have heard the opposite from well meaning family and freinds.

The parallel with this forum is clear; People give each other super positive messages but tend not to address underlying issues. This gives the debtor a false sense of direction.

As a bloke I like to be told the truth, albeit in a polite wrapping. Just showering people with hugs and messages of support is'nt going to address thier real long term needs.

Many on hear I think have allowed themselves to be swept along with Kerry Catona / designer image / bling bling shallowness / WHAGS consumerism which causes them, to overspend on trainers, mags, gagets and so on.

What I would like to see on here are much more meaningful mature discussions on the true underlying reasons people get into debt, as this might help them change thier reality tunnels.

EXAMPLE;
I I said I was in bad debt due to losing my job and my car breaking down I would get this kind of response on here;
"Feel for ya babes, xxxx, big hugs, it can happen to anyone"

This might cause my brain receptors to flush with warmth but it doesnt help me. The message I would be getting wouldnt help me avoid the same fate in a years time.

The helpful messga ecould be- "ok bad luck with the accident, but if you had saved 10% of your income since leaving school you would have then easily been able to weather the storm when the INEVITABLE bad times caome along"

jinky67

Conrad wrote: »

Simon Cowell tells people probably for the first time in thier life that they have'nt got it, yet all thier life they would have heard the opposite from well meaning family and freinds.

The parallel with this forum is clear; People give each other super positive messages but tend not to address underlying issues. This gives the debtor a false sense of direction.

As a bloke I like to be told the truth, albeit in a polite wrapping. Just showering people with hugs and messages of support is'nt going to address thier real long term needs.

Many on hear I think have allowed themselves to be swept along with Kerry Catona / designer image / bling bling shallowness / WHAGS consumerism which causes them, to overspend on trainers, mags, gagets and so on.

What I would like to see on here are much more meaningful mature discussions on the true underlying reasons people get into debt, as this might help them change thier reality tunnels.

EXAMPLE;
I I said I was in bad debt due to losing my job and my car breaking down I would get this kind of response on here;
"Feel for ya babes, xxxx, big hugs, it can happen to anyone"

This might cause my brain receptors to flush with warmth but it doesnt help me. The message I would be getting wouldnt help me avoid the same fate in a years time.

The helpful messga ecould be- "ok bad luck with the accident, but if you had saved 10% of your income since leaving school you would have then easily been able to weather the storm when the INEVITABLE bad times caome along"

You like to be told the truth?
OK
people on here are generally looking for "Support" rather than a lecture.
Now naff off:rotfl:

dhassen

i get your point conrad but I don't think that support for supports sake is as bad a thing as you say.....

but yea real advice is useful too

at the top of the forum it does say - "for support and advice"
I think you need a hug mate lol

Jacks_xxx

Conrad wrote: »

The helpful messga ecould be- "ok bad luck with the accident, but if you had saved 10% of your income since leaving school you would have then easily been able to weather the storm when the INEVITABLE bad times caome along"

:wave: Honey, I don't think it *is* helpful to tell people what they should have done.

I consider myself a very logical person, but it doesn't prevent me from being kind to people when they're struggling.

I'm pretty bossy when it comes to telling folk what I would do in their position as well - but I use a lot of :dance: :grouphug: :hello: :kisses3: :j :rolleyes: :eek: to try and soften the very bossy bits a little.

And sometimes my posts are all fluffy - cos sometimes that's all I've got to offer - my support.


I love a good debate too, but not if I don't accept the basic premise of the argument, and when i've seen debate posts from you I often think you take as givens things I just don't accept.

But we're all here to help each other, right?

Love Jacks xxx