Pregnancy

poppyolivia

destiny_star2006 wrote: »

Why would a good doctor send your partner out????
They never did with my partner and i would have thought it quite rude if he did!
And i regard my doctor as i very good doctor!!!

just repeating what my doctor told me...she sent my husband out and I asked why and she explained...patient privacy.

anonymousie

destiny_star2006 wrote: »

Why would a good doctor send your partner out????
They never did with my partner and i would have thought it quite rude if he did!
And i regard my doctor as i very good doctor!!!

ITA, unless your doc picks up a "vibe" that things might be a problem, the fact that your parnter is there is taken that you can talk freely infront of him- come alone otherwise to the appt! Can you imagine the complaints it would raise either "doc excluded me from chat about my baby" or suspicion "what was going on whilst the doc and my girl were alone"........

squashy

Just my two pennorth! Your past gynae history is put on your notes but it is gobbledygook to anyone that doesn't know what it means, i think the word is para then a number. So for me when I had my 3rd baby it was para 2+2 which meant 2 live births3 and two unsuccessful pregnancies (ie miscarriages in my case). There is a section for detials of the gynae history but I'm sure they leave that blank and keep it confidential if the patient requests.

pavlovs_dog

poppyolivia wrote: »

just repeating what my doctor told me...she sent my husband out and I asked why and she explained...patient privacy.

seems crazy to me... if the bloke got you preggers then there's precious little down there that he probably aint seen

sarahlouise210

your notes will show "Gravida" followed by the number of times you have been pregnant - if this is an issue for you just tell the doctors the details but state you dont want your own notes that you carry around with you to have this information.

sarahlouise210

pavlovs_dog wrote: »

seems crazy to me... if the bloke got you preggers then there's precious little down there that he probably aint seen

I agree .. but I would not want my husband to watch me having an internal examination :eek:

Dormouse

sarahlouise210 wrote: »

I agree .. but I would not want my husband to watch me having an internal examination :eek:

But if he's going to be there at the birth, then surely seeing a MW's/Dr's hand up your bits is good preparation for the things to come (as they will get much more gory than that!:eek:). :rotfl:

Hardly any antenatal appointments involve an internal exam these days though. I wasn't examined internally once in two pregnancies, only when actually in labour.

IMHO it's up to the couple to decide whether the man should come to the routine appointments. I know some couples do that, but my DH never came with me to see the MW - I don't see the point taking the time off work just to see a MW fill some forms and test my pee. Scans are a different matter though.

Just to repeat what others have said, I just had the one appointment in the first 12 weeks, so your boss finding out shouldn't be a problem.
And congratulations on your pregnancy, Pollyanna. :T

Dormouse

inkie wrote: »

When do a vaginal examination we can tell if someone has been pregnant previously.

Just out of curiousity - how do you know? I'm just curious.

(You can PM me if the answer is unacceptable for a family forum )

pollyanna24

Thanks for everyone's answers. I think everything should be fine.

We're only trying at the moment, I'm not actually pregnant at the mo (well I say that, I'm just off to buy a pregnancy test, so I guess I could be). Is there a certain time of day that is best for these tests. I drink a lot of water during the day whilst at work, so don't want to "dilute" any test result.

freda

Hi Pollyanna

First thing in the morning is the best time to do a test. Are you late? If not, get one of the ones that tests 4 days early, but they are quite pricey so if you can bear it, wait till you're actually late.

My DH didn't go to any midwife appointments with me, as they are dead boring (blood pressure, wee sample - although you do get to hear the heartbeat after 18 weeks). But he did book time off work to go to the scans with me. I would really advise taking *someone* to the scans with you - if your dh is the person you rely on for support, take him. Sometimes, things can go awfully wrong at the scan, and unfortunately that has happened twice for me and I couldn't have coped without DH there. I hasten to add that in the vast majority of cases, all is fine!

If you want to keep your previous pregnancy history private, just mention it to the midwife on your first visit, when you fill in the approprioate forms. If your partner is going to be there, phone in advance and talk to the midwife on the phone, I'm sure they will be able to arrange it so that the questions you want kept private aren't asked with your dh there. You do get a set of notes that you keep with you and take to all your appointments, so it would be worth sorting this out from the outset.