Divorce

swingaloo

What Marcia is getting at is this. During the time you were together you had 2 children, whether or not your wife would have worked full time had you not had children doesn't matter. It's when you say she never paid  a penny to the house bills or mortgage, this was something you presumably agreed to at the time and she was contributing by raising the children. There are more ways a person contributes to the running of a home and childcare than just financially.

Is this going to be an amicable split? does your wife want to sell the house, is she happy at 50/50?

Thejoke15

I am not particularly bothered weather she paid or not . No she wants to stay in the house but I want my own house.

marcia_

 Duplicate thread https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/6522227/divorce#latest

marcia_

Thejoke15 said:

I am not particularly bothered weather she paid or not . No she wants to stay in the house but I want my own house.

 You want your children uprooted from their family home at the same time they are processing mummy & daddy living apart? 

swingaloo

Then the situation may well be that she will be unable to stay in the house.  If selling will buy you both a property then that keeps a roof over her and the children's heads. Most people want divorce and to keep the current lifestyle which is never possible. The children are the priority not the ex wife. 

Is it amicable? will she discuss selling the house. The danger is that unless you can reach an agreement a lot of money can be wasted fighting through solicitors.

Thejoke15

We’re do you want me too live then

marcia_

Thejoke15 said:

We’re do you want me too live then

 Buy yourself a new place, you say you wanted to buy the wife a new home so assume you have the money. 

Thejoke15

Yes the equity is in the house

marcia_

Thejoke15 said:

Yes the equity is in the house

 So whats the issue in buying yourself a new home? 

swingaloo

marcia_ said:

Thejoke15 said:

I am not particularly bothered weather she paid or not . No she wants to stay in the house but I want my own house.

 You want your children uprooted from their family home at the sane time they are processing mummy & daddy living apart? 

marcia_ said:

Thejoke15 said:

I am not particularly bothered weather she paid or not . No she wants to stay in the house but I want my own house.

 You want your children uprooted from their family home at the sane time they are processing mummy & daddy living apart? 

Thats unfair. We dont know the situation behind the divorce not if the adults are handling it properly with the children.  Life will change for the children whatever and if both parents can afford a property each with room for the children then that is a good thing.  Mum staying in the home would be ideal but divorce means a change of lifestyle, it does not mean the mum should stay in clover while dad sofa surfs or lives in a bedsit with nowhere for the children to stay.