My wife wants to leave me

G-G_4

Oh dear..

Don't give up xx

affordmylife

when we hit troubles three years ago my husband wouldnt let me go with our daughter.

he put his foot down and said shes staying her. i couldnt leave her so i stayed too.

we are now happier than we ever were.

i wish you all the best at this very difficult time.

jan03

It may seem like the end of the world at this present time, but if your wife was truley happy in your relationship she wouldn't want to leave.
All you can do now is get on with your own life without causing any trouble as ultimitly it will be your young son who suffers if there is any trouble between your wife and yourself.
This time next year things will be very different, you may be with someone else or your wife may see that the grass isn't always greener and see that she wants to be with you, just don't go acting your life out, life is for living so go out and enjoy yours.

celestineperu

It is a sad and difficult time for you, keep thinking of your son and that he needs his Dad as you need to see him. You will always be his Father.

Only thought i can give to you is to give yourself time to heal from this. And don't as so many people do and rush into a new relationship, this can cause so much more pain for all concerned especially when there are children involved. Take each day as it comes and if a day is too much then by each hour if you need too.

Thinking of you

elisebutt65

Are you going to try for custody or shared access?

My brother has his little boy with him now - hard work as he works full time but it works.

The mum doesn't necessarily always get the custody!

belfastgirl23

Really sorry to hear about this happening.

Can I just say one useful thing you can do is to think about what you want. What was the state of your relationship before this bombshell? Were you happy? Or just drifting along? How do you feel now - are your concerns about your son or about losing your wife? I know these are very very hard questions to answer especially in the aftermath of something like this. But if you have some answers then it might help you figure out what to do next. EG if you still want your wife then think about what affordmylife has said and fight for your relationship. If you kind of think the relationship isn't worth fighting for then do you want your son to live with you? If so then fight for that. Or at least for shared custody.

I'm saying this because one of the worst aspects of something like this is the feeling of victimhood, of being not in control of your own life. This at least helps you take back some control where you do have it.

Come back and post and let us know how you are getting on. And don't be afraid to ask friends and family for help and support too....

Giraffeseeker

Sorry to hear about your troubles Markgar. There is a good site - www.wikivorce.com which you can get lots of support from through the chatrooms and forums. Good luck.

Debt_Free_Chick

markgar wrote: »

My wife has met someone else. We have a 6 year old son. I love her and abosultely adore my son. I cannot come to gerips taht when she leaves me I will not see me son every day. I cant stop crying. I just want to die . help

Talk to her, please - talk to her. Gently, over time ... without pressure. My guess is that there's something missing in your relationship (for her). Perhaps she feels she is "taken for granted", no longer attractive to you, perhaps you don't woo her with romance any more, perhaps you don't show that you love her in the way she needs you to. If things in your relationship had been right for her, she wouldn't have given in to temptation - or sought what was missing.

I left my partner last May for someone younger who flattered me with loads of attention. Worst thing I've ever done - desperately trying to heal things with my ex, but he's having none of it (of course - he's massively hurt). I'm not giving up though - God knows how long it will take and I might never win him back.

Why did I stray? I felt he didn't love me. I felt I didn't deserve him. I suffer low self-esteem at the best of times, but the slow creeping fear that your partner doesn't love you is like Chinese water torture and leave a woman feeling unattractive. So .... when someone happens along making you feel sexy, attractive and loved it's life biggest drug. You fall in love all over again with that wonderful "I've found love" euphoria - and that's about it. She's "in love" ..... so ...... WOO HER, WOO HER, WOO HER!

You can win her back, I'm sure. Don't compete with this guy though - there's no need to "outdo him". Think only of you and your partner and what works for you. It's possible that, deep in her subconscious, she is actually challenging you to prove that you really do love her (this is what I did! :mad: ) so don't be defeated and wimpy (sorry ) - that's not what she wants to see. Be a "knight on a white charger" ...... whisk her away with romance.

Get a baby sitter and take her out - whatever will work.

Good luck

:happyhear :kisses3: :lovethoug :smileyhea

randomsam08

if my partner was seeing someone else i'd help her leave, in fact she'd be gone already, i know its shit dude but she's not worth feeling crap over if she can easily go elsewhere.

better off without her imo.


go out get laid, you'll feel much better about things after that

DKLS

markgar wrote: »

I just want to die . help

markgar speak to someone, if not from the list below, this forum will do, you will findplenty of support to get you through this. Dont do anything daft, if not for your self but the people you leave behind.

• Your own GP
  Click here to find your GP in England & Wales
  

• or call the Accident and Emergency department at your local hospital

• The Samaritans (24 hours)

Telephone 0845 7 90 90 90 or Email: [EMAIL="jo@samaritans.org"]jo@samaritans.org[/EMAIL]

• NHS 24 for Scotland (24 hours)
  Telephone 0845 4 24 24 24

• NHS Direct for England and Wales (24 hours)
  Telephone 0845 4647

• Breathing Space (evenings until 2am)(Scotland Only)
  Telephone 0800 83 85 87

It doesn't matter who you are - If you are in crisis, despairing or suicidal, contacting one of the above agencies can make all the difference. You can speak in total confidence about anything that is troubling you.