Split up before expensive holiday

silvercar

A holiday costing £6000 usually involves a flight. How easy is it to change a name on a flight ticket? 

Pollycat

silvercar said:

A holiday costing £6000 usually involves a flight. How easy is it to change a name on a flight ticket? 

Wouldn't it depend on who with/how it was booked?

Both TUI and Jet2 offer holidays more expensive than £3k per person using their own airlines so there is no need of a name change on the flight tickets.
We don't know what a 'holiday of a lifetime' actually means to the OP's friend.
It could be 2 weeks in a high end Lake Garda hotel with private pool or a back-packing holiday through South East Asia.

pinkshoes

silvercar said:

A holiday costing £6000 usually involves a flight. How easy is it to change a name on a flight ticket? 

Relatively easy if you're the lead booking person. You just need the name of the other person, passport details, then pay an admin fee to change them over. 

It was booked in her name so she was able to do this and the notification would have gone to her email so he would not have known about it. 

Although I'm curious to know how he DID find out?

@Murphsmum did your friend get told by his ex that she'd taken him off the holiday? Or did he turn up at the airport to find he was no longer booked on?

sheramber

Could the holiday payment and the car payment be treated a gifts if there is no evidence of her agreeing to pay him back?

pinkshoes

sheramber said:

Could the holiday payment and the car payment be treated a gifts if there is no evidence of her agreeing to pay him back?

The car probably could be, but I doubt the holiday could. Perhaps her half, BUT... as she has taken someone else then he should be able to show that she needs to pay the whole amount, as no judge would believe that he would happily pay for her and someone else to go on holiday!!

Murphsmum

Maldives.
@pinkshoes she didn’t actually tell him she’d taken him off, she just told him she was going on her own. She blocked anyone that might know her on fb but obviously didn’t think about mutual people, someone who knows my friend is a friend of hers on fb and she posted that she was in an airport with this other bloke then when questioned about it said she knew he would have spy’s and wondered how long it would take for him to find out! Pure evil

pinkshoes

Murphsmum said:

Maldives.
@pinkshoes she didn’t actually tell him she’d taken him off, she just told him she was going on her own. She blocked anyone that might know her on fb but obviously didn’t think about mutual people, someone who knows my friend is a friend of hers on fb and she posted that she was in an airport with this other bloke then when questioned about it said she knew he would have spy’s and wondered how long it would take for him to find out! Pure evil

I'd get the friend of friend of ex to screenshot the photos and anything useful just in case.

I'd then send the Letter Before Action as per my suggestion on the first page (post 11) and see what happens.

Spendless

If hed been able to cancel hol when he discovered that gf had been cheating, (you put 6 weeks before they went) how much of his £3k would he have got back? Usually hol companies reduce the amount they'll refund the closer it is to the hol.
Morally that doesnt change things about new bloke going when friend paid but it might affect any legal claim he may have. 

Cobbler_tone

My advice would be to lick their wounds and move on. Life is far, far too short to be consumed by bitterness, anger, regret and wasting too much time and emotion on something like this. They haven't actually lost any money because the money had gone. They have missed out on a holiday with someone who is better off consigned to their past.

Exodi

I suspect this is more of a vent than an actual question (and don't get me wrong, she sounds like a real piece of work).

Why didn't he do anything (e.g. cancelling) about the holiday when it transpired that she'd been cheating on him?  TUI (as an example) offers a refund of around 30% for cancellations in this window.

You've later said she told him she would go on her own, which I find absolutely incredulous. Even so, why didn't he seek to cancel his half of the holiday? That would have still been £450 in his pocket.

It sounds like he's unfortunately left himself wide open on this and she's been all to happy to take advantage.

FWIW I was cheated on after a decade long relationship (and in a cruel twist of fate, I was cheated on with the person who trained her at the job I helped her get). I can say that while it was devastating in the short term, time heals all things and a few months/years on he'll be in a better position than before with someone much better. Hopefully he didn't marry/have kids with her.