The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

polaroid

:wave: hi I 'd like - lots of new faces at the moment - hi + welcome

one of my big wake up calls was recyclying. i was in complete denial. and then i started to save my glass for the green bin. O.M.G!! i actually accused my neighbour of putting their empties in MY bin (:o ). it was a real shock. like on those food programes where they put all the food someone has eaten in a week on the table.. some times the shock factor works

well done everyone who is having AF days. i finding this weather so depressing but i am getting through it with tea and hot choc. i am off to m+S to get my meal for £10, i ve just read on here that you can get truffles instead of wine - whoop whoop (as you can see i dont have much of a life and get excited about these things )

xxx

Nick51

Hi Everyone,

I’ve finally plucked up the courage to post on this board, have been watching it for the past several weeks after been directed to this forum via search engine after typing in giving up alcohol. I must say that everyone seems so supportive and I am really at the crossroads with my drinking. I desperately want to cut down and eventually stop but at the moment it appears to be getting out of control. I drink practically every single day and am getting fed up with feeling hung-over and groggy every morning yet I am finding it increasingly hard to stop. Once I’ve had one that’s it, I’m on my way. I reckon I’m drinking in excess of 70-80 units per week
It’s ruining my weekends because I just don’t feel like doing anything at all, especially after heavy Friday & Saturday nights. I have quite a stressful job, enjoyable but stressful, but there are days after 4 cans of Stella & a bottle of wine the night before, where my productivity is practically zero. I work away quite a bit and this is so difficult as well as I cannot seem to go on a trip without binging myself in my room after a few hours in the bar. I also suffer from S.A.D. during the winter months and the aftermath of drinking really exacerbates the feeling of lowness and depression. But it’s really the feeling so groggy in the mornings and the feeling that I can’t seem to stop that really getting me down. Not sure whether I will be able to stop completely, just too many outside pressures, but really want to make a concerted effort.
Anyway, at last I’ve done the deed and posted. Hopefully have not rambled on too long. Good luck to everyone on the forum. I'm hoping that I can find a solution on this forum.

Regards

Nick

MARTINS_DOLL

Nick51 wrote: »

Hi Everyone,

I’ve finally plucked up the courage to post on this board, have been watching it for the past several weeks after been directed to this forum via search engine after typing in giving up alcohol. I must say that everyone seems so supportive and I am really at the crossroads with my drinking. I desperately want to cut down and eventually stop but at the moment it appears to be getting out of control. I drink practically every single day and am getting fed up with feeling hung-over and groggy every morning yet I am finding it increasingly hard to stop. Once I’ve had one that’s it, I’m on my way. I reckon I’m drinking in excess of 70-80 units per week
It’s ruining my weekends because I just don’t feel like doing anything at all, especially after heavy Friday & Saturday nights. I have quite a stressful job, enjoyable but stressful, but there are days after 4 cans of Stella & a bottle of wine the night before, where my productivity is practically zero. I work away quite a bit and this is so difficult as well as I cannot seem to go on a trip without binging myself in my room after a few hours in the bar. I also suffer from S.A.D. during the winter months and the aftermath of drinking really exacerbates the feeling of lowness and depression. But it’s really the feeling so groggy in the mornings and the feeling that I can’t seem to stop that really getting me down. Not sure whether I will be able to stop completely, just too many outside pressures, but really want to make a concerted effort.
Anyway, at last I’ve done the deed and posted. Hopefully have not rambled on too long. Good luck to everyone on the forum. I'm hoping that I can find a solution on this forum.

Regards

Nick

Hi Nick... :hello:

Well done for posting, and a very warm welcome to MSE... :beer:

Good luck huns, you will get an awful lot of support on here from the members, they are a great crowd... :T xxx

eselt

Hi all- just checking in- welcome Nick and Iwantmy- welcome aboard. Difficult times ahead for all, but we can do this, and get through this, because people do and thats what motivates me- people do/have given up/cut down on their drinking, and someone has to be a reformed problem drinker, so WHY NOT US? That black hole is not a place I want to return to- who in there right mind would would want to stay there? Trouble is when you are in that hole it seems impossible to get out- but we can, slowly, surely, and with respect and dignity.

Best of luck everyone- thanks

eselt

Oh and I meant to say too, Fay, don't worry about telling your GP- they have heard it all before and will know how to help- in fact when I used to go to AA there were a couple of GP's there trying to sort themselves out too....but they are the gatekeepers to most of the help you can get, so you need to be honest and get the help you think would be useful. Best of luck with it.

Bismarck

siannielaz...the video brought a tear to my eye but there is so much to it.

especially about getting up when you're down.

we're so fortunate and yet don't recognise or appreciate it. we live in a more more more, me, me, me society and alcohol just typifies it, I'm afraid.

welcome aboard to the new arrivals...

before I go, here's a question for all:

ask yourself "am I trying to beat alcohol?"

polaroid

:wave: Hi Nick, welcome aboard.

i cant get the video on you tube to work, i am going to try again now.

hope everyone is ok:A :A

biscotte

Hi there everyone.

Welcome nick and Idlike, this is a great board for support and thoughtful insights, we're all somewhere on the road in the journey to understanding ourselves and our relationship with alcohol.

An AFD for me yesterday, and an early night which means today I feel fine. Not brilliant or great or fantastic but fine, which is good enough for today.

of course the weekend is coming up so that'll be a little more difficult but I'm not going out and aim to keep myself busy to keep away from the wine.

Had a conversation about drinking with a group of folks today -we are all putting away too much and finding it really negatively impacting our lives. Needing a wake up call I think.

SiannieLaz

Hi All
Good to see some more newcomers:j

Bis - I feel I need to beat my addictive voice rather than alcohol, we all have it, it's that little niggly voice that says things like 'just one won't hurt', ' I'll give up tomorrow' and 'who cares if I get drunk, it's my decision'. Ultimately I look at it as 'the beast' and when it starts in my head, i just think 'it may want a drink, but I don't'. Treating it as a separate entity has totally helped me, and makes me feel like i'm in control rather than just looking at myself as a weak individual with no control over my own body or mind, which is exactly how I used to feel all the time.

AFD5 today and feeling better. Managed to get a full nights sleep for the first time in months last nite and even got into work 2 hours early! Also been sticking to my super healthy diet, having a slightly adverse effect on my stomach, good job I sit on my own!! Mind you, I'll definately get a seat on the bus should I need one!!

I hope everyone has a great weekend, whether you drink or not. We are all individuals and we all need to take things at our own pace, big hugs all round

jacktyler

i'm thinking about stopping drinking. i've probably posted before on here, but i can't remember.

i'm very ashamed.

can i ask a question?
if i stop, will i still be allowed to speak?