Split up before expensive holiday

Murphsmum

A friend of mine had booked an expensive holiday (£6000) with his partner, 6 weeks before they were due to go he found out she’d been cheating on him, obviously he moved out. She refused to see him or speak to him other than what’s app messages (been together over 10 years). To cut a long story short she has gone on the expensive, once in a lifetime holiday with the bloke she was seeing behind my friends back, has never offered to pay my friend half the money that he paid and I’m assuming the other bloke won’t pay either. He’s basically got a very expensive holiday for nothing 🤬🤬🤬🤬

HampshireH

Presumably the girlfriend booked it else she wouldn't have been able to change the name on the booking 

Not sure what your asking though?

Flugelhorn

I am not sure what you are asking - TBH not much your friend can do, is he financially tangled up with her in any other way? if not then he is lucky and can make his escape

she may well not have told the new bloke that the ex paid for half the holiday 

Devongardener

You say he booked and paid for the holiday, so how did the ex manage to change the booking?  There would have been emails and possibly texts to confirm any changes and pre flight book in information.
If he had booked it himself he could have cancelled the holiday and taken any financial hit then. Did he really sit back and forget about the holiday until he discovered the ex and new partner had gone?

Tucosalamanca

What's to say that the other bloke hasn't made a contribution to the holiday by giving money to the ex?

She might have taken the £3,000 from new partner to use as spending money, or new partner might have offered to pay for everything else during the trip. You really don't know.

At the end of a ten year relationship, if the final outcome of the break up is being £3,000 out-of-pocket, I'd say that your friends done ok (it could have been a lot worse).

Time for them to move on?

Hoenir

Bite the bullet and move on. Life is full of uncontrollable events. 

pinkshoes

Murphsmum said:

A friend of mine had booked an expensive holiday (£6000) with his partner, 6 weeks before they were due to go he found out she’d been cheating on him, obviously he moved out. She refused to see him or speak to him other than what’s app messages (been together over 10 years). To cut a long story short she has gone on the expensive, once in a lifetime holiday with the bloke she was seeing behind my friends back, has never offered to pay my friend half the money that he paid and I’m assuming the other bloke won’t pay either. He’s basically got a very expensive holiday for nothing 🤬🤬🤬🤬

If your friend booked it and paid for it, then it was HIS holiday to go on, so why didn't he go?!? Why didn't he just change the details and take her OFF the holiday or take someone else with him? With 6 weeks to go, then there would have been elements that could be refunded.

If she has fraudulently changed the booking without him knowing, then he needs to send her a Letter Before Action outlining the FACTS (don't waffle about the affair - that's irrelevant), and that she has 28 days to pay him the £6000 in full before he takes her to court for the money.]

You can't just change details on a holiday without permission from the person who booked it.

Are you sure there's not more to this story?

Murphsmum

Sorry, wasn’t well worded, they booked it together but it was in her name with him as the other person, so she was able to change it without telling him.

I wondered if she might have told him she’d paid it all and taken the money off him but we’ll probably never know as no one is coming forward to offer the money. She’s clearly lied about everything as she told my friend she was going in her own! There’s another financial issue, he helped pay for a car for her as well, basically she’s come out of it well and he’s lost everything.

He will move on but it’s hard at the moment, not just financially but emotionally.

I wondered if he’d be able to make a claim in the small claims court some how but it’s not looking very likely 

HampshireH

What would he be claiming for?

He voluntarily paid for the car for her in her name. He didn't have to he chose to. It wasn't conditional on the relationship not ending ...... Or was there a loan agreement set up?


Likewise the holiday. You say no one is forthcoming with money. Has he asked? Has he  requested? Probably too late now. 

Devongardener

Another ‘asking for a friendk post,  if the friend was really concerned he should post his story himself with any details he chooses to reveal.

pinkshoes

Murphsmum said:

Sorry, wasn’t well worded, they booked it together but it was in her name with him as the other person, so she was able to change it without telling him.

I wondered if she might have told him she’d paid it all and taken the money off him but we’ll probably never know as no one is coming forward to offer the money. She’s clearly lied about everything as she told my friend she was going in her own! There’s another financial issue, he helped pay for a car for her as well, basically she’s come out of it well and he’s lost everything.

He will move on but it’s hard at the moment, not just financially but emotionally.

I wondered if he’d be able to make a claim in the small claims court some how but it’s not looking very likely 

Ahh OK. I'd definitely try a Letter Before Action.

Dear <ex>.
On X date we booked a holiday together costing £6000, which we agreed to pay £3000 each.

On X date you changed the booking and removed my name from the booking so I was unable to go, and instead you added <name>. This was done without my permission or agreement.

You therefore owe me £3000 for your share of the holiday as previously agreed and still outstanding, as well as an additional £3000 for removing me from the booking and taking someone else.

I look forward to receiving the sum of £6000 within the next 28 days. If I do not receive the full payment within 28 days of receipt of this letter, I will be taking you to court where you will then be liable for all fees on top of the £6000.

This letter will be posted on 06 May 2025 first class with proof of postage, so will deemed to have been served on 08 May 2025 where the 28 days will commence.



Send with proof of postage. As for the car, probably best to forget that!