My rights to property, cash etc

UnsureAboutthis

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/82140753#Comment_82140753

Trusted until things go wrong hence my caution and, to a degree my OH's caution

Cubicsrube

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/82141366#Comment_82141366

I confess I’m very confused now. Your original post said that she had discovered that her husband was having an affair with a man, had put all the family’s assets in his name only, and she needed urgent advice before letting on that she knows.

Now you seem to be saying that there’s no suggestion of an affair or abuse and she’s happy to stay in her marriage. But also that you’ve told her to call Women’s Aid— a crisis support service for endangered domestic abuse victims? I don’t understand what you are looking for here.

Pollycat

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/82141466#Comment_82141466

I agree.

It's a very confusing thread.

We are getting information 3rd hand.

The OP's wife is talking to the woman involved, then relaying information to the OP who is then posting it here.

I think it's getting lost in translation.

There are holes in the posts made by the OP.

From the original post:

"She just discovered he is having an affair with another man. He does not know she knows about the affair or the property deeds."

From the latest post:

"As for the suggestion that the husband is seeing another woman, I have no evidence of this. Personally, I would consider it wrong for someone to have an affair while married, but that's beside the point because there is currently no evidence that he is doing so, and the friend hasn't been able to provide any either."

TBH, it's not your business to have 'evidence' of this alleged affair.

Your wife's friend either has or hasn't got valid evidence of his alleged affair.

Re Womans Aid:

"Women’s Aid is the national charity working to end domestic abuse against women and children"

Is your wife's friend a victim of domestic abuse?

You say:

"he doesn't want her to work until the youngest child reaches full-time school age. His reasoning is that he doesn't trust other people to look after their children when they are very young, particularly when they may not yet be able to tell their parents if something is wrong."

Is that 'want' or is he forbidding her to work?

There is a big difference.

If your wife's friend was my friend, I think I'd be questioning what she is saying about her relationship with this man who - from what you say - is generous and in your friend's own words:

"is loving, caring, loves their children".

Yorkie1

Just another factor to presume into the equation - does your wife's friend have the right to reside in the UK (either through citizenship, right to remain, etc?). It's just the mention of her family being outside the UK which made me wonder - and if her citizenship status could be threatened by her leaving, that might make her more vulnerable.

I know I could well be way off beam here, but if it's relevant, then there might also be other charities which can support her.

sheramber

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/82145284#Comment_82145284

I think as long as she is responsible for children who are UK citizens, assuming children born in UK , then she is safe.

Once they are grown up she would be vulnerable if no longer married , depending on her residency position.