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Money Moral Dilemma: Should I pay for repairs to my fiancé's house in return for joint ownership?

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  • Cantandrex
    Cantandrex Posts: 22 Forumite
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    It seems like a very strange 'negotiation'. I wouldn't want to be involved in such a situation and would be really cautious. Maybe flip the situation - become the joint owner first, once you are married, and then contribute to the repairs? Whichever way, seek free legal advice and get everything put in writing!

  • WIAWSNB
    WIAWSNB Posts: 3,234 Forumite
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    edited 20 May at 8:55AM

    He hasn't shown his fiancée proof of ownership.

    We assume she has actually asked, but that isn't clear. So, step one - ask. If he refuses, then step two is out of that relationship.

    If he says anything remotely like, "Don't you trust me?", he is gaslighting, and that step should become a fast trot.

    If you are foolish enough to contemplate this contribution, then make it a defined sum - £10k, 20k whatevs, but have it included as a legal charge on the property. That can only happen with proof that it's his, and you should ultimately get your money back when the property is sold.

    There is no valid excuse for him to refuse this.

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