New lodger now using house as daycare

CoralBeach2411

After many successful long term lodger with hardly any problems we took on a new lodger while we said no children we agreed he could have is 3 year old over one night a week 
The room is very large with huge tv our sitting room and garden are private as there’s large woods around to take kids.
since the holidays began he’s has the child there every day running round upstairs running through the front room to the garden. My husband has been in work zoom calls when she wanders in 
we never agreed to having a child every day of the holidays .
I feel that I have to sit in my bedroom as everywhere I go he seems to loiter with the child in tow 
today I went into the kitchen and there were 2 children when I asked about it he got very aggrieved and said that he has to have the other child whenever his wife needs to do something
My husband is going to talk to him tonight
I feel that his childcare is not my responsibility and having a child running round upstairs, it’s not right
We have been over backwards, but he seems to just be taking the !!!!!!

Flugelhorn

definitely taking the !!!! 

Can imagine it must be tricky for him with an expectation that he helps with childcare but this is very different from one night a week... and whose is the second child?  He really should have been more open about this when he first saw you - he needs to find a bedsit instead where he won't be disturbing people. 

just thinking though - how long is the 3 year old likely to be coming for? where are they normally during the week?

propertyrental

Serve appropriate notice (presumably you know what this is?) and evict.

It's your home.

CoralBeach2411

They live with mother older boy isn’t his  
The listing stated no children but we thought we were being kind saying one night a week so far the younger ones been there everyday from 9-4. I work from home and I’m doing out a room upstairs but I’m afraid to go up there as he’s creepy and I don’t feel comfortable. 

If he’d have said there would be a child there every day during holidays I’d have not let the room to him 

CoralBeach2411

I’ve been sat in a supermarket car park rather than go home 

RAS

So give him notice. What did you agree as the notice period before he moved in?

I hope you didn't use the word tenant and didn't specify a fixed term?

CoralBeach2411

No it’s a rolling monthly thing with a months notice. When he moved in, he paid the deposit, then said he would pay from the time he moved into the first, and then monthly from the first, I thought it was a bit narky to be telling me what he was going to do. I should’ve trusted my gut we have a proper sign contract a lodger agreement. He didn’t want to sign the lodger agreement which I found a bit odd. 

PRAISETHESUN

Check your lodger agreement, and then service notice as per the terms. Lodgers (assuming they actually are one) have fairly minimal rights so it's fairly easy to get them to leave if they don't adhere to the conditions of the agreement.

CoralBeach2411

Thanks for the replies and support I didn’t sleep last night as my heart was racing thinking was I being too picky 

CoralBeach2411

PRAISETHESUN said:

Check your lodger agreement, and then service notice as per the terms. Lodgers (assuming they actually are one) have fairly minimal rights so it's fairly easy to get them to leave if they don't adhere to the conditions of the agreement.

Definitely a lodger as my husband and myself live there. On front of agreement I wrote main bullet points shared rooms listed, agree to child staying one night a week 
couldn’t have been clearer 
it’s just having a young child running around upstairs all day wandering around the house I feel he should have informed us of these plans so we had an option to say no 

RAS

You don't seem to get it, yet.

You give him one month's notice. Do check if that's one month served before the next period starts, or from today. Maybe copy out the clause here?

And then you remind him that during the rest of the time he lives in the house he can have one child present for one day a week. How he manages his other parental duties is his problem, not yours.