Depression Support Thread

weegie.geek

absolutebounder wrote: »

I will never be that popular with what I say because I say things as I see them so may appear bliunt and unfeeling but that is not the way I really am but sorry I do believe in calling a spade a spade

It's the depression support thread. Be supportive or bite your tongue.

I'm not too comfortable with being in a petri dish under your microscope, but we're all posting in a public place, so we can't expect people not to observe us. I just wonder if you saying things that could come across as being critical (while not necessarily intending to appear so) is counterproductive, especially if someone's not doing to well at the time.

Diamond78

absolutebounder wrote: »

I am not here to say you should do this or that but to learn and see where help can be given to break cyles. Depression has been around me and a school friend comitted suicide from it. You say your depression has been since childhood and this once again is common but I wonder whether it is more an inherited trait or caused as a result of trauma or specific event. I dont expect you to answer that it is just my line of thinking.
Unfortunately depression seems to cover a range of emotions from a slighyt setback to severe psychosis and so it would be difficult to write genericaly on a thread like this.
I will never be that popular with what I say because I say things as I see them so may appear bliunt and unfeeling but that is not the way I really am but sorry I do believe in calling a spade a spade

My friend committed suicide too, so i know that is an awful feeling of loss and guilt which is why when someone is very low or feeling suicidal I feel responsible in a way that I must try and help them.

My depression maybe partly inheritted but things have happened in my childhood which affects me now but didnt before, things happened when I became a tenager which is when I went off the rails.This is due to family issues,my life style and many other factors. That is when I started to binge drink and dabble with drugs but I got through those hard times and moved on. The thing is during this time I never once saw a doctor,counsillor nor was I given medication. It was only after my friend died with the suicide that I was seen as needing help coz once that happened everything that I had been through was coming out of me. I had not dealt with the issues I had, the traumas I had gone through I had no choice to carry on and bottle everything up, in a way I do now but I cannot let myself go like I use to before as I am a mother. I am not an attention seeker what so ever. I do not srink but now and then might have 1 or 2, where as when I was a tenager, I was drunk nearly everyday.I do not touch drugs now and never will. I have grown up, but the way I look at it, the gps and nhs failed me big time. had I been given the help when I asked and wanted it then maybe Id be a bit better now. The thing is with some ppl is mothers are not looked at properly. They say posnatal depression comes and goes but the truth is, if you have suffered depression before you risk is higher.The domestic violence I went through all the proffesional bodies knew of, yet I was never given any help or support which has resulted in my depression and other issues like anxiety and panic attacks to get worse.It is no wonder that ppl suffer with depression as not enough help is out there, I have been on the waiting list for CBT for over 1 year and also psycodynamic psycotherapy for 2 years. Thats a joke. I am trying and constantly on my gps back to chase up my therapy but there is so much a person can do.I have been begging my gp to get me off seroxat but I cannot come off it as I have nasty side affects. I am happy to come off it but its when Im not taking it I feel even worse so I have to do this gradually. Things take time and unfortunatly a magic wand will not work to make things better.We are all different, treatment is different, gos are different, we all respond differently but the slighest thing can bring a person down so bad.Unless you have truelly suffered with depression you will not understand which is why you state the things you do. I would never wish depression on anyone.A person could be rich, have everything they ever wanted in life, have a wonderful family but they can still be depressed.Its sad but true,

Tulip

This thread has been so good to me as everyone is so supportive,I have depression and bipolar and everyone doesnt judge me on here,I can say how I am feeling freely without being critisied,I also have learning difficulties too I am everyones ray of sunshine on this thread and my happy posts help others as I say what I am doing each day and I am happy to,just recently I posted pics of me on my recent holiday of Scotland so people on this thread could see me and imagine what I was like as I felt I was ready to share that part of me I wont say too much more but I have family supporting me,friends in real life supporting me and also my local church and my local mental health team,I get my good days and bad,ok I cant give advice when I read people are down as I cant seem to give the right answer but at least I am there to give out virtual hugs for support


love and light,

Katie xxx

LadyMorticia

weegie.geek wrote: »

It's the depression support thread. Be supportive or bite your tongue.

I'm not too comfortable with being in a petri dish under your microscope, but we're all posting in a public place, so we can't expect people not to observe us. I just wonder if you saying things that could come across as being critical (while not necessarily intending to appear so) is counterproductive, especially if someone's not doing to well at the time.

You said what I wanted to say but couldn't get out.

Part of my BPD is that I take things to heart and absolutebounders post did upset me a bit but as I said that is most likely just me being overemotional.

How are you today hun?

xx

juno

Diamond78 wrote: »

Yea hun im sure. when i had my interview for my course I was told to take my form to the campus bit and that I had to pay £30 something. Its like admin fee,mines through a college maybe thats why.

I dont think I am entitled to a student grant as I well tried to look into it.I dont work and thats why my course is being paid for.The course is for a year, very other wednesday and I have to do 2 days a week work experience unpaid at a school which I dont mind as Im happy to start from the bottom and eventually work my way up as the years pass.

What course are you doing?x

Ah, mine's completely with the OU and not with a college. Have you thought about doing it directly if you'd get more help that way?

I'm currently doing "Understanding Management", and then in May I'm doing "You And Your Money". I think there's a few people on the DFW board who are doing that one too, so hopefully we can all get stuck together. Well, hopefully we won't get stuck at all, really...

LadyMorticia

I'm making a feel good book at the moment. I'm going to put poems and quotes in it to make me feel better and I'm going to decorate it. I'm also going to put things in it that remind me of my friends.

Tulip

LadyMorticia wrote: »

You said what I wanted to say but couldn't get out.

Part of my BPD is that I take things to heart and absolutebounders post did upset me a bit but as I said that is most likely just me being overemotional.

How are you today hun?

xx

What is BPD? is it Bipolar like I have? I tend to take things to heart as well Hope you have a good evening ahead I will be on here for 10 mins or so


Katie

Tulip

LadyMorticia wrote: »

I'm making a feel good book at the moment. I'm going to put poems and quotes in it to make me feel better and I'm going to decorate it. I'm also going to put things in it that remind me of my friends.

that sounds like a wonderful idea,why dont you add photos as well


Katie

LadyMorticia

Tulip wrote: »

What is BPD? is it Bipolar like I have? I tend to take things to heart as well Hope you have a good evening ahead I will be on here for 10 mins or so


Katie

It's Borderline Personality Disorder. One of my closest friends has it too. She knows me inside and out.lol. I'm always taking things to heart. I get so emotional.

Not going to be doing much tonight. Just on here and really should tidy up.lol.

xx

LadyMorticia

Tulip wrote: »

that sounds like a wonderful idea,why dont you add photos as well


Katie

Oooo good idea.
Thanks.

xx