My wife wants to leave me

markgar

My wife has met someone else. We have a 6 year old son. I love her and abosultely adore my son. I cannot come to gerips taht when she leaves me I will not see me son every day. I cant stop crying. I just want to die . help

Keeping_Motivated

I'm really sorry this has happened. Relationships ending is hard but when children are involved it can be double whammy..

All I can say is try not to look too far in the future or it will seem frightening. Try and get through one day at a time.

Take care I hope someone is along soon with more help x

mrcow

I don't know what to say as I have no experience of this type of thing, but I can't just not post anything on this thread. I have a six year old son too and my heart goes out to you.

I have to ask the question......is the relationship absolutely over for sure? If not.......then you need to concentrate on working on it and start mending what is wrong. If it is over, then you still need to keep working at it to ensure that things work out as smoothly as possible for your little boy.

fsdss

i'm sorry your wife is putting you through this at the moment - try and abstain from doing anything in haste as it will probably hurt your son more than you would wish.

piglet29

Hello markgar, so sorry to hear of your problems, havent really got any advice but would just like to send ((hugs))) and to let you know there is always someone hanging around on here if you need to get things out of your system!! x

Alisonsvilla

Hi-was in this position 4 years ago.

You can get through this-although it is utterly ghastly.
Just take it one moment a time.

It's awful. it sucks-just give it time.

squoog

Is there any possibility that your son can stay with you? Or at least see you every day?
This will have a big effect on him and it would be good to sit down and talk about how you can best manage caring for your son while you are seperated.
Friends of mine split the week so on a wednesday mum drops at school and dad picks up and takes over for a couple of days, but it depends on work etc fitting in.
Right now you are devastated, but change can bring good things.
Get support where you can, if you feel overwhelmed go to your GP and ask to see a counsellor. Don't be afraid to ask for help, Just someone to offload to for a few weeks might help.
If you can't talk to your wife right now, try writing her a letter about how you want to manage bringing up your son between you.
Remember that you are not alone in this and you can survive and come out stronger.
I wish you well, take care of yourself x

littlemissmoney

markgar wrote: »

I cant stop crying. I just want to die . help

Hi markgar,

You will get through this, and your son will not love you any less. If you want to talk things through please call the samaritains.

Samaritans: 08457 90 90 90mail us

Samaritans provides confidential non-judgemental emotional support, 24 hours a day for people who are experiencing feelings of distress or despair, including those which could lead to suicide.

Whatever you're going through, whether it's big or small, don't bottle it up. We are here for you if you're worried about something, feel upset or confused, or just want to talk to someone.

We offer our service by telephone, email, letter and face to face in most of our branches.

Gingham_Ribbon

The counsellors at Relate will see people without their partners too so if she won't go to counselling together, it may be worth trying to see someone on your own to help you get through this.

I'm so sorry. Keep talking. x

mkbean

I went through this a year ago, i now see it as quite a positive experience for me.

1. Use the techniques at http://www.divorcebusting.com to maximise your chances of saving your relationship, keep your dignity and maintain your mental health.

2. Don't move out of the house.

Daniel.

squidge60

so sorry please get help x