What can i feed the fussiest eater in the world?

chickywiggle

ohhh my hubby is a nightmare too.

He will eat: processed chicken, normal chicken, cheese, ham, pasta (occasionally), golden drummers, and most forms of potato (apart from new or boiled), bread, sausages, bacon, pizza

He has finally started eating baked beans and fried eggs in the last 2 months

NO FRUIT OR VEG - of any form. If he so much as finds a piece of sweetcorn on his plate it gets thrown at me.

Oh and have I mentioned that onion is a no no - even if the ingredients say 'onion powder' he won't touch it regardless of if it tastes of onion or not.

I am tyring to cook more homemade meals: casserole, fresh chicken and bacon wraps, steak or chicken pie. but EVERYTIME I cook anything there is always SOMETHING wrong with it!!! i.e. chewy, no flavour, too much flavour

Having 'meal planned' for a couple of months now I have a bank of food to work from. Normally this involves the same meal a couple of nights, similar meals (i.e. he will have processed chicken and me fish but both have chips) and a few nights where we will have completly different food.

Have you checked out the meal plan threads on here? I have got some brill ideas off that since I found them. e.g http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?p=27841019

puddy

god what is wrong with them. as i say its all completely psychological. i have now decided that im not doing anymore cooking this week. i was going to do a stew in the slow cooker tomorrow, so he's going to miss out on that.

caeler

I sympathise. My ex wasn't as fussy but I certainly found it hard cooking something new and acceptable each night, he also worked shifts so planning was a nightmare. However I wanted to share that we frequently fell out about cooking/food. I too was a moneysaver and tried to meal plan and if I'm honest I was a total control freak.

I remember the arguements, I remember him telling me stay away from the kitchen as I'd interfere which I always did, it would annoy me which pan he'd use for certain things or which spoon or knife for cutting and he wouldn't cook things in the way I would, I considered not to my standards.

I look back now and wonder why I let it wind me up so much and why it seemed so important. In the scheme of things it really wasn't and I'm sure gave me an ulcer with all the worrying!

So I guess what I'm trying to say is try and find a way to move this forward but also try and find the balance and look after yourself.

elisebutt65

jenner wrote: »

in fact the more i think about it the more i like the idea of simply going on strike. everyday he will quiz me about where the ingredients came from for the food. when did i buy it, when was it opened, how long has it been in the freezer for etc etc. actually i dont know why im even bothering!

See I just wouldn't tell him - If he's going to behave like a child - which he is - then I'd treat him like one!

Tell you the truth, food faddyness drives me mental! My eldest DS(14) is just like that so I don't cook for him anymore Half the time if I do cook to his specifications, it's never quite right and goes in the bin and the other half of the time, he just refuses because it's the wrong colour/texture/ some other reason - he is Aspergic so I tend to just let him have cheese on toast or an omelette, or one of the other yellow things he wants (fishfinger sandwiches anyone?)

If you do the budgeting, then give him a daily food allowance and let him get on with it and you just cook for yourself. As for putting food in the freezer hot - Hahahahahahahaha - How come he's so fussy about other things, then he's prepared to ruin all the food in the freezer?

I'd have been out the door by July, after a month of that!

BexInLondon

You poor thing. As others have said, it sounds like a bigger issue than just finding ways to make food he likes - it doesn't sound like you can do that while simultaneously maintaining your health and sanity. Would he agree to talking with someone else about it, do you think? I think it does sound like you might need to eat separately.

ubamother

Breath deep and always remember - you didn't create this problem and you are not responsible for what another adult human being does, says or eats. Once you really take that on board, you then have choices - list the choices and decide which YOU like best.
Choices could include all sorts from the sensible to the insane:
Cooking two separate meals each night
You cook yours, he cooks his
Letting him shop and rack up debt
He eats what there is or starves
etc. etc.
Make the list, show him the list and then make a joint choice. Often seeing something in black and white can really help show you (and him) the reality of the situation. Good luck - and remember - you are not responsible for him!

liz105

has he regressed to childlike behaviour to counter losing his mum young?

you mentioned kids? do they live with you?

Penelope_Penguin

ubamother wrote: »

Cooking two separate meals each night
You cook yours, he cooks his
Letting him shop and rack up debt
He eats what there is or starves
etc. etc.

I was going to suggest a strategy along these lines

jenner wrote: »

case in point is tonight. he turned his nose up at fish curry. he said, that he would cook, using the fish and cook fish cakes. he said, you're not allowed to come out in the kitchen and interfere so i left him to it.

so, we now have on the table a mixture of white fish, mashed potato and a handful of peas, in a baking dish which serves 6 large adult portions. he consitently refuses to use salt in his cooking, so the result is bland, although edible. i have eaten 2 portions in order to try and eat it. the ratio of fish to potatoes is wrong, its mostly potato (although they are cheap), so its not great. we agreed that he would use mild curry powder in the mix, so that it was a sort of curried fish cake ( i didnt know he would be cooking it in a baking dish). no curry powder in it because 'I couldnt find it'. thats because you didnt bluddy look (as usual)

It's a shame you couldn;t have been a bit more enthusiastic That way, maybe he'd be keener to have another go in the future

As this has fallen from the front page of OS, I'll add it to the existing thread on fussy eaters

Penny. x

Pitlanepiglet

TBH, it sounds like you've got some pretty big issues within your relationship that this is just one symptom of. If you're six months into living together it all ought to be nice, new and cosy. You should be looking forward to your first Christmas together in your home (even if your not spending the day there IYSWIM). It really doesn't sound like everything in the garden is rosy, too many mind games going on by the sounds of it.

Your reaction to his cooking doesn't help. If you really want to solve this, then you need to find a creative strategy rather than just scoring points off him because that's how he treats you, I know it's difficult but tit for tat isn't going to help you.

Oh and I never use salt either, if people want to add it at the table then I don't have an issues with that but I very rarely cook with it.

puddy

bluefuzzybug wrote: »

I sympathise. My ex wasn't as fussy but I certainly found it hard cooking something new and acceptable each night, he also worked shifts so planning was a nightmare. However I wanted to share that we frequently fell out about cooking/food. I too was a moneysaver and tried to meal plan and if I'm honest I was a total control freak.

I remember the arguements, I remember him telling me stay away from the kitchen as I'd interfere which I always did, it would annoy me which pan he'd use for certain things or which spoon or knife for cutting and he wouldn't cook things in the way I would, I considered not to my standards.

I look back now and wonder why I let it wind me up so much and why it seemed so important. In the scheme of things it really wasn't and I'm sure gave me an ulcer with all the worrying!

So I guess what I'm trying to say is try and find a way to move this forward but also try and find the balance and look after yourself.

oh god, this is exactly the scenario here, i am a control freak, i think he ueses all the wrong knives and pans and i also dont know why i let it bother me so much, i need to relax more