Money Moral Dilemma: Should I ask friends to pay for a meal when I might have said it was my treat?

bikaga

I'd say let it rest - unless you also want to look into who bought which round and if one of them paid for your Uber and gave the driver a tip in case some of the drinks decided to leave you on the way ;-)

I'm assuming from the way you phrased it that you're not really missing the money nor did you pay for 20 people - in those cases I'd ask them!

Groom

As NONE of them have offered to pay their share, I suspect that you did say it was your treat. Learn from that and just be glad nothing worse happened.

Lowry1986

As someone suggested, just choose one trusted friend and seek clarification! Simple!

Lisa2594

Big no. Don’t ask for the money from your friends.
Take this as a lesson to not get so drunk you can’t remember!
If anyone were to send you their share of the bill later, and nobody did then you likely said, it’s on me. If you get it back, then great.

Rocketdogroya

If you can afford it, suck it up as the cost of a great night with good company.

I had them all the time and now I can count them on one hand per year as life moves on.

You do not know how special those moments are until they are gone. The older (and in my case more disabled) we become the less we do and the less time we have with good friends. They move, get responsibilities, disabilities (in my case) or just drift away and are gone before you notice.

This isn't just me all my friends say the same. As if we saw each other 2-3 times a week and now its 2-3 times a year!

Cherish the moment if the money isnt important. I believe human connection is way more important in the long run than who paid for what (if you can afford it).

Greypony2021

Surely one of them would have thanked you for paying? If not ask the closest friend what happened. Most of us have been there!

Ed264

You all obviously had a good night out. I wouldn't worry about this at all, put it down to experience. Next time you all meet up again, maybe one of your friends will say 'It's my turn to pay the bill in full'. But I wouldn't bank on this!!

Gadgetvixen

just suck it up then, next time you all go out together, make sure you ask “whose turn is it to pay this time?”

JayD

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/81908018#Comment_81908018

Exactly!

So, you 'found out afterwards' that you had paid the whole bill.

If you normally split it it, then, unless your friends are devious people who would take advantage of you, it seems it most likely that you offered to pay.

In any case, hopefully it has been a lesson learned.

If you don't want to fork out for everyone's meals etc., don't get so drunk that you wont remember what was going on while you were out with them!

itsthelittlethings

Brilliant. Thank you for putting a smile on my face today.