Money Moral Dilemma: Should I have got my wife a second Christmas gift, as her first one was free?

shaz-deco

No, the only monetary concern is the upper limit you have available to spend - many have a mutual amount they can afford. That in mind getting something extra could have caused more angst for the other party that they didn't get you enough. I would look at it that you were given a bonus gift from the store, and unless your wife was with you, needn't have known. If she does know and you can afford it, why not use the bonus for a date night.

Bonnypitlad

Frankly my Dear…..

dianauni

I can only say what I would do, yes get her another really thoughtful gift, doesn’t have to be expensive. Even if she doesn’t know the coat was free she’ll find out sooner or later! Women do! I’m sure she won’t feel entitled to another gift but she will appreciate it. 

Lynne1hunt

For the last 4 years my husband and I have used John Lewis vouchers earned on our credit card, over the year to buy one or both of our Christmas presents. Does spending money on the present rather than wining it make it a more worthwhile and/or thoughtful present - I would say not.

tasty_snacks

If either of you are measuring your relationship in £££s, best save the money now for the inevitable upcoming divorce proceedings.

Kerri23gan

No is the answer, just consider it your lucky day. If she expects a 2nd present then I think a discussion is required. We trying to cut back aren't we?

Ed264

No. She will be aware it's an expensive coat - she would have discreetly checked that, trust me! The loyalty card is for you to benefit from saving money.

SStitanic

This really is a first world problem.

HotDog2020

Think of the loyalty bonus as money you can spend, you spent it on your wife, you could have spent it on yourself, but it just so happened to come about when buying the coat providing your wife doesn't need a change in size, where you could go with her, she needn't know. Was she happy with the gift? I am sure I would be after such a generous gift, I am a women and if my husband bought me a coat I would be most happy with the gift. You earnt those bonus points through spending money so technically it wasn't free, it just feels that way.

honestcove

I see your problem, but possibly not for the reason stated.
What happens if it needs to be taken back and your wife asks you for the receipt - your thriftiness will be exposed. Will she say: "oh you got it for free, what a clever little darling you are” or something less complementary or even the dreaded: silence.  At that point any supplementary presents made earlier to cover your tracks will also be exposed as deceit. There is nothing else for it - buy no extra presents, keep quiet,  🙏 all goes well, prepare to buy a bunch of 🌷 if Lady Luck leaves you.