The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

beachbeth

Thanks so much for that Jo1972! What you have put so far is really helpful. I know I crave alcohol the most when Im hungry - usually when Im getting the evening meal or Sunday lunch. I just love a little tipple whilst Im cooking the meal. If I drink pop or juice instead at this time it really helps. However, it is most difficult when we go out for a meal because I am hungry and in a place that sells alcohol!

jo1972

I'll type the rest up at lunchtime cos there's far too many people in the office with beedy eyes :rotfl:

shopaholictiedtheknot

Good morning everyone, I NEED HELP!!!

After playing at quitting/cutting down I am finally ready to admit that I have a serious problem, I have made an appointment at the docs for 5.20 today and I am going to tell him I need help to quit, I am so fed up of feeling rubbish, I wasn't going to drink yesterday as I had a hangover all day from going out Saturday night but at half eight I decided to have a hair of the dog which spiralled out of control and I ended up drinking a bottle and a half of wine, needless to say I feel like death today (I was sick this morning) and I don't know how I am managing to do any work! I cried before I left for work and think OH is seriously getting fed up of me, he is very supportive but I just feel like I am being such a pain!

I am really worried in case the doc does not take me seriously, does anyone have any advice for the best way to approach him?

brightonman123

accepting that you need help is the first step, i beleive.. hope things work out.

i for one have no drink problem (and i dont live near de'nial..!).. low income goes on other luxuries, such as rent, food, etc! may treat myself to a couple tins of beer if cash spare, but thats it.

mollypolly

shopaholictiedtheknot wrote: »

Good morning everyone, I NEED HELP!!!

After playing at quitting/cutting down I am finally ready to admit that I have a serious problem, I have made an appointment at the docs for 5.20 today and I am going to tell him I need help to quit, I am so fed up of feeling rubbish, I wasn't going to drink yesterday as I had a hangover all day from going out Saturday night but at half eight I decided to have a hair of the dog which spiralled out of control and I ended up drinking a bottle and a half of wine, needless to say I feel like death today (I was sick this morning) and I don't know how I am managing to do any work! I cried before I left for work and think OH is seriously getting fed up of me, he is very supportive but I just feel like I am being such a pain!

I am really worried in case the doc does not take me seriously, does anyone have any advice for the best way to approach him?

Hi Shopaholic,
Sorry you feel so carp! But well done for taking the bull by the horns and making an appointment with your doctor.
I dont have any advice really as I have never been brave enough to admit my problem to my doctor,but I am sure he/she will believe and help you.

Good luck,
Love Mollypolly xxxx

shopaholictiedtheknot

Thanks Mollypolly, I am scared but I just have to do it, I have wanted to go many times before but OH has always talked me out of it, he doesn't think it will do any good and just thinks I should just get some willpower and quit on my own, I just can't though - god I feel so miserable today - sorry for moaning !!

brightonman123

add-on note- try doing something else when feeling the need for a drink- chew gum, play cards, go for a walk/run/swim etc.. this may help cheer you up, and break any depression that causes need for booze?

i am not a doctor, but it worked for me!

shopaholictiedtheknot

I am not depressed, not even unhappy, I have no idea why I drink so much really, mainly out of habit/addiction I think OH thinks there is an underlying reason, I fear he may be right sometimes, I am a very emotional person and have had a fair amount of traumas in my life, I keep trying to get my head round the possible reasons

jo1972

Shoppy, I reckon you're a little like me, I don't think I was depressed and starting drinking, I reckon I'm depressed cos I drink. You will have an underlying reason there somewhere, you just need to find out what it is. It made me laugh really, cos I've got an underlying reason and have no idea what it is, although I actually do deep down somewhere and even though I'm trying to get my surpressed thoughts out, at the moment they are staying put and I've no idea what it is. I am honestly in denial, I am hiding my true feeling from myself and I don't know how to make myself feel them. The brain is very clever in shutting stuff away, not just hiding it from others but from yourself too!!

Good luck with the docs, I hope your experience is better than mine, he was as good as useless the first time round, literally said 'just don't buy it' but I've seen him a few times since I've had detox and he does acknowledge I've got a problem but when I spoke to him a few months ago, I was actually in floods, he told me to refer myself to the drug and alcohol place, he didn't do anything. So basically what I'm trying to say (went the long way round!) is, if you get no joy tonight, don't dispare (sp?), we will find you another alternative, I'll help you find your local drug and alcohol place

Gotta go lunch so be back soon.

xx

shopaholictiedtheknot

Thank so much Jo, I feel 'on the edge' today, I just want to sort myself out once and for all, I have been actively avoiding this thread for the last few weeks it's like I want to give up but not really if you see what I mean! I want my life back, I don't want to spend every day thinking about alcohol!!!