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Divorce

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  • GDB2222
    GDB2222 Posts: 26,556 Forumite
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    Well, see what you can agree, but be prepared to be flexible. Bear in mind that what you save in solicitors' bills will go towards housing, so be very reasonable.  
    No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?
  • Thejoke15
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    She wants stay in the house biggest problem 
  • GDB2222
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    Thejoke15 said:
    She wants stay in the house biggest problem 
    Well, you may end up spending a fortune on lawyers, but it's worth trying to discuss this between you.

    A 3 bed house should meet her needs with the 2 children. That leaves you with a 3 bed house, so the kids can visit. It's a reasonable solution, but people tend not to be at their most reasonable during a divorce.   
    No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?
  • Thejoke15
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    She will get legal aid though
  • Flugelhorn
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    option would be for her to stay in the house with the children and you buy a 3 bed house somewhere else 
  • GDB2222
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    edited 22 April 2024 at 6:40AM
    Thejoke15 said:
    She will get legal aid though
    Only if she has suffered domestic abuse or she is at risk of homelessness because you are trying to evict her from the family home. Suggesting that the home is sold so that you can both be housed is not making her homeless.
    No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?
  • swingaloo
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    Flugelhorn said:
    option would be for her to stay in the house with the children and you buy a 3 bed house somewhere else 
    He needs to sell the house they now live in to but them a house each. He does not have funds to buy  a 3 bed for himself if she stays in the house.
  • RAS
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    Thejoke15 said:
    DIY I was hoping she knows all the money come from my parents 
    Please get that thought out of your head. You are married and the house is an asset of the marriage, regardless of where the money came from. If you use that argument in court or mediation, you'll be fried.

    However, her staying in the specific house isn't reasonable if she can get another one for half the value. 

    Do either of you have pensions? If so, those are also in the pot for sharing.
    If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing
  • Thejoke15
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    Very little pensions
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