sisters wedding abroad

ailuro2

sorry, but I must disagree. If someone who has a young family and a very tight budget was to be expected to spend even a few hundred pounds on getting to the wedding, then that,imho, is too much. For some folk on limited incomes a few hundred pounds is a LOT of money, it can pay for shoes and school uniforms for their kids for a whole year!

If the people planning to get married could understand this , they would either plan their wedding to every family member's budget, or not expect everyone to be able to make it. People must decide what they want more from their wedding ( remembering it is only one day in the life of their marriage) people we love nearby, or a faraway place for just the two of us?
If they manage to find a compromise in-between then they are very lucky indeed.

hilstep2000

We are getting married abroad with no one there but us. That's because it is his third and my second, but we are planning a party back home afterwards.
It's the Bride and Groom' day, they should decide what they want!

*Louise*

I think anyone who chooses to have their wedding abroad has to understand that there are going to be a lot of people who can't be there.

All you can do is explain that you can't afford it. Do you think she will take ofence or something? Honesty is the best policy.

*Louise*

And on a personal level - if my sister was getting married abroad, I wouldn't put myself in debt to go to the wedding, she would need to understand that.

If I had a couple of thousand spare, I can think of more important things than a trip abroad to spend it on, sadly.:o

Primrose

I think if people decided to get married abroad, that's their decision but they have to be prepared for the fact that many of the people they would like to be at their wedding won't be able to afford the trip. In such circumstances I think the only sensible thing to do is to be honest about it up front very quickly. Especially when you have to take young children along and don't have passports, it can mount to around £400 before you have even bought clothes, booked a hotel or set foot on a plane. Tell your sister you'll organise a lovely family dinner party for her when she gets home and buy her a nice present, but you simply can't afford the trip and can't afford to put yourself into debt either.

sahararose

My niece has decided to get married abroad next year, and there's a fair amount of pressure on us to go - for all four of us it would be about £3000....and that's not an amount we can spare.

I agree with another poster that for some, getting married abroad is a way of avoiding paying for a posh wedding yourself.

It's pretty typical really - when I throw birthday parties, I invite everyone to our house, do food, drinks etc...when the rest of my husbands family have a birthday party, we all have to go to a local restaurant and everybody pay for their own meals.