So very cross with my best friend. Am I over thinking?

elsien

I’d probably be fairly miffed in your situation, but also think the fact you are so recently bereaved means that maybe some of your emotions are getting displaced towards her?

People who post like that and the “are you alright, Hun?” ones who respond tend to do it just because they’re incredibly shallow and looking for a bit of drama. Social media, it’s all for the likes.
Although  “personal to your family” doesn’t really exist anymore, and can’t  be expected in this day and age. 

I think I agree with your husband. Message her and ask her to take it down or just let it go. It’ll be the equivalent of yesterday’s chip paper by tomorrow. 

sheramber

You cannot control what other people do.

You can only contri=ol what you do,

T.T.D

I make about 3-4 posts a year on Facebook, I comment on local group pages if know the answers or can offer advise but I don’t use it as a gateway to have a Drama party or pitty party on the back of someone else’s bad news to garner sympathy, empathy and compassion from others. 

Sounds like it’s someone you don’t need to visit three or four times a year in your life.

let it go, re focus. People are not stupid and when someone has a pattern of being the centre of attention they tend to be kept at arms length in the outside world. 

Sorry for your loss. 

Emmia

You could delete her as a friend and block her.

Debbie9009

OP condolences on your loss, this must be a difficult time for you.

I can understand why this has made you cross, some people like to make everything about themselves.

Has your hubby advised not posting anything because he is concerned she might be unpleasant to you and upset you even more ? I would consider how you might feel if she then turns this into an even bigger drama, is this something you really want to deal with now.  Sometimes it’s best to just not react at all, that alone may make her realise she has upset you.

In your shoes I would consider how good a friend she really and not tell her anything further about your brother, and maybe consider if the friendship has reached it’s natural end.

Snow9

Sorry for your loss im sure in time you will find the best way to deal with her post unfortunately you will always get 90% of people on facebook begging for attention

marcia_

 People on Facebook are addicted to likes. You are vulnerable at the minute best just ignore it or block them if you can't. 

kimwp

Sorry for your loss, it's a very sad situation to lose anyone you love. I would be similarly upset at a friend writing a post like that, she presumably sees it as an appropriate post (or she wouldn't have written it) and maybe even thinks it is a suitable tribute to your brother, to express how deep his loss is. 

She may be one of those people who (unintentionally) inflates the importance of her feelings compared to those of others. She may genuinely feel that she is devastated, even though she barely knew your brother. 

A lot of people are also not great at empathising with others, particularly if they have not been in the particular situation themselves.

It's clear that while it is a thoughtless post, it has not been written with intent to harm or upset you. 

I think, if you can, it would be best to not let it take up space in your head, by thinking about other things. Then at a later date, talk to her about it and consider whether you want this person in your life, balancing what she brings to your life with the negatives. I was going to suggest that you write her a private message explaining how you feel about the post and asking if she would take it down, but there is a potential that might open a dialogue which might upset you more.

On a practical note, there are settings to block someone's posts from showing in your feed and also from seeing your posts/pics etc while still remaining "friends".

bouicca21

My local fb group is full of posts like that.  People are devastated because they have seen a dead cat/fox/bird or because a teacher at the school they went to 50 years ago and haven’t seen since has died.  I find it rather sad, it’s almost as though they want to have experienced deep emotions but don’t know how.

just let it go.

Marvel1

People deal with grief in different ways, let it go.

Even though the extra bits after were not needed and too much.