Inheritance mostly all gone should i let it go?

Gingham_Ribbon

Panda's advice seems sensible. I'd add that you might be best trying to resolve one of the situations as far as possible before you tackle the other too. This may take a while but would probably be better than feeling like you're at war with everyone around you.

And as Panda also suggests, be prepared to compromise. Even in quite big ways. It's got to be better than all the resentment you're feeling.

tammy_3

Gingham_Ribbon wrote:

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And as Panda also suggests, be prepared to compromise. Even in quite big ways. It's got to be better than all the resentment you're feeling.

in terms of inlaws i have compromised enough, we took on board their feelings, we delayed getting married for years.....we invited their relatives that were causing problems with us getting married.....ive done so much compromising over 7 years with regards to me settling wtih him that im not prepared to do anything else- treatment after the wedding was the ultimate final straw= they have no more cards left to play with because ive had enough of "me me me" which i havent discussed on this thread but which i had to endure, my partner had to endure and no more.

in terms of dads money, what compromise can i make? nothing...compromise the fact that i dont want anyof it....yes thats fine on the basis its spent on siblings and mum.....compromise so that he can retain a relationship and give it all away to those greedy lazy people, no i cant do that anymore, as i and mum have been doing that for decades.......

the whole point of this frustration with both families is that ive done the compromising and nothign has changed so i dont want to carry on like this.