“Perfect house…” BUT same street at PARENTS

RedfordML

It’s 8 doors down from your mum and dads house…

now, this is almost a deal breaker for me but the house is really, really nice that has come on…so much so, I am considering viewing…

I “get on” with my parents, but don’t go out with them and talk / text weekly….and they live in the same town BUT this might be too close? Will they start asking for jobs to be done? I don’t think they would “just start turning up” but they might start interfering more?  

It’s a major ? Mark but the house, is perfect and within our budget. 

Not sure what to do so thought I would ask others and if they have done something similar? Did / do your parents get too involved? Pros and cons? 

RHemmings

If you get on with your parents, you could discuss it with them. You might have to be careful not to accidentally offend them, depending on the relationship you have with them. Would you be comfortable with saying to them that you love seeing them but that living on the same street might be a bit close?

RedfordML

I don’t think we would say anything unless we were certain going ahead - I think they would be ok with it. 

lincroft1710

Many decades ago, work colleague got married and bought the house next door to his parents. Stayed there for many years

annetheman

That's pretty funny! My dad is 69 soon, and I am moving to East London, just across the river from him in SE - coincidence, because it is the only place I could afford in London (I've been in the countryside/shires for 7 years, nice but not my thing, prefer chaotic London).

Unfortunately my mother passed away in 2012, way too young, when I was 23. For this reason, I think as I get older, I am envious of people who still have their parents around, and would love to live down the road from them. I can see how them becoming "involved" more in your life might be a bit annoying, but it's healthy to set boundaries and know how to protect them. It's a mature way of being - I'm certainly better at it now I'm older.

I guess in short - I'd love it and I'm envious, and I do feel it's a case of the 'pros' becoming more obvious as you get older, but each to their own!

Millsandovis

This is completely subjective on how well YOU get on with YOUR parents surely? As someone who has lost both parents I’d love to live near mine but obviously if you had a bad upbringing then you won’t want to. It’s not like they’ll suddenly start doing something that all parents magically do if you moved in and people have experience of it. 

Jude57

RedfordML said:

I don’t think we would say anything unless we were certain going ahead - I think they would be ok with it. 

I'd be having the conversation early rather than presenting it as a done deal. As much as your parents love you, do they really WANT you living that close?

marcia_

 Used to be the done thing to rent or buy in the same street as close family. But this was when families were much closer supporting each other daily. I lived in thd same street as aunts. Cousins and just round the corner from my mum 

comeandgo

Do you have a partner?  What’s their take on living so close to the in-laws?  I used to stay a few yards away from my in laws, I hated it.  They treated it as an extension to their house.

bouicca21

I suspect OP’s parents might be just as worried about the potential problems of being too close.  They have their own lives to lead too.  Have the conversation!

RedfordML

Some really good factors and commmets on here, thankyou! 

If we like the house (in person - got a viewing tomw!) I think at that stage we speak to family. They might not be happy but reality is with our 3 children, they will get to see kids easier as they are mid 70s. They also know we wouldn’t be knocking on their door…we get on…but from a distance. Maybe it will be best kept that way…unless the house really blows us away.