The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

eselt

polaroid- I have been avoiding stuff like this as the one time I did go out with old buddies I didn't drink and I felt like a spare part- by 11.00 one had been sick and another had drunkenly been so rude to a waitress I could have died of shame...the worst bit was I remember thinking, god this is so boring and drunks are really boring, how didn't I realise this before when I was the worst out of the lot of us!!!???? Good friends will not make you feel uncomfortable, will be positive about your choice, congratulate you and you'll have a good night with people you like and who really care about you...staying sober might give you the chance to re-evaluate who your real freinds are and who are those that were only ever drinking buddies?

Personally I wouldn't have one, as I know it wouldn't stop there, and I want to carry on down this road more than I want that first drink- I know if I have one that resolve will waver and the fallout of falling off the wagon big time doesn't bare thinking about- in fact I'm not going to think about it, I'm going to think about how much I enjoyed waking up today..the sun, the kids running around hassling for breakfast, no scowls from anyone, no memory loss, no glasses and bottles strewn around the place, no sickly sweet smell of spilt wine on the carpet, making plans for a trip out and a picnic, no headache, tolerant, patient, money in my purse and petrol in the car...would I give this up to be a hopeless drunk again...what do you think?!

Hope everyone is OK, do yourself a favour, make some good decisions........

eselt

jo1972 wrote: »

Thanks for re-iterating my post eselt, you made me cry

Feeling okay today, I only had 2 last night so it didn't have much effect, although I did go to bed at half ten, partly cos I felt so down and also cos even the smallest amount of alcohol made me tired. Just had 10 hours sleep, I feel fine this morning, it's a sunny day and I don't want to spoil it.

I am, however, having a small panic about this evening. OH is going out and so I shall be left to my own devices, plus I think DD1 is going out too so no one to keep an eye on me. As much as I know I don't want to drink and at the moment I feel so positive about my quit, and no matter how much chocolate supplies I bring in today, once that craving hits, the thought process changes :eek: Plus last night (before I started feeling down about the fact I'd had a drink), I had already planned to get almighty drunk tonight :eek: so the seed had been planted and now I have to de-plant it too!

Right, I'm off to my local car showroom to look at some cars, my one is playing up and I've lost faith in it, plus have no more money to throw at it so thought I'd get a new one....(this will also cheer me up a tad.....how materialistic is that :rotfl: - well, it will help, cos I can't drink if I want to drive it!! )

Have a good day all, and thanks to each of you for your continued support, you have no idea how hard it was to post last night but I knew if I didn't then I would be opening myself to all sort of trouble today :eek:

xx

Jo, best of luck tonight, I know how mischievious the brain can be when it fancies a drink-don't let it convince you-its your brain, tell it to behave!!!

Bismarck

it's looking unanimous...don't have the one....I wouldn't/couldn't.... I shudder at the things that happened in the past and as the old adage goes...

"if you don't have the first drink you can't get drunk..."

lamarsi

i stopped drinking on Tuesday... not for any particular reason, a bit similar to a couple of years ago when i woke up one morning and said..smoking.. no thanks and gave up ( although I'm not saying this will be the same). i wouldn't call myself an alcoholic and I'm definitely not alcohol dependant in a physical sense but i think i use it to combat boredom and when i start to drink i definitely drink to excess. I started to notice after drinking my skin is bad.. kept coming up in spots and rashes after drinking ( is this usual? and if so when does it get better?) and in the past more than now i have definitely drunk in a problematic way! in my 20's and 30's i was known as a party girl by my friends but now I'm 41 i don't want to be thought of as that sad old woman who's an embarrassment! i want to start a new chapter in my life but I'm aware of the gap that giving up alcohol will create and a bit nervous!

eselt

well done lamarsi:T looks like you have nipped this in the bud at the right time for you-your skin will definately get more radiant, other people may notice before you as the 'you look so well' compliments come in thick and fast. Good luck!!!

Bismarck

my skin's not radiant though it's less blotchy than it was...even after this time it's still improving although at a slower pace....

jo1972

Just bought a new car.....OH is gonna kill me :eek: :rotfl:

Bismarck

jo1972 wrote: »

Just bought a new car.....OH is gonna kill me :eek: :rotfl:

why? was he supposed to be there too or was it not decided on, yet?

eselt

jo1972 wrote: »

Just bought a new car.....OH is gonna kill me :eek: :rotfl:

Well its gotta be better than the drink killing you...tell him to put it in perspective, a new car is only [EMAIL="#@$%"]#@$%[/EMAIL] bottles of wine, and as you are on the wagon and not spending that money it'll soon be paid for, plus think of all the saved taxi fares, maintenance bills, breakdown call out charges etc,you could argue (and I think it would be a fair point) that you can't afford NOT to buy it- then start speculating about how you are going to spend the money you have SAVED by buying a new reliable car. Er- I know your not drinking Jo but I would get a few in for OH, just to help him realise that what you are saying is reasonable, rational and completely sensible- I'd leave your trainers on though just in case you need to make a quick getaway (in the new car of course!!!)..............good luck.....

jo1972

Bismarck wrote: »

why? was he supposed to be there too or was it not decided on, yet?

He doesn't drive so ultimately it's my car, but, the last 4 car purchases have been spontaneous buys which he knew nothing about till I drove it home...ummmm....looks like that's 5