Friend threat.

sim2335

I spoke to my friend on phone, anyway few years back I promised to go (Indian festival) for week,with him, but cancelled because I went hoilday with my mum instead, as we both managed to get same dates off.

Anyway we haven’t spoken for ages since he moved city

Then he goes not just you but you and everyone that’s harrsed me I will punish them.

When I asked how and when he said I can’t say.

What should I do or say to him?, do you think he will actually do something?

He was like you can’t do soemthing get away with it, now you coming this year, you will be on 1 then come again next year, and i will consider removing the punishment.

Obvious thing to do is leave him, I will after October after going, otherisew I will still be on his punishment list.

He won’t tell me what he will do and how he said when he has means assumes when he becomes rich., I doubt he will.

sim2335

When I sent him lots of messages after to explained his warped view etc he replied this

I appreciate that you admitted your mistake and you have tried to make it up by coming Festivel. This is a huge step and it goes a long way to what you did previously. You don't need to worry about if/ when I come to festivel . If I come your safe so don't worry. Even if I don't come the fact that you said you will come made yourself free by taking time off work, is the same as us going as if I myself can't make it

sim2335

Should I ask police for advice?
he lives in diffent so wont need to meet him till October 
I told him what if you leave as friend, will you be on list he said no I’m not gona force anyone to be a friend but if you leave them when there in trouble then there on list.

i would leave him NOW, if it wasn’t for the festivel in October I promise to go to.

_Penny_Dreadful

sim2335 said:

I spoke to my friend on phone, anyway few years back I promised to go (Indian festival) for week,with him, but cancelled because I went hoilday with my mum instead, as we both managed to get same dates off.

Anyway we haven’t spoken for ages since he moved city

Then he goes not just you but you and everyone that’s harrsed me I will punish them.

When I asked how and when he said I can’t say.

What should I do or say to him?, do you think he will actually do something?

He was like you can’t do soemthing get away with it, now you coming this year, you will be on 1 then come again next year, and i will consider removing the punishment.

Obvious thing to do is leave him, I will after October after going, otherisew I will still be on his punishment list.

He won’t tell me what he will do and how he said when he has means assumes when he becomes rich., I doubt he will.

sim2335 said:

When I sent him lots of messages after to explained his warped view etc he replied this

I appreciate that you admitted your mistake and you have tried to make it up by coming Festivel. This is a huge step and it goes a long way to what you did previously. You don't need to worry about if/ when I come to festivel . If I come your safe so don't worry. Even if I don't come the fact that you said you will come made yourself free by taking time off work, is the same as us going as if I myself can't make it

sim2335 said:

Should I ask police for advice?
he lives in diffent so wont need to meet him till October 
I told him what if you leave as friend, will you be on list he said no I’m not gona force anyone to be a friend but if you leave them when there in trouble then there on list.

i would leave him NOW, if it wasn’t for the festivel in October I promise to go to.

This person is not your friend.  This person sounds like an unhinged !!!!!!.

Why on God's Green Earth would you agree to go to a festival in October with someone who is threatening to punish you?  Do not go to the festival, do not message this person, block them.  If after blocking them they continue to harass you or try to contract you keep a log and report them to the police for harassment.

I think you might need to learn about boundaries.

elsien

You might want to read the OP previous threads, presuming this is the  same “friend.”

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/6371930/covid-cancel-plans-with-friends/p1

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/6238105/friend-owes-me-thousands/p1

Same advice as the other times, block him, move on, Nothing that the OP hasn’t already been told many times before - he’s been having the same advice on here for several years now. 

He’s pressing your buttons, and you are letting him. He’s not going to do anything - it’s all talk. 

Pollycat

Advice as above (again).

Sea_Shell

Morning Sim.

As the others have said, you've been posting about this same "friend" issue for 3 years now, and you seem no further forward in your life.    

We can give you the same advice again and again and again, but what will you do differently this time?   

If you don't heed this advice, you'll still be in this position in another 3 years time.  

Don't waste another second of your life on this person.

sim2335

Let me just clarify this is a different friend none of friends I posted about before.

Im going if I don’t he will definitely do something I think. Im sure he wont do something when we go. 

If it wasn’t for that event I would block him now.

sim2335

Also I have block the other friend I use to post about. 

elsien

He’s not a friend. 

And even if this is a different person the underlying issues remain the same with regards to your lack of confidence and the relationships you form which does seem to be following a pattern. You are still giving into blackmail.

What on earth do you think he’s going to do? No, I don’t think he’s going to do anything but if he does, then you just call the police.

I’m out now, because I foresee this going in the same circles.

Sea_Shell

sim2335 said:

Let me just clarify this is a different friend none of friends I posted about before.

Im going if I don’t he will definitely do something I think. Im sure he wont do something when we go. 

If it wasn’t for that event I would block him now.

Well you certainly know how to pick them!!!       You keep being taken in by these people who seem determined to manipulate you, gaslight you, and generally make you miserable.

Where on earth do you find these people?  

Regardless of the fact that this is another "friend", the advice from all the other threads remains exactly the same.