what do you think?

rach!_3

tosca5 wrote: »

Is there a 24hr fraud hotline number:rolleyes:

i dont know is there?

TOBRUK

Just a thought .. if you were to phone the authorities of your suspitions and members of your family were investigated, how will you feel about it? Would you be able to live with your decision? If they found out it was you who reported it and made the allegations, would there be a massive family row ... what of the consequences?? What if they were investigated and everything was above board?

If you do suspect members of your family of fraud why don't you ask them face to face?

relay

rach! wrote: »

honestly? im not too bothered if they see this, as you will obviously already have worked out one of them is blood the other is not, if i asked the blood relative i would get i dont know and i honestly believe they dont as the other party keeps everything from them, and the other party i know is a member on here so that shows how much i dont care if they know im asking.
i dont believe how the non blood relative "makes" the blood relative live, just because thats the way they were brought up, everythign a con
insurance companies, benefits, banks, catalogues etc etc
honestly god knows how they get away with it so many times but they do
and i only wish i had all insurance company details all catalogue details etc because then i would something needs to be done to stop before the non blood relative gets into trouble and brings the blood relative down with them.

Listen, i wasn't being intentionally nasty to you Rach. All i am saying is just be very careful with the information you believe you have, things like this can turn very nasty and backfire if they are not managed properly & my personal feeling is that because it is such close family it would perhaps be best to let someone less involved to the talking, afterall they may well get done for fraud and end up in serious trouble - how will you feel if they come to you for a sympathetic ear because they trust you?

If you feel you are certain enough & have enough damning evidence then just do it anonymously and better still don't do it yourself period - let someone else.

tosca5

rach! wrote: »

honestly? im not too bothered if they see this, as you will obviously already have worked out one of them is blood the other is not, if i asked the blood relative i would get i dont know and i honestly believe they dont as the other party keeps everything from them, and the other party i know is a member on here so that shows how much i dont care if they know im asking.
i dont believe how the non blood relative "makes" the blood relative live, just because thats the way they were brought up, everythign a con
insurance companies, benefits, banks, catalogues etc etc
honestly god knows how they get away with it so many times but they do
and i only wish i had all insurance company details all catalogue details etc because then i would something needs to be done to stop before the non blood relative gets into trouble and brings the blood relative down with them.

No-one makes another live a way they don't want to be. If she is genuine and not a fraudster then i'm sure she'd have packed up by now.
You don't need catalouge/insurance details. If you really suspect 'they' are commiting fraud and if it'll make you and couple 1 feel better then pick up the phone.
Why would you do that though, if he is openly telling people he commits all these things then it'll come back to bite his !!! and you'll of had nothing to do with it.

rach!_3

TOBRUK wrote: »

Just a thought .. if you were to phone the authorities of your suspitions and members of your family were investigated, how will you feel about it? Would you be able to live with your decision? If they found out it was you who reported it and made the allegations, would there be a massive family row ... what of the consequences?? What if they were investigated and everything was above board?

If you do suspect members of your family of fraud why don't you ask them face to face?

please see my post the long one above yours
and as said in that i wouldnt be bothered, i am not the only who is against all the fraud they commit, the majority of the family are, but no one can speak to the non blood relative, they just wont listen/speak about stuff like that. although the blood relative "thinks" everything is right that the other one does, if that makes sense?
look i dont know why the ones who have jumped on my back have, but please try and understand and after reading the post 2 above TOBRUK's post how would you feel then?
i dont know if any of it makes sense to any of you.

tosca5

rach! wrote: »

please see my post the long one above yours
and as said in that i wouldnt be bothered, i am not the only who is against all the fraud they commit, the majority of the family are, but no one can speak to the non blood relative, they just wont listen/speak about stuff like that. although the blood relative "thinks" everything is right that the other one does, if that makes sense?
look i dont know why the ones who have jumped on my back have, but please try and understand and after reading the post 2 above TOBRUK's post how would you feel then?
i dont know if any of it makes sense to any of you.

No-one here is jumping on your back, We are just giving our thoughts that you asked for.

rach!_3

tosca5 wrote: »

No-one makes another live a way they don't want to be. If she is genuine and not a fraudster then i'm sure she'd have packed up by now.
You don't need catalouge/insurance details. If you really suspect 'they' are commiting fraud and if it'll make you and couple 1 feel better then pick up the phone.
Why would you do that though, if he is openly telling people he commits all these things then it'll come back to bite his !!! and you'll of had nothing to do with it.

you say that like you honestly believe it, never been in an abusive relationship then? and it isnt just to make me and couple 1 feel better either

tosca5

rach! wrote: »

you say that like you honestly believe it, never been in an abusive relationship then? and it isnt just to make me and couple 1 feel better either

I don't wish to discuss my 'personal business' on this thread.

rach!_3

oh please! i wasnt actually asking you, but if you honestly believe someone cant make you live how you dont want to live then im assuming not, believe me someone can make you live how you dont wnat to live.
im sorry but is it possible for this thread to be locked or whatever, please as it seems ive got all the help im going to and all other replies are people judging me and thats not why i came here.
please dont anyone else reply, unless its to say its locked.
i have things going on at the moment and i just cannot take all this ot be honest i just wanted some advice and thoughts on if they think the figures were correct.

tosca5

Oh dear, i made a mistake then, after seeing your question mark i assumed you were asking me.....silly me!
Yes, this thread is going nowhere, you have been given plenty advice. It's up to you what you do with it.