Shall I neg??

shelly

After reading this thread thru twice I have to say that it would annoy the hell outta me to keep getting e-mails asking for feedback.If she wanted feedback that badly she could have e-mailed her request more politely IMO.I would have e-mailed her to say that I do my feedback once a fortnight so please be patient.....or something to that effect.
I would leave a pos saying "sale went ok but bugged me for feedback...so here it is" Remember that if you neut or neg her she can reply to her original feedback she left you.....e.g you neg her and say she bugged you then she replies to her positive saying she didn't blah blah blah.....people will probably look at your feedback for her as sarky and it could damage your rep more than hers.At least by giving her a pos you are saying to others that you don't neg out of retaliation just because she bugged you.Even though its want you want to do....and I would too.....you have to come across as not being a neg giver just because someone bugs you.Don't get me wrong...I agree with you....but I also think you have to look as though she hasn't bothered you.Maybe you could e-mail her politely and say that even though she annoyed you constantly asking for feedback you have given her a pos so that you don't look like a bad e-bayer but you are very annoyed with her and would appreciate her not bidding on your further auctions and you won't be bidding on hers....whatever the case is here.

HTH


sry rambled a bit there......lol

s@sha

angelcake wrote:

So bloomin what if I have the time to come on here etc!!! What I say I make time for or not is up to me!

Very true, but everone is trying to help you here, and have told you what to say...so just looks bad to say you haven't had time to post her feedback, but you HAVE had time to trawl through her feedback looking for other people's comments.

It was supposed to be a light discussion! As what these boards are about! not an opportunity to get your sarky comments out

These boards are for asking for advice..that's what you get & sometimes it's not what you want to hear. Nobody is posting 'sarky comments' for the sake of it, but you are not doing yourself any favours by saying you don't have time to leave feedback when you do, ignoring everyone's advice & then throwing a tantrum because you don't like what a couple of people have said.

As, I have my own mind and what I put is entireley up to me!

Yes, it is...but you didn't know what to put, so you came here asking whether you should neg or not & people have told you. End of. If you aren't even going to consider taking the majority's advice & doing the right thing, why bother posting in the first place?

Why you trying to make me feel bad when I am not in the wrong???

Oh come on. nobody is trying to make you feel bad...but surely you can see from your own posts that you seem to be making a huge issue out of this now when it needn't be? People get frustrated 'cos you say you don't have time to leave feedback, but you DO have time to look trough the sellers feedback. You ask for advice, then ignore the sensible advice that people have given & say you're going to leave it. What does that achieve? You just get more emails & the seller still doesn't know that she's being a b****y nuisance?
And as for not being in the wrong...no you're not, but you certainly aren't helping the situation if you just 'leave it'. And if you leave her a neg, then you would be in the wrong cos, she doesn't deserve it.

I think that if someone pesters you all the time then I will ignore it! I hate that anyway with "bunny boiler" friends so I don't appreciate it with people I don't even know!!

Ignoring her is obviously only going to lead to more emails from her & more frustration for you. I honestly can't see why you seem so unwilling to do what everyone has said & leave positive feedback with either a coment about the emails, or send her an email yourself. End of!

And for the decent, nice people! Who come on here to chat or offer constructive advice!

Everyone on this thread has been decent & nice & has offered you constructive advice. You don't want to take it & you get narked when people point out that you're making more out of this than you need to. That's why you're coming across as childish. Sorry.

I had another 2 emails today! it is so rude! so I have decided she won't get her feedback! - its not as she desperately needs it!!

Emails which you wouldn't have had if you'd just done what everyone had suggested in the first place. And you wonder why people on here are starting to get a bit frustrated...?

Poppy9

bleugh wrote:

as a seller, i won't leave feedback till it's left for me

So what happens if a buyer takes the same attitude and won't leave feedback until its been left for them by the seller

Feedback is voluntary, its not there to be forced on people and distort its whole purpose. If you have good vibes about the buyer/seller leave quick positive feedback. If they bug you send them an email telling them so and just forget it and move on.

sp41700

I dont have that trouble becuase I use sm pro which I have set to automatically leave feedback. Saves soooooo much time