Tips on getting through every day without spending a penny !

setmefree2

ah now that's a different problem:rolleyes::o:D

amazamum

Hi setmefree2.
I know what you mean about him having some input,he does,he knows exactly what is paid out on what and anything major we have to buy we decide on together,he would just prefer not to have his card day to day,I think it takes temptation out of his way.:T

setmefree2

Elantan,

Actually, when I think about you are right, my Dad refused to have any interest in money. I think this is because he's very relgious and thinks as money as a bad thing (camels and eyes of neddles and all that). I think my Mum did think about not leaving most of her money to him but in the end couldn't bring herself to do it as it seemed like a betrayal- bet she'll be waiting at the pearly gates for him :A with a rolling pin!:eek:

Anyway, off to see our guru on the TV and then to watch the all new England squad:rotfl:

Night all

elantan

i think he is just scared in a way i dont mind as he earns good money and i get to spend it organise things like surprise holidays to thailand and gambia etc ...but at other times i feel frustrated cause he doesnt understand or want to understand ...but hey i have decided he will die before me anyway lol

mandy130

aardvaak wrote: »

That's how they got their money!

Was just thinking the same thing.

cupid_s

Lauren
Initially I read the thing about your kids not going to parties and though 'that's taking it a bit far'. But then I thought about my childhood. I don't remember any childrens parties really - even though I know I went - they're not really that important to me now. I do however remember my mom always being at home for me and my sister and not having to have to work. I remember my parents taking me on foreign holidays every year and to disneyworld twice despite my dad not earning very much.

I really appreciate all those things and hope one day to be able to pay my parents back. I also appreciate the money I had towards my wedding and university.

And I've been told on several occasions the only reason I've had any of that is because my parents worked exceptionally hard to pay off their mortgage before I was born so all the money that would have gone on the mortgage went on saving for our future and quailty family time/holidays.

I'm sure you'll kids will thank you for this in the long run.

Good luck (but do try to live a little too - you sound like you deserve it with all that hard work moneysaving!)

lauren565

hi all Another reason why i was not bothered about them going to parties was that the parents at my children's school are so snobby and are all catty with eachother, slagging each other off, back stabbing etc. so it was my choice to take a step back because i dont want to be involved in their gossip! So when they stopped talking to me because i wouldnt gossip about anyone, i got the cold shoulder.They dont even say hello to me anymore but then my children get a party invite and i think get stuffed! Maybe its because im a londoner now living in nottinghamshire? I dont know but ive never known a school with parents so gossipy. My husband totally agrees! Plus my daughter is getting bullied at the moment but we cant really do anything about it because it is by the daughter of a teaching assistant who is very well thought of. She might look like a little angel but she is a little devil. It really makes me mad. Her daughter says things like "my mum said your mum is stupid." and "my mum has got a photo of you at home (year photo of my daughter) and when we fall out, she smashes it". It really gets on my nerves so there you are. Cant be bothered with the fake nicesities of parties at the moment. Hope that makes sense !

lauren565

Zebedee69 said:
"Of course when your kids grow up as loners and social missfits and eventually walk into school with a gun and shoot 25 classmates dead atleast you can spend all that money saved on a good defence for them in court."



Are you an actor by any chance because you are very DRAMATIC. What planet do you live on you dozy dimwit? If my children do grow up and go on a shooting spree, because they missed out on a few children's birthday parties, I hope you will be first in the firing line.

Geez, I am stunned there are such pathetic prats out there like you to actually sit there and take the time to type all that into your pc. Do me a favour, go and see a psychiatrist.I hope you aint got kids because you sound like a total loon.

be-happy_2

Hi Lauren

Have just been following your thread. Do ignore any nasty comments about your children not going to birthday parties! Some people seem to have taken it very seriously haven't they?? You are their mum and you know what is best for them and for you as a family. I know about all that goes on at the school gates, as long as children have friends in school and meet children for social occasions outside of school, they are not necessarily going to be missing out on anything. When my children were young, (now teenagers), we also went throught the ludicrous rigmarole of spending every weekend ferrying them to parties all over the place, sometimes driving as much as 40 miles round trip. Half the time they weren't even bothered about going, since they were fed up with same old format - play on soft play, have nuggets and chips, long drive home - and sometimes were only there to make up the numbers as they hardly played with the birthday child anyway.

Still, it soon passes. My children often bring home invites now and announce that they don't want go, sometimes it is just not their scene, and they make their own excuse to their friends. No bad feelings.

Good luck with the moneysaving, but do have some fun. Spend whatever spare money you have on nice experiences for the kids rather than things, you sound like you do that anyway. I spent many years of visiting the library and feeding ducks. Great memories. I will try to think of some new money saving tips for you but now I have to GET OFF this computer and go and CLEAN UP!!

culpepper

I like the way you have itemised your plans for spending less lauren.
Re the party thing..my mum used to buy books at the jumble sale for us and if we were going to a party,we would just pick one out we had read and wrap it up. We never had parties ourseves.
My own kids would take a small token present (poundland etc)if going to parties and we would invite two special friends to birthday tea when it was our own childs birthday.we never bothered with party bags . They played games,ate and had a great time.