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New lodger now using house as daycare

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  • propertyrental
    propertyrental Posts: 3,391 Forumite
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    edited 25 July 2024 at 3:23PM
    Next time, rent weekly and 1 weeks notice. It can be horrible spending a whole month with someone once the relationship is broken.

    this time, serve the 1 month. If he finds somewhere to go earlier, agree to let him go with rent paid pro rata up to date he leaves. No point adding to stress by arguing over rent.
    edit: even if he promises to alter the child arrangements, don't agree and don't withdraw notice. This lodger is not for you.


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  • thegreenone
    thegreenone Posts: 1,188 Forumite
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    One month's notice takes you, roughly, to the end of the school holidays.  I imagine things would improve with the children then, but he's taken the p*ss and if he makes you feel uncomfortable, he needs to go.

    Can you sit down with the lodger and go through the contract signed?  He needs to stop having the children and only have one child one night a week.  I don't know the legals but perhaps suggest he goes to his wife's house to look after the children there and return to sleep in your house.
  • Bookworm105
    Bookworm105 Posts: 2,016 Forumite
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    edited 25 July 2024 at 4:17PM
    what do you expect to get from this forum?

    it is your house, your rules, you have 2 choices....
    if you want the money then accept the situation
    if you don't want the money them give him notice and replace him.

    moralising / limiting what is "reasonable" for a (separated) father wanting time with his child is not going anywhere 
  • Flugelhorn
    Flugelhorn Posts: 7,311 Forumite
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    it clearly is causing you a major problem and I would feel the same - bizarre that there is randomly a child that isn't even his! Does that child's father know where he is all day? 

    definitely given notice - he clearly pushes too many boundaries
  • the kids are still upstairs we can hear them shouting we are giving him notice this evening .
    He can use his ex house anytime I don’t know why he doesn’t have them there. 
  • HobgoblinBT
    HobgoblinBT Posts: 310 Forumite
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    If he has child care duties for his wife why can’t he look after the children at her home?
  • propertyrental
    propertyrental Posts: 3,391 Forumite
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    Less time posting here
    More time serving notice, or better still agreeing an amicable, immediate move.
  • meant to meant to say if he found place sooner we can accommodate that  
  • If he has child care duties for his wife why can’t he look after the children at her home?
    If he has child care duties for his wife why can’t he look after the children at her home?
    She’s moved her new bf in 
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