Money Moral Dilemma: Should I have got my wife a second Christmas gift, as her first one was free?

jjay13

Seriously, Christmas shouldn't be about who spent what!  If you feel guilty, suggest a special night out (eg theatre, concert, dinner, whatever, on you, just because you love her. I would treasure that sort of a surprise far more than another present. We all have too much "stuff" anyway.

SevyB

The intention to buy her something nice was there. Too much money gets spent over Christmas. As long as she's happy. Now, if she thinks she should have got something else, you need to have a word. 

DAN56

Loyalty points aren't really free money as you had to spend to get them in the first place, so provided it's your card and not a joint one, then effectively you've 'earned' the reward money.
Presumably your wife was / is happy with the coat, so no need to buy her anything else.
If you're still feeling a bit uneasy about it, then maybe treat her to something like a surprise meal out or something similar, saying that you got some reward vouchers (without mentioning the link with her Christmas present).

primrose_penguin

You were going to buy her the coat without knowing you would get it free, I presume from the way you word your question you have not told her, I think you should have told her and I hope she would have been pleased you got a bargain especially if she really liked it. You could take her out for a nice meal as a surprise, as it is obviously bothering you or you would not have asked the question. My husband has recently been diagnosed with Alzheimer's, although I knew he had memory problems a while before. I bought him Christmas gifts, he didn't get me anything this year and I didn't expect it as it would not have dawned on him, there are more important things in life to worry about, plus the real meaning of Christmas sadly gets forgotten amid all the hype.

C_Cat

From the tone of your question, you told your wife her coat was free - that was your mistake!  You’d have hot away with it if you’d kept the secret to yourself.  Now she knows it was free, you should buy her a second gift, even if it’s a lovely meal out somewhere or a small token of some kind.  

Chris_Jay

I'm a little alarmed at the notion of the OP's wife being entitled to a second gift. To me, entitlement doesn't come into it. A gift to someone you love, or from someone who loves you, ought to be something wonderful just because of the emotional connection. If this couple base their gift buying on those expectations, I wonder if they've ever experienced going without due to having no money for anything other than essentials.
I'm not phrasing this very well, for which I apologise, but I hope my meaning is clear 😔

HELENTROY

If you have to ask this question then maybe you should think and discuss if you are both in the right relationship? 

Lizrobson

Why would you think you need to do this? The fact that you 'won' the coat is irrelevant...you went to the trouble of going to a shop and choosing a new coat for your wife...something most men would not do. I think she is a very lucky woman!

bikaga

Wow. "Should she feel entitled"?!? If this was for my partner, I'd be super happy that I got it for free and spend the money I had planned to get more stuff he'd like, and I'd be looking forward to seeing his face when he opens the presents and finds out about the lucky incident at the store.