I'm dying of cancer

Morglin

missmsp wrote: »

I've been diagnosed with secondary breast cancer on my lung. I don't know how long I've got but I'm hoping for a couple of years. I have no dependants and my estate will go to my family parents/sibling. I am 49.
I've always been a good moneysaving girl but now my priorities have changed as my mortgage etc will get paid off when I die. I want the money now so I can enjoy myself & travel.
I've thought of getting a break from mortgage payments as a starter but have you any other suggestions that would release funds now that will get paid off when I die.
I don't want to go down the equity release of my home just yet.

Make a list of dreams you'd like to fulfill - and try to do them one by one.

And, keep positive - the medics often get it all wrong with their prognosis (trust me).:rolleyes:

Best of luck.

Lin

hamletcigars

stamford wrote: »

A thoroughly nasty, vile and offensive post.

If you've nothing constructive to add to a thread as is your norm why don't you do something useful like step out in front of a bus.

Pot/kettle ,get a grip,please

OddjobKIA

Sell your hous emove into a rented flat and enjoy yourself with whats left.....

[Deleted User]

Well it's not me guys and gals I am living with my cancer, not dying with it, and I shall fight it as long as I can.;) There is a fantastic site called www.bcpals.org.uk and they have lots of help on there .I feel for anyone who has secondarys, but no one can say for sure when or how you will go,not even Doctors .
It seems very strange that a Doctor has said this as they are loathe to state with any degree of certainty about the time scale at all.

I am getting on with my chemo, and when this is finished then I have a month of being cooked via the Radio Therapy, and fingers crossed I will be in remisssion by June of next year. I will still have five years of Tamoxifen drug therapy to take before getting the all clear so it quite a long haul

When I was first told that I had cancer in June I couldn't believe it:eek: as I had no lumps or normal symptoms ,but there it was on a mammogram .

After the initial shock wore off I thought well I have two options I can lay down and feel sorry for myself, or I can just get on with things as best as I can .I did the latter as I'm not very good at laying down and giving up.I am far too stubborn .
My late husband ,bless him always said I would probably row with the Almighty at the pearly gates if I felt like it .I am quite a feisty old bird .:D

I looked at it this way if I survive then it was great and I can get on with my life
If I didn't then I would hopefully see my lovely husband and after I gave him a darned good nagging for going off too soon then we would be re-united again.
It is a win-win situation:D I just can't lose.
Seriosly though .I am even closer to my family and friends now than I ever was before .People attitudes do change, and you soon find out who your true friends really are.
The ones that are there for you don't care whether you are bald or not they just care about you not how you look .I had one 'friend 'who actually told me 'Would I mind not seeing so much of her as she was worried it was contagious :eek: Needless to say I havn't seen her since. I never once thought about selling up or blowing all of my cash on anything .I enjoy life more or less as normal and not a lot has changed, although I do tire a lot quicker but everyone knows that and why.I have a constant supply of DVD's from friends to watch when I am having a bad week and spend a lot of time in my nice ralaxing chair that I treated myself to. I read almost continually and watch t.v. a bit more than I did before .I have my computer so when I can't get out for what ever reason I can always come on here and have a natter to someone.No life isn't perfect and it's certainly different from this time last year but I don't worry about cash or what will happen to it when I pop my clogs .I know I am lucky to have two wonderful daughters who live close by, and of course the grandkids to keep me on my toes.If I was going to count anything up it wouldn't be money it would be my blessing as I have many more than I could number .
Cancer is just another hurdle to get over .If I can cope with losing my beloved husband ,cancer is a doddle in comparison.

Life is for living ,not for contemplating dying

needmoney

Good for you Jackie, very brave attitude.
I don't think brave is the word I was looking for actually there must be a bettr one,but I hope you know what I mean.

Admirable, I admire you,.

Fran

OP,

I'm sorry you've had to read the appalling attitudes of some people on this thread.

Have you claimed Disability Living Allowance? It is not income related, anyone can claim. This is the phone number for claimants and their carers/representatives: Benefits Enquiry Line - 0800 882200 (0800 220674 in Northern Ireland) or Minicom 0800 243355.

Poppycat

I just spoke with my friend one of his friends has cancer who has had it for 5 years and had treatment, until recently he has been able to get about, now sadly he has it in his spine and is now paralized from waste down.

Also has a close relative he is only 40 and has 3 months to live and is in a hospice.

It really does make you put your own selfish thoughts into prospective

Poppycat wrote: »

I do no someone who has terminal cancer now, and its not a close friend just a friend of a friend, I do no that they dont want my friend to see them for whatever reason, and I no my friend said they going to see them last week so I no later today whether they went or not.

fluffymuffy

My life insurance pays out on a diagosis of terminal illness - I thought they all did (?) - check the small print. There have been cases where the life company paid out in good faith and then the customer recovered and they didn't have to pay it back.

aurora_borealis_2

missmsp wrote: »

I've been diagnosed with secondary breast cancer on my lung. I don't know how long I've got but I'm hoping for a couple of years. I have no dependants and my estate will go to my family parents/sibling. I am 49.
I've always been a good moneysaving girl but now my priorities have changed as my mortgage etc will get paid off when I die. I want the money now so I can enjoy myself & travel.
I've thought of getting a break from mortgage payments as a starter but have you any other suggestions that would release funds now that will get paid off when I die.
I don't want to go down the equity release of my home just yet.

The fact that the OP signed off immediately after posting, and hasn't returned, suggests an AE.
Strange choice of forum though for a usual member, perhaps she has friends here

Her understanding of her prognosis worries me. OP, find out more ... you need to know where you stand as far as treatment options are concerned, dependent on whether you have a solitary or multiple metastases. Apart from for your own sake, financial institutions will need to have a definitive prognosis.

filigree_2

I'll assume the OP is genuine and perhaps has more pressing things on her mind than checking back on forums! Best wishes whoever you are and do ask if there's anything else I or anyone else can help with.

I second the advice to apply for DLA but make sure you do it under the Special Rules - you need to ask your oncologist to sign the DS1500 form (I think that's what it's called). The MacMillan charity can offer advice on benefits. Your claim is fast-tracked and you automatically get the highest rate. For reasons best known to the DWP they gave me the highest rate of care AND mobility, so that's £109.50 a week. Of course I'd rather be poor and healthy, but if you're seriously ill you might as well claim whatever's available.

When I'm too sick to work I'll take early retirement on the grounds of ill health. My current employer will pay me the pension I would have got if I'd worked to the age of 65, plus a lump sum. I've got two other pensions but I'm not sure how much they'll pay out. If I'm lucky there'll be enough to pay off a wedge of the mortgage and maybe enough for a good holiday.

I asked about terminal illness cover from my life insurance, but no such luck. There's no harm in asking though, different policies have different rules.

I also recommend the www.bcpals.org.uk site - there is a special section on their forum for women with secondary breast cancer.