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Mental state?
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Yes, that's more like it - everything in moderation.
Even moderation in moderation...
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well done, it takes a brave person to post, and ask a question about emotive issues. Glad to hear you are having a good day.Blackadder: Am I jumping the gun, Baldrick, or are the words 'I have a cunning plan' marching with ill-deserved confidence in the direction of this conversation?
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Just to add HIME that my DH feels like this often, too.
I constantly point out to him how 'well off' we actually are - we own our house and have about £60,000 equity in it, we can afford all our outgoings and eat well, yet he still feels like he's going 2 steps forward and three back all the time. I think everybody feels like this at some time, it's all about keeping things in perspective, I believe.DMP starts June 2012, £38,180.
Balance June 2015 £26,046 (paid off 32%)
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Just to add HIME that my DH feels like this often, too.
I constantly point out to him how 'well off' we actually are - we own our house and have about £60,000 equity in it, we can afford all our outgoings and eat well, yet he still feels like he's going 2 steps forward and three back all the time. I think everybody feels like this at some time, it's all about keeping things in perspective, I believe.
It is hard when they (OH) work so hard and have all our interests and happiness at heart. I like the two steps forward one step back expression, because that is what it is. We had huge expenses in January, mostly extraordinary and I think that was it for him.
So far, things look better this month. I am working full time now and we are focusing on the holidays, the garden and each other. Everyone has been great. I just wanted to give him the boost he deserves.0 -
i know completely how you feel, that even though there's people that can't think about where they're going to be living in a month there's others who are not on the breadline but still feel those moments like you want to cry (like looking at the bank balance two days before payday or when a huge bill lands on Christmas eve).
Even though between my other half and me earn quite a decent amount, we both have our own debts and commitments like uni fees and a wedding to pay for!
while we will definitely cope, its an awful feeling when you realise that you can't afford to go out with friends and we sit at home doing nothing, i suppose its a similar way to how you feel when your kids want to go out and you know that the budget won't quite stretch, but you really want her to go out.
sometimes you get a bit of debt free burn out, but it passes!0
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