Widowed parents backpayments and receiving benefits

sheramber

Unfortunatley, no matter how many times you repeat it here , we cannot change anything.

Whether we think it is fair or not is not going to changr anything.

You are going round in circles here.

Lodge your appeal and  let us know what the result.

Dorothys_slipper

Thanks for all your comments. I think it's just been a stressful and upsetting few months.

peteuk

Dorothys_slipper said:

Thanks for all your comments. I think it's just been a stressful and upsetting few months.

I know this is easier said then done, but in cases like this its always best, I believe to expect nothing and so when you get nothing your not disappointed.  If you are awarded something then it’s a bonus. 

There have been cases on here of a widow who married a week before the deadline, so therefore recieved nothing as they were no longer entitled.   It’s always difficult when the government or media say this is happening and a lot of people get their hopes up, only to be disappointed. 

I know my situation is different however I still apply the same expect nothing, anything recieved is a bonus.  I got a letter form a loan company saying they agreed with my complaint about irresponsible lending and my claim is worth £5K, at present the payout may be 20% - wont know until August however I expect nothing and so anything recieved in August is a bonus…(likely to get nothing though) 

Dorothys_slipper

peteuk said:

Dorothys_slipper said:

Thanks for all your comments. I think it's just been a stressful and upsetting few months.

I know this is easier said then done, but in cases like this its always best, I believe to expect nothing and so when you get nothing your not disappointed.  If you are awarded something then it’s a bonus. 

There have been cases on here of a widow who married a week before the deadline, so therefore recieved nothing as they were no longer entitled.   It’s always difficult when the government or media say this is happening and a lot of people get their hopes up, only to be disappointed. 

I know my situation is different however I still apply the same expect nothing, anything recieved is a bonus.  I got a letter form a loan company saying they agreed with my complaint about irresponsible lending and my claim is worth £5K, at present the payout may be 20% - wont know until August however I expect nothing and so anything recieved in August is a bonus…(likely to get nothing though) 

Thanks for your reply. I do agree with you. I think it just made it worse that when I rang a few months ago, I was told "If it was a definite no, then you would have been told by now", so it's given me false hope. I think if I'd still been with my husband, I wouldn't feel it as much but I still feel widowed and have spent the majority of the time being a single parent on my own, so I feel so disappointed. I am lucky in many ways, so I know I need to hold onto that.