Hi could i have some advice please?

tiredandanxious

I work at my sons school,hes 9 and we can walk to it,we do most days. I know i can manage without the car, but then my father will want to know where its gone.
My boyfriend will be angry about me lying to him for so long, but im not even sure i want to be with him i just dont want to hurt him.
Just want to go bed and not get up
Thank you all for your replies

tigerfeet2006

OK then. What about shopping. Visiting family, a boy needs his grandparents. Try to think laterally here. There has to be reasons why you need the car.

betterlatethannever

Tigers right..think laterally...are you sure you don't intend to go to college soon to try and better your career prospects and stop this happening to you again, especially now your sons a little older??:rolleyes: the college may be some distance from you and with all the books etc...it truly is something you might want to consider.

tiredandanxious

oh my god you're all genuises, i never even thought of any of those things.
Thank you all so much, you dont even know me and you're all so kind,i cant thank you enough.
Dont think my depression helps my state of mind,i just cant think straight and find myself lying all the time to cover myself and that makes me feel so much worse. Im sitting here now crying my so dding eyes out at your kindness
Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Would travelling for shopping count for a reason to keep the car? My nearest supermaket is 9 miles away

tigerfeet2006

How are you expecting to get the months shop home over that distance. Taxi's are expensive. When it comes to writing the letter post up a question and will will spend some time with you thinking about this. You could put up a draft letter and we will see what we could do.

May I suggest you cut the sleeping tablets down to the proper level. It will help your thought processes over this stressful time. Also go back to see your Dr and talk to him about your AD's. He may want to change them as the one's you are on don't seem to be helping much.

(((((((((hugs)))))))))))

dodecanese

I think youre right about the depression. I sometimes get very down (not just debt, I think Im naturally pessimistic and bit depressive)- and you end up where you cant think straight, everything becomes a huge problem and you just want to literally crawl into bed and not get up. I remember in early January just when things were coming to a head debt wise and it was beginning to dawn on me that bankruptcy was my only option. I felt absolutely awful, like I was trapped and I had no way out. One morning I was off to work and it was freezing cold, throwing it down and then the bus didnt turn up- and I just started crying in the street, everyone was looking at me and I was so embarressed. I just felt like everything, the weather, the bus, fate itself was just against me and there was no way out. Ive still got a lot of concerns with my bankruptcy, but I feel more like my heads straight now, and you will too. Once the idea has sunk in and youve accepted it you will be able to tackle the problem better.
I think Tigerfeet is right- you need to go back to your Dr and see if the anti depressants can changed. please take care with sleeping pill dose, I know they are being prescribed to help you but sometimes they can make you feel a bit less clearheaded about things.
All the best

leonlala

Morning T &A
I hope that you had a good nights sleep, after all the positive posts. ((( Hugs)))
Have you thought about talking to someone impartial,on a face to face level? CAB? a friend who is a listener?
maybe your gp can advise you?
keep posting.
Lou

StressHead

I tried to write a message to you yesterday but the bl**dy laptop timed out and I lost the message and then didn't have time to retype it.

I think we're going through a similar thing at the moment hun as I too am on AD, just last week have been upped to 40mg a day to help with the panic attacks and anxiety attacks.

I agree with some of the other advice which you've been given such as your son wanting to have a happy, balanced mummy and without all this debt stress you'll be so much happier. I also agree that if you're bloke isn't supportive and you're not sure that you even want to be with him, then you need to make decisions in your best interest rather than being concerned about hurting him.

My head was and still is all over the place as I still haven't spoken to anyone official re. debt and I decided to end my relationship. I hate hurting people and cried so much but knew in my heart that it was the right decision.

I hope this helps even if it's only a little bit. x

G-G_4

just wanted to post again and say good luck xx

i am on anti - depressants aswell, probably due to all my money problems over the years..

hope you are feeling better today x

tiredandanxious

Hi i went to my gp this morning he upped my AD's from 30mg to 80mg so hopefully this will make a difference to my state of mind over the next couple of weeks.
He also made me take all my sleeping pills in with me and took them from me, he will now give me a 5 day supply at a time to stop me taking too many.
A bit embarassing but sensible i think, he was very understanding and let me cry for ages, couldnt tell him about the debt tho, couldnt get the words out.
I need to sort this out now, im feeling a bit more like i can face it today after all your lovely messages of support.
I have maybe 2 or 3 friends and those i know through my boyf so if i talk to them about it i think they would tell him which is the last thing i need.
spoke to my dad last night and suggested that maybe my younger bro would like my car as i told him i cant afford to keep running it. At least then i dont run the risk of it being taken from me and having to explain that to him.

All still feels like such a mess in my head but im hoping the new AD dosage will help and in a couple of weeks i'll be in a better position to start dealing things, but as it is right now i just want to curl up in a corner and die.

Thank you all for your help, im still amazed at how caring people can be to total strangers thank you :A