Split up before expensive holiday

sheramber

Exodi said:

I suspect this is more of a vent than an actual question (and don't get me wrong, she sounds like a real piece of work).

Why didn't he do anything (e.g. cancelling) about the holiday when it transpired that she'd been cheating on him?  TUI (as an example) offers a refund of around 30% for cancellations in this window.

You've later said she told him she would go on her own, which I find absolutely incredulous. Even so, why didn't he seek to cancel his half of the holiday? That would have still been £450 in his pocket.

It sounds like he's unfortunately left himself wide open on this and she's been all to happy to take advantage.

FWIW I was cheated on after a decade long relationship (and in a cruel twist of fate, I was cheated on with the person who trained her at the job I helped her get). I can say that while it was devastating in the short term, time heals all things and a few months/years on he'll be in a better position than before with someone much better. Hopefully he didn't marry/have kids with her.

She was the lead person on the  booking so he could not cancel it. She would need to do it. 

Exodi

sheramber said:

Exodi said:

I suspect this is more of a vent than an actual question (and don't get me wrong, she sounds like a real piece of work).

Why didn't he do anything (e.g. cancelling) about the holiday when it transpired that she'd been cheating on him?  TUI (as an example) offers a refund of around 30% for cancellations in this window.

You've later said she told him she would go on her own, which I find absolutely incredulous. Even so, why didn't he seek to cancel his half of the holiday? That would have still been £450 in his pocket.

It sounds like he's unfortunately left himself wide open on this and she's been all to happy to take advantage.

FWIW I was cheated on after a decade long relationship (and in a cruel twist of fate, I was cheated on with the person who trained her at the job I helped her get). I can say that while it was devastating in the short term, time heals all things and a few months/years on he'll be in a better position than before with someone much better. Hopefully he didn't marry/have kids with her.

She was the lead person on the  booking so he could not cancel it. She would need to do it. 

Yes, ask her to cancel his half

saajan_12

pinkshoes said:

Murphsmum said:

Sorry, wasn’t well worded, they booked it together but it was in her name with him as the other person, so she was able to change it without telling him.

I wondered if she might have told him she’d paid it all and taken the money off him but we’ll probably never know as no one is coming forward to offer the money. She’s clearly lied about everything as she told my friend she was going in her own! There’s another financial issue, he helped pay for a car for her as well, basically she’s come out of it well and he’s lost everything.

He will move on but it’s hard at the moment, not just financially but emotionally.

I wondered if he’d be able to make a claim in the small claims court some how but it’s not looking very likely 

Ahh OK. I'd definitely try a Letter Before Action.

Dear <ex>.
On X date we booked a holiday together costing £6000, which we agreed to pay £3000 each.

On X date you changed the booking and removed my name from the booking so I was unable to go, and instead you added <name>. This was done without my permission or agreement.

You therefore owe me £3000 for your share of the holiday as previously agreed and still outstanding, as well as an additional £3000 for removing me from the booking and taking someone else.

I look forward to receiving the sum of £6000 within the next 28 days. If I do not receive the full payment within 28 days of receipt of this letter, I will be taking you to court where you will then be liable for all fees on top of the £6000.

This letter will be posted on 06 May 2025 first class with proof of postage, so will deemed to have been served on 08 May 2025 where the 28 days will commence.



Send with proof of postage. As for the car, probably best to forget that!

Did he actually pay the full £6000, and did she agree to recompense her half at the point of booking? 
If so, then teh above letter makes sense. 

My read of the OP and subsequent comments was that they each actually paid the £3k, but friend didn't get any benefit while the ex got the whole holiday. 
In that case, its at most the £3k in play. Maybe less as the holiday likely wasn't 100% refundable, and there'd have been cancellation fees taken off. 

elsien

Exodi said:

sheramber said:

Exodi said:

I suspect this is more of a vent than an actual question (and don't get me wrong, she sounds like a real piece of work).

Why didn't he do anything (e.g. cancelling) about the holiday when it transpired that she'd been cheating on him?  TUI (as an example) offers a refund of around 30% for cancellations in this window.

You've later said she told him she would go on her own, which I find absolutely incredulous. Even so, why didn't he seek to cancel his half of the holiday? That would have still been £450 in his pocket.

It sounds like he's unfortunately left himself wide open on this and she's been all to happy to take advantage.

FWIW I was cheated on after a decade long relationship (and in a cruel twist of fate, I was cheated on with the person who trained her at the job I helped her get). I can say that while it was devastating in the short term, time heals all things and a few months/years on he'll be in a better position than before with someone much better. Hopefully he didn't marry/have kids with her.

