How did you decide to go for a 3rd?

Amanda65

OH and I had always wanted three - as one of two I wanted to be a bit different to my mum and dad and my mum always said she wishes they had gone in for a third but she was a slightly older mum (in the 60's - by today's standards she was a mere pup).

First two came out as DD's and everyone therefore assumed that we were only having a third as we wanted a boy. We really didn't mind, although were obviously thrilled when number three was DS. However I then spent the first few months of his life explaining to people that whilst we were delighted to have a boy, we would have loved a third daughter just as much :rolleyes: Some people have very funny ideas about why you have children!

All I can say is if you feel like it's the right thing to do, let nature take it's course and see what happens. Yes there are down sides - a bigger car, no-one ever told me that if you go on a package holiday with three kids you only get child discount for two (so we don't do package holidays ) but I LOVE having three children and really wouldn't want to lok back and say 'I wonder'.

Having said that, when DS was 10 weeks old, OH was in having his bits snipped to make sure that number 4 didn't arrive :rotfl:

3KIDSNOMONEY

hi, with us it was a big decision to go for number 3. Although you can still fit in an average sized family car. It is the practicalities of having another, when you have 2 children days out are easier and cheaper, things like hotels fit a family of 4 in fact most things cater as a family as being 4 people. It obviously does make life a little more difficult but let me add that we are expecting number 4 any day now and this child will fit into our family just like number 3 did. My kids are 11, 9 and nearly 5. Number 3 was our first boy and has only enhanced our life. Good luck

modgit

I love having 3 too!
I have three lovely sons, age 9, 6 and 14 months. I personally wanted a gap, (perhaps not quite so big ) as I knew I wanted 3 but didn't think I'd cope with 3 under 5 scenario. So DS3 arrived as DS2 started school.

It is hard work, but as others have said everything is much easier, cos the stresses of the first aren't there (and you haven't got time to panic!)

We have a Vectra and they fit lovely into that, but DS1 doesn't need a car seat and dS2 uses a booster.

People do only think you want a third for one of the opposite sex. We had so many "aren't you disappointed?" comments, it makes me angry. I wanted a 3rd child not specifically a girl.

MRSTITTLEMOUSE

We never even thought about having kids,they just came all by themselves,despite contraception.We had three girls within 4 years,and to be honest they were a doddle to bring up.I did so enjoy the young years,and when they went to school they started at the rate of one a year over three years so they always had sisters to take care of them,throughout school life.Although we did'nt choose to have three,I'm glad we did and to be honest I never thought about why we should or should'nt have them,things like wether they would fit into a car,the house or anything else for that matter(and I mean that in a nice way) never even came into it.I was just glad they were healthy

ChasingButterflies

Another mum with 3 little people!

DD1 7, DS1 5, DD2 3 - so all quite close together by the time no 3 came along she just slotted in - there was no time to worry because her older siblings had places to be and things to do!

Our 1st 2 were 19 months apart and quite a handful - I didn't realise I wanted another until I *thought* I was pregnant again - then found a few weeks later I wasn't.

Due to them being so close together we had issues with car seats - which became worse when DD2 needed to go into a second stage car seat... we had to change cars then (from a scenic - to an espace, makes things easier when there is a granny/grandpa/friend from school etc)

We had the same comments about "why are you having another? you have one of each". Now the question has changed to "why would you want another? you have 3 healthy children already!" You can't win people will always have preconceptions (sp?) about how many children they THINK you should have.

You need to make the decision together - just you and OH - what anyone else thinks should not come into it.

Good Luck!

lindseykim13

well i think that we have decided to go for the 3rd in 2 months time when we've had our hol don't fancy morning sickness in florida although i am itching to start trying lol, thanks for all the advice it helped to convince OH that having 3 was quite normal for some families!

*Louise*

modgit wrote: »

People do only think you want a third for one of the opposite sex. We had so many "aren't you disappointed?" comments, it makes me angry. I wanted a 3rd child not specifically a girl.

That annoyed me as well - I did want a little girl but when people would say 'Ohhh - what will you do if it's a boy?' I felt like replying 'What do you want me to do - have him adopted?? Of course I would love him like my other 2 boys'

Sheesh....:rolleyes:

AnnieH

I had 2 girls by my ex, and my OH had 1 of each with his ex. When we got together we were both adamant that we were not having any more (we had enough between us) but as the years went on, we both thought it would be nice to have one of our own.

Wethought and thought about it, decided we'd try then changed our minds and decided we actually didn't want any more cos we had our freedom when my girls were at their dad's

Too late Fate had already taken over. Our little boy is an absolute dreamboat - we can't ever imagine life without him, and we're so glad we had him.

themaccas

We have 3 and have BIG gaps - they are DS1 -18, DD- 9 and DS2 - 4. People always assume that they are from another relationship which really annoys us. The gaps were planned although we did lose 2 pregnancies between them. However 3 is enough and my OH had the snip when our last baby DS2 was 3 weeks old. 3 children definately gives the family a different dynamic as opposed to 2 and we love them to bits even thought DS2 is such a handful I think he could have ended up being the only child if he had been born first!!! This is the only year all children are at school ranging from Reception class to Upper sixth form so we have A level homework and jolly phonics sounds/letters in the evenings!!

Mimosa_Miminski

I currently have 3 - regarding car seats - Jane do slimmer car seats, and with a seat belt extender we have no problem fitting them in - we don't have a people carrier or anything flash. 3 isn't much more work than 2 - and it seems to take the sibling rivalry heat off a bit. Expecting no. 4 in a few months - Making it 4 children all aged under 5 years!!