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Dealing with death

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  • Brie
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    Sorry to hear about this. I can only imagine how difficult it is for you. My OH has had a couple of close calls which were a shock but they have helped us talk to each other at times and not to obsess too much about the trivial "who left the top off the milk" type of conflicts.

    When I have difficult things to get through I find it helps to write things down. So if there are things that you want to say to your wife maybe it would be easier to write them in a letter and let her read it rather than you trying to struggle with saying things directly to her. Or even if you have written it down (& wept throughout) then you may have the courage to read it to her yourself.

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  • NotRichAtAll
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    So my wife sadly passed away this morning :(

  • Annietott
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    I am so very sorry for your loss x

  • Yorkie1
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    Many condolences

  • Silvertabby
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    So very sorry.

  • Smudgeismydog
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    I’m so sorry

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  • RAS
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    Sorry that you had so little time together after you found out.

    If there is anything we can do to help now or in the future, please say. If you just want a chat, welcome.

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  • Florenceem
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    NotRichAtAll - I lost my dear husband in January. He went into a coma so we had no communication for the last week of his life. I continued to talk to him as they say hearing is the last sense to go.

    We had spoken about what he wanted at his celebration of life service. We are both Christians.

    My husband had no family apart from me. I have children from my first marriage.

    Grieving is a deeply personal and unique journey. I had the COL a month after he died - he had requested a direct cremation.

    If I can help or answer any questions please reach out.

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  • NotRichAtAll
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    Thank you for your messages, i only had my wife to lean on, never really needed friend's, so at the moment am still talking to her as if she was with me am keepin the place fairly tidy and there is a little bit of me expecting to walk in the door.

  • sheramber
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    All that is normal.

    You need time to grieve.

    From an earlier post you have a son. I hope he is being a support to you.

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