She was the lead person on the  booking so he could not cancel it. She would need to do it. 

Yes, ask her to cancel his half

I’m not sure it works like that if it’s a package holiday. You’d  be looking at under occupancy with the rooms, as a starting point? 

Exodi

elsien said:

Exodi said:

sheramber said:

Exodi said:

I suspect this is more of a vent than an actual question (and don't get me wrong, she sounds like a real piece of work).

Why didn't he do anything (e.g. cancelling) about the holiday when it transpired that she'd been cheating on him?  TUI (as an example) offers a refund of around 30% for cancellations in this window.

You've later said she told him she would go on her own, which I find absolutely incredulous. Even so, why didn't he seek to cancel his half of the holiday? That would have still been £450 in his pocket.

It sounds like he's unfortunately left himself wide open on this and she's been all to happy to take advantage.

FWIW I was cheated on after a decade long relationship (and in a cruel twist of fate, I was cheated on with the person who trained her at the job I helped her get). I can say that while it was devastating in the short term, time heals all things and a few months/years on he'll be in a better position than before with someone much better. Hopefully he didn't marry/have kids with her.

She was the lead person on the  booking so he could not cancel it. She would need to do it. 

Yes, ask her to cancel his half

I’m not sure it works like that if it’s a package holiday. You’d  be looking at under occupancy with the rooms, as a starting point? 

She cheated on him, I really don't see that as his problem... remember shes the one that still wanted to go on the holiday, really he should have insisted the whole thing was cancelled or he is reimbursed his half at her cost.

sheramber

Exodi said:

elsien said:

Exodi said:

sheramber said:

Exodi said:

I suspect this is more of a vent than an actual question (and don't get me wrong, she sounds like a real piece of work).

Why didn't he do anything (e.g. cancelling) about the holiday when it transpired that she'd been cheating on him?  TUI (as an example) offers a refund of around 30% for cancellations in this window.

You've later said she told him she would go on her own, which I find absolutely incredulous. Even so, why didn't he seek to cancel his half of the holiday? That would have still been £450 in his pocket.

It sounds like he's unfortunately left himself wide open on this and she's been all to happy to take advantage.

FWIW I was cheated on after a decade long relationship (and in a cruel twist of fate, I was cheated on with the person who trained her at the job I helped her get). I can say that while it was devastating in the short term, time heals all things and a few months/years on he'll be in a better position than before with someone much better. Hopefully he didn't marry/have kids with her.

She was the lead person on the  booking so he could not cancel it. She would need to do it. 

Yes, ask her to cancel his half

I’m not sure it works like that if it’s a package holiday. You’d  be looking at under occupancy with the rooms, as a starting point? 

She cheated on him, I really don't see that as his problem... remember shes the one that still wanted to go on the holiday, really he should have insisted the whole thing was cancelled or he is reimbursed his half at her cost.

But he didn't , for whatever reason. and it is too late now to do so.

elsien

Exodi said:

elsien said:

Exodi said:

sheramber said:

Exodi said:

I suspect this is more of a vent than an actual question (and don't get me wrong, she sounds like a real piece of work).

Why didn't he do anything (e.g. cancelling) about the holiday when it transpired that she'd been cheating on him?  TUI (as an example) offers a refund of around 30% for cancellations in this window.

You've later said she told him she would go on her own, which I find absolutely incredulous. Even so, why didn't he seek to cancel his half of the holiday? That would have still been £450 in his pocket.

It sounds like he's unfortunately left himself wide open on this and she's been all to happy to take advantage.

FWIW I was cheated on after a decade long relationship (and in a cruel twist of fate, I was cheated on with the person who trained her at the job I helped her get). I can say that while it was devastating in the short term, time heals all things and a few months/years on he'll be in a better position than before with someone much better. Hopefully he didn't marry/have kids with her.

She was the lead person on the  booking so he could not cancel it. She would need to do it. 

Yes, ask her to cancel his half

I’m not sure it works like that if it’s a package holiday. You’d  be looking at under occupancy with the rooms, as a starting point? 

She cheated on him, I really don't see that as his problem... remember shes the one that still wanted to go on the holiday, really he should have insisted the whole thing was cancelled or he is reimbursed his half at her cost.

You may not, but that is a question of morality. My reply was to do with the practicalities of package holiday bookings and changes to them. Not the same thing.